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I’d ask him where he’s taking you with that check and go to the bank with him.

Financial infidelity is real. I'd make an off-hand remark about a conversation you overheard about a husband keeping back his bonuses and hiding income from his wife. How horrible it is that he'd do that to her, essentially having her live a less secure and lower standard of living while he snuck out to spend his bonus on affairs and fun stuff renting big-guy toys on his work trip (push as many of his personal hot buttons that he likes to spend money on).

Then ask what he thinks of such a man.

He’s already cashed the check I’m sure, like I said his wallet never leaves his side.

Got pictures of it. Wish I would of taken it.

99lawdog99 we own the company with two others.

If I called up and asked the gal who cuts the checks I’m sure she would tell him I called and asked. He is second in ownership.

Countingsheep65

He gets a check each month? Next month you TAKE that damn check. Whether the wallet is attached to him or not that asshole has to sleep at some point. That's when you grab it.

[This message edited by MalibuBayBreeze at 4:50 PM, August 14th (Wednesday)]

I would deposit that check into a joint account and go wild at Sephora. (Or whatever your thing is, for me it's makeup!)

I'm applauding AmIAnIdiot15 Sephora idea I'd also update my sexy undies collection to coordinate with my new make up.

BUT Countingsheep65 if you say "we" own the company - I'd be calling and asking where my monthly thousand dollar check is OR at least have the one split to $500 in each name and letting them know he's been holding out on you. Better yet - ask for your retroactive

Making the copies is very very important....don't tell him...he will continue to lie and hide and make it harder...

He owes you half....it will be given to you...consider this your ticket out....consider this your savings by surprise....

My mother passed, during the worst of our marriage...the serial cheating, lying, punishment...I was near a breakdown...she left me a little bit of money....it changed my mindset...now I could leave...anytime...now I had choices...now I had some power...this couldn't be controlled by WH...I had a say...finally....

Just knowing you have access changes everything....and proving he is dishonest to everyone makes you stronger.

So now you know hes hiding this one check....why do you think this is the only thing? his dishonestly probably spreads in many areas...

I heard yesterday, if he cheats, steals, hides, lies in one area.....he will do it in all areas... be on guard....start looking...

This made me think.....XWH cheated...lied...he stole from work...he hid our money, lied about our money.... he spent most of everyday, finding ways, to pay less for everything...honest or otherwise...it was across the board...

[This message edited by cancuncrushed at 10:03 AM, August 15th (Thursday)]

Any of the financials record can be subpoenaed during a divorce case. You should be able to check the past tax returns and see how much income he has hidden.

Forensic. Accountant. (when the time comes)

I agree with MBB. Next month take the check and send him scrambling. Don’t cash it or deposit it anywhere because the bank can trace it. If you are an owner yourself this is also business fraud. Get into the office and look at those books.