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The1stWife ( Guide #58832) posted at 6:18 PM on Tuesday, November 26th, 2019
The new wife’s comments on your blog are indicative of her intelligence lol.
You kept the cheater out of the delivery room - why she commented on that makes no sense. He’s supposed to be your support team after he just left you????? She’s kidding right? Maybe she is THAT stupid.
She stated you have been in court dragging everyone through the drama. Let me guess. He wants what he wants but is not being the dad or father in all respects. Maybe no financial support for his children or his behavior doesn’t allow you to be comfortable with him having the children. Whatever it is if it’s a legal issue then the “new wife” doesn’t see reality and believes his lies and half-truths.
And if the court still doesn’t allow him to see his children - well the handwriting is on the wall there. That is not YOU deciding visitation - it’s the courts.
Again she’s unfairly painting you as the “cause of the drama”.
She’s apparently not well informed. Or believes his lies or versions of the events. 
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WhoTheBleep ( member #49504) posted at 6:40 PM on Tuesday, November 26th, 2019
Or believes his lies or versions of the events
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This. Of course he is the victim, and Lucy is the evil witch ex. She has to be, otherwise Skittle unicorn fart land blows to smithereens. We can't have that now can we?
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humantrampoline ( member #61458) posted at 6:58 PM on Tuesday, November 26th, 2019
Wow! She stalked your personal blog and thought it appropriate to comment. That's top level crazy.
I did enjoy reading the comments all your friends left for her though.
Lucyjr (original poster member #59553) posted at 8:38 PM on Tuesday, November 26th, 2019
Yes my personal blog I didn’t name her or him so not sure why she felt it necessary to comment and as you all said there would never have been a chance I would let him be there for my c section after what he did so how that’s her only argument is astonishing
nekonamida ( member #42956) posted at 9:29 PM on Tuesday, November 26th, 2019
She really encompasses all of the bad 4 letter words and the 5 letter ones too. Who the fuck does she think she is?
Your story is beautiful and strong. It's a true testament to your strength in overcoming adversity. Never forget that.
bookworm19 ( member #54871) posted at 9:30 PM on Tuesday, November 26th, 2019
I read your blog and admire your strength. You are an amazing woman. I have no children and I really can't even imagine how organized you have to be.
A man who leaves a pregnant wife is in my eyes special kind of evil. And that thing that commented… no word. Special kind of stoooopid at least…
Just wanted to add you are gorgeous!
[This message edited by bookworm19 at 3:41 PM, November 26th (Tuesday)]
English is not my language, sorry for mistakes and funny words...
hansvoleman ( member #55284) posted at 11:02 PM on Tuesday, November 26th, 2019
Lucie, just added my tuppennyworth to your blog. I remember your story as one of the ones that shocked me more. I am so pleased you are turning things around.
When you cheat the first person you betray is yourself.
Datura ( member #55678) posted at 11:08 PM on Tuesday, November 26th, 2019
She's delusional. Her comment makes her look ridiculous. She also has the same name as our OW. What are the chances 
How is it a beautiful story? The only beautiful bit is you moving on without him. Power to you Lucy!! Stay strong! You sound like a great mother and you have many great things ahead!!!
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sassylee ( member #45766) posted at 11:24 PM on Tuesday, November 26th, 2019
Lucy - how did she find your blog? Do you have it linked to your social media?
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In my 7th year of R
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ArkLaMiss ( member #14918) posted at 3:09 AM on Wednesday, November 27th, 2019
Lucy, I also posted. It's obvious she's jealous of you! Her prize is a giant TURD! You, however, are a rockstar. Obviously,she is next level crazy. I guess she doesn't trust him! I wonder WHY!
[This message edited by ArkLaMiss at 9:11 PM, November 26th (Tuesday)]
Just HOW stupid do you think I am, exactly?
Lucyjr (original poster member #59553) posted at 6:35 AM on Wednesday, November 27th, 2019
I put the link on my social media to my blog and it was also on my twitter so I guess she researched it for her to find it she must of been looking as I don’t think you can accidentally find it
Also I choose not to name either of them or really go in to much details so not sure why she is so bothered
Lucyjr (original poster member #59553) posted at 10:53 AM on Wednesday, November 27th, 2019
Wow I just read through all your comments so very true what you guys wrote thanks for all the support it really helps when you let people like that affect you
cocoplus5nuts ( member #45796) posted at 12:15 PM on Wednesday, November 27th, 2019
I agree with 1stWife on the c-section thing. Not only were you having a baby, the most vulnerable state a woman can be in, but major surgery at that. There is no way you were obligated to let that men in the room with you after what he did. He abandoned you while you were pregnant and then had the audacity to expect to be with you when baby was born?! In what universe would that ever be ok?
You are a strong, amazing, beautiful woman and mother! Your children are so lucky to have you. Live your wonderful life without that scum. Love your children. All is well.
Me(BW): 1970
WH(caveman): 1970
Married June, 2000
DDay#1 June 8, 2014 EA
DDay#2 12/05/14 confessed to sex before polygraph
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Lalagirl ( member #14576) posted at 12:17 PM on Wednesday, November 27th, 2019
I did enjoy reading the comments all your friends left for her though.
OMG, me too! Karma already smacked her upside the head!
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Lucyjr (original poster member #59553) posted at 6:49 AM on Thursday, November 28th, 2019
I would not have let him in the room as I was so worried about not bonding with my new baby from all the stress which is why I needed to do it alone!
I’m not sure why she even has an opinion as it was me having the baby
I would like to think all you guys are right and she is very insecure it’s the least she should have to deal with still nothing compared to what all this did to myself and my babies
Lucyjr (original poster member #59553) posted at 6:49 AM on Thursday, November 28th, 2019
I would not have let him in the room as I was so worried about not bonding with my new baby from all the stress which is why I needed to do it alone!
I’m not sure why she even has an opinion as it was me having the baby
I would like to think all you guys are right and she is very insecure it’s the least she should have to deal with still nothing compared to what all this did to myself and my babies
Anyway today is my birthday so no thoughts of them today it’s the first year since him leaving i am going to celebrate
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cocoplus5nuts ( member #45796) posted at 1:10 PM on Thursday, November 28th, 2019
Her comment makes her look ridiculous.
This ^^^^. I would leave her comment up for this reason. Let the world she just how fucked up she (and he) is.
She is insecure. Believe it! If she were secure, she wouldn't care one lick about you. Actually, if she were secure, she wouldn't have helped your Ex cheat in the first place. She would knock him down, and hold you up.
Me(BW): 1970
WH(caveman): 1970
Married June, 2000
DDay#1 June 8, 2014 EA
DDay#2 12/05/14 confessed to sex before polygraph
Status: just living my life
Chrysalis123 ( member #27148) posted at 1:43 PM on Thursday, November 28th, 2019
This ^^^^. I would leave her comment up for this reason. Let the world she just how fucked up she (and he) is
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Leave her comment up because it shows her in all complete fucked up glory and deleting her post lets her know it bothered you.
Let her deal with your SI crew.
Someone I once loved gave me/ a box full of darkness/ It took me years to understand/ That this, too, was a gift. - Mary Oliver
Just for the record darling, not all positive changes feel positive in the beginning -S C Lourie
Lucyjr (original poster member #59553) posted at 1:46 PM on Thursday, November 28th, 2019
Exactly all you guys have been so lovely and I’m not going to lie reading your comments have really helped so a massive thank you each and everyone of you it is so kind of you all
GoldenR ( member #54778) posted at 2:42 PM on Thursday, November 28th, 2019
I commented!
Shouldn't be hard to figure out which one was me. 
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