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welcome14 ( member #26741) posted at 8:14 PM on Thursday, November 28th, 2019
So very sorry for your loss, I wish I had the wisdom and magic words to take some of your pain from you, but all I have are my prayers for you and your son.
Bs- me
Someone I used to know- Him
Nothing like a trail of blood to find your way back home- nikki sixx
I will love the light for it shows me the way, yet I will endure the darkness for it shows me the stars.
Glashalffull ( member #69085) posted at 1:13 AM on Friday, November 29th, 2019
I am so very sorry for your devastating loss. I am also sorry that I have no other words of comfort....Hugh’s.
BraveSirRobin ( member #69242) posted at 4:21 AM on Saturday, November 30th, 2019
Thinking of you today, Triple.
Myname ( member #23138) posted at 7:29 AM on Saturday, November 30th, 2019
I can't imagine. I'm so sorry. 
DD: 1-14-09 EA/PA OM #1
TT: 5-11&12-09
DD#2: 5-18-09 EA OM #2
5-31-09: Told me she hasn't loved me.
No kids
Me BH: 45
12-08-10: S
Divorced and moved on with my life.
Hope2B ( member #40474) posted at 9:21 AM on Saturday, November 30th, 2019
I am so very sorry to read this! My condolences go out to you and your family.
DDay: Feb. 25, 2013Trickle Truth/DDays: Sept 10, 11, 13, 15 (2013)
ZenMumWalking ( member #25341) posted at 10:17 PM on Saturday, November 30th, 2019
Oh no ((((Triple))))
I'm so so very sorry for this devastating loss, my deepest condolences to you.
Please lean on others in this difficult time and let them be there for you.
((((Tripletrouble))))
Me (BS), Him (WH): late-50's
3 DS: 26, 25, 22
M: 30+ (19 1/2 at Dday)
Dday: Dec 2008
Wanted R, not gonna happen (in permanent S)
Used to be DeadMumWalking, doing better now
cass ( member #24261) posted at 8:47 PM on Friday, December 6th, 2019
I cannot imagine the depth of your pain. I'm so very sorry for the loss of your child. Deepest condolences to you and yours. Wrapping you in love.
DDay - April 2008
Me - 58 and doing great, alone.
Don't put the key to your happiness in someone else's pocket!
BraveSirRobin ( member #69242) posted at 3:39 AM on Friday, January 10th, 2020
Hi Triple. Just checking in to see how you survived the holidays. I imagine it's a relief to be through them, but also isolating as everyone gets back to "normal" when nothing is normal for you.
Thinking of you and your son.
dreamlife ( member #8142) posted at 9:21 PM on Monday, January 13th, 2020
I am so very sorry.
Sending you huge hugs. 
~XWH told me what I wanted to hear but he always did whatever he wanted to do~
"He called me a bitch.
I called him an ambulance."
Linda H.)
Tallgirl ( member #64088) posted at 1:11 AM on Friday, January 17th, 2020
I am truly sorry for your loss.
I hope my prayer helps bring you a little peace.
Edie ( member #26133) posted at 12:34 PM on Sunday, January 19th, 2020
I am so sorry. You did such a good job of keeping him alive, and he survived this long thanks to you.
A big hug, we’re thinking of you. Xx
Tripletrouble (original poster member #39169) posted at 9:56 PM on Friday, January 24th, 2020
Thank you all for kind words.
The holidays were awful. Christmas Day was terrible as expected, New Years was also terrible but that I didn’t see coming as much. A new year, a new decade in which he will never live. I still have to wake up each day and remember, and remember several times a day after getting momentarily distracted. It is much like those early days after d day, when it consumes all your mental capacity.
The love and support I have received has been helpful. I truly have been made to feel loved in a way most of us rarely experience in every day life.
Friends, if you are a parent, especially of adult children let me give you the most important piece of advice. Have a conversation with them about how much you love them. Tell them all the reasons they have made you proud, how they have made your life better. Apologize for past hurts. Ask forgiveness and give it in return. I have had many interactions with other bereaved parents and rarely did they see their child’s death coming, and are left bereft at the things left unsaid.
40 somethings - me BW after 20 years
D Day April 2013
Divorced November 2013
Happily remarried 2018
Time is a great healer but a terrible beautician.
deena04 ( member #41741) posted at 5:54 PM on Saturday, January 25th, 2020
Hugs and prayers to you. I’m so sorry. You are in my thoughts.
Me FBS 40s, Him XWS older than me (lovemywife4ever), D, He cheated before M, forgot to tell me. I’m free and loving life.
ZenMumWalking ( member #25341) posted at 8:04 PM on Saturday, January 25th, 2020
((((triple))))
I am so sorry for your continuing pain and grief. It is very kind of you to share your advice about letting your children know how you feel about them. I am sure that your precious DS knew that you loved him, and I hope that you know that he loved you too.
Whatever pain is inside our children, unfortunately we cannot take away - no matter how much we want to. If only we would have said this, if only we had done that..... and yet they are their own person making their own choices.
Please take care of yourself and don't beat yourself up for anything (I know, easier said than done). And let us here know what we can do for you, because we care about you and your family. Let us help you through this tragedy.
((((tripletrouble & family))))
Me (BS), Him (WH): late-50's
3 DS: 26, 25, 22
M: 30+ (19 1/2 at Dday)
Dday: Dec 2008
Wanted R, not gonna happen (in permanent S)
Used to be DeadMumWalking, doing better now
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