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Wow, I am blown away by some of these

HalfTime2017 I also was accused of having an EA with OBS.

WH: “you and OBS have been talking too much, so now you’re having an A too! Two wrongs don’t make a right!”. Yep, we’ve been talking...uncovering all the lies that have been our lives for the last 2 months. Exchanging evidence, checking whereabouts, exposing more lies...that’s not an EA.

MOW to OBS: “you can’t talk to JSS! She’s too pretty!!”

Also MOW, in a text she sent to WH about a month into their PA, when she found out WH and I were still having sex at least 3 days a week (I guess she didn’t think to ask him before then?): MOW to WH: “I don’t share well!” Ummm...then maybe you shouldn’t be fucking someone else’s husband?

After D-Day 1: It wasn't what it looked like

After D-Day 2: I was trying to figure out if you were THE ONE

After False R: I never wanted to continue the A, she kept threatening to tell

“I had another affair because you wouldn’t stop nagging me about the first one. All you did was talk about that affair.”

“Yeah, I bought her gifts, but the things I bought you were much nicer.”

“She didn’t mean anything. We hardly spoke.”

JJS1227,

My WS's AP did the same thing! Would tell my WS about how pretty I was, at one time asked for a threesome, and then wanted my WS to stop having sex with me because she doesn't want to share. WTF. The hamster is clearly not turning the wheel with any of them. *Knock Knock* anyone in there??? A brain maybe? No? It doesn't seem so. Their brain has left the premises!

OH! I have another one!

WS: "But I didn't ever hold her hand! That's special between you and me."

Oh gosh, I guess my WS is really throwing me a bone.

[This message edited by maise at 6:14 PM, May 8th (Wednesday)]

My WW wrote in emails to her AP that she was glad to have finally decided to divorce me and tell someone (him), that she loved him with all her heart, that she couldn’t stop thinking about him, and that she missed their nightly chats when she got tied up with family stuff.

This was shortly after they fucked for five days and she came home.

Last night - LAST FUCKING NIGHT - she told me, “you were never Plan B.”

I replied, coldly, “correct. I was plan x. As in soon to be ex husband.”

My ex stalked me for decades begging me to see him.

1) I had zero interest in him. ZERO!

2)he was married. I never was interested in giving married men the time of day.

He then proceeded to tell me what a good husband he was and that he would not be able to look himself in the mirror if he was unfaithful.

I then reminded him that he’d just proposed a weekend away with me and wouldn’t that be cheating. He said that wouldn’t count as it would just be for old times sake. I disrespectfully declined.

After I retired I moved back home - he lives about 90 miles away. I have a zillion stories about his stalking and love repeating them to those who know him. Once I even told his wife directly. I don’t think she cares. She knows what he is. He does leave me alone now.

I never wanted to continue the A, she kept threatening to tell

crazyblindsided I got that too. I remember screaming at WH "Let me get this straight - you were f**king HER to protect ME?"

Right after dday.. #! Wh asked me if was I insecure? He couldn't understand why I was upset..... #2 that I should go have sex with someone else, if it would make me feel better?????

Im guessing, sex made him feel better...the complete answer to life...

He was so lost in the A...he didn't seem to realize we were married and this was a total breakdown of that love...he didn't see it at all...and he was crazy about AP...he considered choosing her...and pined for her for a couple of years. He really lost the definition of what is right and wrong...

[This message edited by cancuncrushed at 9:42 PM, May 8th (Wednesday)]

I also liked "I told her I was never leaving you"

"She was cool." Hello....are you 12? However, I am sure she was very "cool." She lived off her ex-husband's child support so no job and dumped her kids where ever, so had all day and all night to crawl the walls and give out free sex. I, on the other hand, was very uncool. I worked and was saddled with kids, you know, his kids.

From one AP. "I did not do anything to you or your family." Delusional much?

As always, these are my most favorite threads... Sad, but true.

My gems:

1) I'd feel like a slut had I gone to a hotel. UM you were slutty by virtue of having an affair.

2) It hurts that after all this time (22 months later) you still don't trust me. No words!

3) He wouldn't take no for an answer (so you were raped then?)

4) You were traveling so much (note: the affair started the very week I started traveling, HA HA HA)

5) Because he asked. (When questioned why she revealed details of our sex life and my overall health)

6) He wasn't in our bed (when inquiring about where in our house they had sex, like that makes it so much better)

I swear we could write a book on this, but only the BS would get the humor.

Chaos

I got a mild variation of that same thing.

"When he told me he loved me, I would reply with we both have families and children. I'm not leaving my husband, he's a good man."

Good enough to cheat on, but I won the lottery. Thanks honey for telling your AP you weren't leaving..

From stbx: AP didn't do anything to you so just leave him alone! It's harrasment!

Me: The hell he didn't! He just fucked my wife, no biggie. Tell him he can have the big prize!

Another gem:

"I just want you to know - there were never any gifts exchanged"

Wow. My cheater:

- But it wasn't the WHOLE time! (in regards to the length of the affair and the length of our marriage).

- But she'll be MAD at me! (when asked to stop seeing her)

- If she ever finds out! (in regards to me listening in on the call he made to tell her he couldn't see her anymore).

- No, X, you didn't do anything wrong. SHE just doesn't like it. (I'm the SHE).

- (to OW): My wife means a lot to me. (not everything, Not I love my wife)

- Uh huh. (in regards to me telling him I loved him and found out she was with him right then).

- That he was driving and couldn't answer my call (he was out with OW at the movies and dinner, but swore he was with some guys from work).

- I lied because I knew how it'd look!

-I only chose them in THOSE instances!

-But we had good times, right?

-I didn't picture her naked the way I did with other women.

- YOU have trust issues! When confronted with facts.

- But you'd LIKE her!

and for the win... (drumroll)

- I didn't know I was having an affair or doing anything wrong! ( and that, folks, is why he lied year after year).

[This message edited by OptionedOut at 3:55 PM, May 9th (Thursday)]

Wow. Some of these are a repeat on what I have heard others are just Darwin worthy. It's amazing how obliterated their line of thinking is.

Here's mine...

- I felt bad for her (OWxW) and kids (his kids).

- you keep invading my privacy (uh why is that?)

- I told OW that if it wasn't for you, none of this would be possible.

- she didn't even give a good blowjob ( different OW )

- I have no privacy ( see above )

They say laughter is the best medicine. I needed to read these. I don’t laugh much anymore. Unbelievable the things they say

Everything my ex said was hurtful and deplorable, so I'm going to have to reach back to when I was 19 dating this girl I worked with for a humorous statement made by a cheater. She was cheating on me with her recent ex, but it worked out in the end because I came to learn that she was dumber than a bag of rocks--not even trying to be mean, she constantly said things which truly baffled me.

I was driving with her in the car and playing some mix CD I made and "Just a Friend" by Biz Markie comes on. She gets quiet. Thinking face. Then she says something to the effect of, "Did you play this song because of us?" Cut to dumb oblivious me not understanding what she was asking. She followed it up with something like, "Is this song how you feel about us?" Cut back to me probably with a vacant grin with "...huh?" written on my face. She dropped it and then of course a few weeks later, I came to find out that she was still banging the ex.

Too bad some of our spouses weren't as bad at lying and covering up stuff as she was.

When I asked WH if the EA progressed to a PA, he refused to answer and asked what I meant. I asked him did any part of your body touch any part of her body? Did you have sex? He thought about it and refused to answer again.

The next day, he gave me this gem of an answer - "the answer is no, but I have to say yes". In what world is sex a "no" to my question????

"You wanted a son so bad I didn't think it would matter if you were not the father."

I still have concern for her son but am glad that he is being raised in a stable environment provided by his grandparents, aunts and uncles on the father's side.