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Allie, it just seems to keep getting worse. I wish I was there to listen and cry with you! I flash back to 3 months ago when you mentioned crying and vomiting. I sat in the bath tub and prayed for the nausea to go away. The physical toll is almost as bad as the emotional and psychological....I’ve lost 25 pounds since August and it’s not because of Shaun T! I just can’t eat.....my muscles are always tense. I know you’re feeling 10 times worse than this. I will be thinking of you and your kids tonight. And you’ve probably got finals coming up!!!!

He admitted to looking at pics of tween boys and girls. 

Child porn? You should consult with a lawyer ASAP and find out how to best handle reporting this to the police. Is the laptop yours? Could he deny the pictures are his and blame one of your (his?) teens? Lawyer, ASAP!

I agree with ibonnie. Do you have the laptop? If so, take it to the police station right now. Any degenerate who watches child porn should be in jail. I fume when I think of all those kids who are being manipulated and will have problems for the rest of their lives as a result. This goes beyond cheating; this is criminal. (On an aside, I think cheating should be a criminal offense as well.) If you don't have access to the laptop, report it anyway. Law enforcement probably has the ability to retrieve what's on it.

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((((Allie))))

My god; now you must protect your children as well as yourself. Definitely speak to an attorney and please tell your family what's going on - you need IRL support and as much as possible.

Allie, your WH forced sex on you after you were brutally assaulted in your own home. There's no redemption for that henious act alone...coupled with the fact that he is likely a pedophile.

I am so glad you are taking the steps to get you and the kids away from this man.

Going by your screen name, if the "84" is for the year you were born...my god, I have a DD who is your age. Call your mom...she'll be there for you. Please don't be ashamed...you have been deeply traumatized but you're going to be okay. You've already taken a huge step!

Hugs,

Lala

Allie,

I am so sorry you’re experiencing this right now. I have no true words of advice at this time but am glad that others have provided you with good feedback on your thread. He should be reported for his beyond gross actions. I am so so sorry this is happening. I hope you and your children find safety. Sending you so much strength and energy. Be kind to yourself.

He admitted to looking at pics of tween boys and girls.

Police. Lawyer. ASAP.

Do NOT give warning you are doing all of this.

Allie, please go to the police and tell them what you saw. That is disgusting and who knows where those pictures came from. It's possible they are from kids he knows or has groomed to send him pictures over the internet. He needs to be investigated for this.

Please go to great lengths to protect yourself & your teens,

I'm extremely concerned for your well being & safety as now you know his 'SECRET' you are extremely vulnerable, who knows what he will do to protect his 'secret',

He's obviously educated, selfish, an Abuser, & a proven Liar, put together thats a recipe for disaster.

He also sounds very unpredictable atm.

Call friends & family for them to help support you, you all need to be surrounded with people that care & love you.

Allie please check in when you can just to let us know you are safe.

sending hugs & strength to you.

Thank you everyone. I’m still at the doctors. Kids are at school. I’m standing.

I brushed my teeth this morning.

I’m still shaking.

I’ll update when I can. Idk what to do, the county crisis line is giving me guidance. Trying to find resources too to move next week.

Thank you everyone. I’m still at the doctors. Kids are at school. I’m standing.

I brushed my teeth this morning.

I’m still shaking.

I’ll update when I can. Idk what to do, the county crisis line is giving me guidance. Trying to find resources too to move next week.

Unfortunately my mother passed away two years ago. The SOB didn’t even offer to come to her funeral with me. I’m part relieved I am cutting all ties but shell shocked due to the whirl wind at the moment.

I'm so sorry for the loss of your mother ((((Allie))))

Please update us when you can - we are here for you.

Yes, we are. We are here for you in any way that we can be. So sorry for the loss of your mother. ((Hugs & strength))

So sorry for your loss Allie, I know loosing my mum 12 yrs ago & ever since has been heartbreaking, my deapest condolences 😢

Post when you can, we’re here for you.

((((((Hugs))))))

Thinking of you today, Allie. Please know you have support here if you want it - even if you just want to vent.

(((((HUGS)))))