SurvivingInfidelity.com^®

Love it

I would be very careful with the blog. You don’t want the X to use it against you in a custody or visitation lawsuit.

Do you think he could as I have not gone in to much detail and I didn’t mention we were going through court other than to reply to her comments

I kept Childrens names and theirs off of the blog and I hoped kept it about myself rather than them

I’m a little worried if he could use it against me which is why I kept it limited with information about him and more about me coping

What a silly bitch she is. I haven't logged on for ages but couldn't resist so I could see the link and comment.

Lucy - I’m just giving you a heads up about your blog potentially being used against you. Just be careful about what you post. The OW knows about it too.

Example: You write (innocently) about a crazy day you had trying to get three kids fed and dressed for school. It’s humorous and something all parents understand in the grand scheme of life. The X uses it against you to show how “overwhelmed you are” and how you are struggling as a parent and how he “is the better parent “.

Just an example of how things taken out of context can backfire. You have no right to privacy with your blog. And since he knows about it (via Mel/OW) you need to be careful.

Just a heads up to you - not trying to scare you.

Yeah no your right and it will be I will make sure it’s all based on me and not them and the funny stories are nothing that can be used against me

So far in your opinion do you think it’s ok as I’m nothing they can really say as it’s about positive parenting

How would one find your blog?

I would like to read it.

It’s in my profile the link I believe as no links allowed to be put up on here

I hate to say it, but I'm

concerned she will find you on here. Many who commented,used their usernames from SI. Any idiot can Google those usernames together, and find you here.

Oh I do hope not she had invaded enough on my blog alone I would like to think she is not as bad as that but with her morals I wouldn’t be surprised x

Lucyjr, I am very curious, how could she possibly have ever, ever found that blog or even known to look for it? What is going on that OW has any access to any info about you? Did you post the link on social media and she follows you? It is my personal belief that an OW can have none, zero of your personal thoughts if you are writing non-fiction of any kind. You are taking a healthy thing like blogging about life and turning it into ammo for her attacks. I am so very worried for you. Your mental health cannot handle this.

Start a new blog. Keep it anonymous. Share the link with no one.

[This message edited by OwningItNow at 2:42 PM, November 29th (Friday)]

I would like to think she is not as bad as that

Lucy, how are you hoping that ^^^ when she was quite nasty and out for blood in her post on your blog? I feel as if you have an unwillingness to see things as they are, and that can be a coping that comes from FOO issues. A professional is needed to help you accept that people can be quite dangerous. I think this OW and your ex seem dangerously narcissistic and willing to hurt you through your children for their own pathological needs. I am worried. Please get your blog off public view and start a private site. And change your screen name here. Protect yourself from this dreadful guy (and his garbage OW) who has done nothing but hurt you.

It was on my Facebook page but no she is not on mine so I am unsure how she found it

However the blog is nothing about her the only fact written about her or him was the one line that he left me and that was all

I am not going to let her stop me blogging I enjoy it and it was actually good for me to set the background up so my adventures can begin i have no intention of mentioning them again as they are not in my new start I have kept it as private as I know how as I only put it on my personal Facebook which is private and my instagram which again is private

I never started this for a battle it was about me and my children and that’s how I want it to stay a blog about our happiness

[This message edited by Lucyjr at 3:01 PM, November 29th (Friday)]

I get it, I do. But you are in court with them, she is mean and jealous, and there is no doubt she'll use any foible or error or comment or story against you in any way she can. They will twist things to mean other things. You are not understanding that you cannot control her with a positive attitude; if she wasn't mean, she wouldn't have responded to your blog. I wish you well.

Yes it’s a sad world isn’t it

There was a story a couple of years ago where a woman joked about selling her kid, and somebody called CPS on her and she had to prove she was not actually trying to sell her child. So yeah, unfortunately you need to be careful because it sounds like the OW has issues.

If what was written in the comments of your blog is true - I would be careful.

Someone posted about the custody issues and the X wanting custody and your older child doesn’t want to see him and the middle child doesn’t either.

If the X wants to “win at all cost” he will use whatever means necessary to spin things in his favor. If he cannot respect the fact AND understand WHY you didn’t want him in the delivery room, then you are dealing with a selfish unaware person who only sees what HE wants. Not what is best for his children.

Please be cautious.

True that’s why I didn’t go in to any details of any kind of how when or even mention court it was her who put it in her reply so I will just monitor all comments and like I always planned not mention anything about them what’s ever

Im sure after reading the comments she may not be so keen to read them again but as you guys say she definitely has issues and let’s hope that’s enough to give her a shitty life

[This message edited by Lucyjr at 1:57 AM, November 30th (Saturday)]

I like your blog. Like others said, please be careful what you say because your ex has shown he has no problem stooping to the lowest levels.

I’m so happy for you that you and your boys are living a great life. It is also satisfying seeing that pathetic Mel stalking your blog. Reality must be setting in their fantasy relationship. By now, she must see what type of man she married. If she was that happy then she would be living her life instead of watching yours. Either way, I’m so happy for you and your boys. Way to go Mama!!!

Absolutely and I always planned to be careful but this has just made me realise just to keep remembering they are watching me

This was just a way for me to share my experience on what you an overcome and to show others just how no matter what you think and feel you have to fight for the sake of yourself but also my boys who are always watching

This blog is going to be a little memory book for me to look back on and if she feels the need to check in she won’t find anything that she can use against me