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Talk to your attorney and find out if you can file for soul custody and supervised visits w/ her since she seems to be constantly in an altered state unable to care for your son safely. If you haven't asked about getting recordings of this behavior do so. You need proof that you are the good guy.

I know we told you she was dangerous, and you didn't listen. Are you ready to listen now? I hope so. She is going to not go quietly obviously after your jail experience you should be able to see that. If your attorney isn't being active and aggressive then you may want to consider finding another. Once that is shark and will deal w/ this level of crazy w/ a take no prisoners attitude.

. I end up being dragged out of my house by 5 police in front of my son and put it isolation for 4 days with no phone call. She called the police two days later and said I never hurt either of them. But still being charged with a felony, child abuse, harassment, DV ect. Luckily CPS is on my side and I have him and have been working in custody.

Sweet Jesus. That's sobering (pardon the bad reference). Never meet with her again without a third party witness or at least in a public area with a VAR running at all times. You need to save your own ass now. From now on, she's an adversary. She has a terrible disease, and that's very sad, but somebody has to be there for that child. Go after her full bore. Have here evaluated and get full custody, or some day your child will end up dead under her non-supervision. It's very sad to see the dissolution of a human being, but this is so much worse than the adultery thing now.. It's literally life or death for your son. Never, ever lose focus.

Its like everyone on here knew what was probably coming, and yet, OP just wasn't ready to "hear it yet", and the slow train comes in for the crash. Classic example of why the collective wisdom here on this board shouldn't be challenged.

Take care OP. The cards have now been stacked against you even more. More legal requirements, more legal cost, and more headaches. This time around, I hope for the sake of the kids, you are able to get them away from her. An alcoholic parent should be reported to CPS.

So to elaborate. I have my son and do not plan to return him until we have a custody agreement which is in the works. Because of the nature of the charges I have an automatic protection order placed against me and I can only communicate with her through a third party. Yes I did get plenty of recordings and evidence. That is why CPS is siding with me. I got screwed but I did protect myself.

[This message edited by TAY202020 at 1:54 PM, July 17th (Friday)]

And you are probably all wondering... why didn’t the police care? Good question. Myself and attorneys are wondering the same.

Because you are male.

And you are probably all wondering... why didn’t the police care? Good question. Myself and attorneys are wondering the same.

Story time, wheeee! Before the unfortunate Mrs. Nothing came into my life there was CrazyChick2. Yes, I have a bad picking syndrome. We lived together and I dealt with a lot of abuse from her, physically and mentally. Turned out she had undiagnosed Schizophrenia she was taking medication for and hiding it from me. Whenever she would go off medication, she'd do something twisted or violent. Including accusing people of criminal activity. She always, ALWAYS thought I was cheating on her. I wasn't, but I got tired of the drama, so one night I gently tried to tell her I had had enough, I was moving out and we needed to either sell the condo or she could buy me out. She didn't want to hear that, I guess, because she savagely attacked me and managed to stab me in the head and upper arm. Even disordered and bleeding like a stuck pig, I disarmed her and called 911, basically sitting on her until the police arrived. EVEN WITH BLOOD STREAMING FROM my head (head wounds bleed a lot, it's very disconcerting) she was saying that I had attacked her and she wanted to press charges! Take him away! For about 2 ugly minutes, it looked like they were going to do exactly that. Then I convinced them. Hey, I made the call, I am the one that is stabbed and in need of medical attention, I am the one in danger here. And fortunately, one of the cops remembered her name... and associated it with some bogus police report she filed on her ex for child abuse. He instantly went from "Take HIM away" to "Do YOU want to press charges?" Thank God he was there, or I'd have a police record now-- for getting stabbed by a murderous loon with rejection issues.

So, yeah, I can totally, completely empathize with Tay on this one. She f*cked you, and not in the good way. BE VERY CAREFUL. She's a bomb waiting to go off now.

Transfer of the children should be in a public place from now on like at a McDonald's or a Walmart. Have a VAR on at all times. If she shows up drunk to that call 911 as she drives away.

All I can add is take care of number one, your child. Supervised visits as she is a high functioning alcoholic, with mental heath issues.

VAR at all times, she needs to pay child support right now. MIL and FIL also only get supervised visits. They are enabling their daughter to be like them.

One day at a time

Buffer

Transfer of the children should be in a public place from now on like at a McDonald's or a Walmart. Have a VAR on at all times. If she shows up drunk to that call 911 as she drives away.

This.

Make sure your attorney can handle this type of case. This has to be your number one priority. You need to get it expunged from your record, not just dismissed.

In some states what she did is illegal and she can go to just.

Oops, wrong thread.

[This message edited by OrdinaryDude at 11:03 PM, July 17th (Friday)]

Wow, that roller coaster went off the tracks in a hurry. As stated by Rambler, make sure your lawyer is on point because your record will follow you forever if it isn't completely removed.

Your wife is nuts. Bipolar? A poly will not mean anything because they can pass it no matter what. Depending on there personally at the time of the testing

Why would she not want you. She does what she wants whit who she wants to. And you are there picking up the pieces

Drinking, drugs, sex all ok with you. I am so sorry for you, you know this is not going to work unless you are bipolar too

Just checking in on you. How are you doing?

I had criminal court the other day. They are going to drop the serious offenses and said they expect it to wrap up next month so I think I am good there. Myself and his mother spoke through CPS worker today who will supervise visits with her until she proves she is actually taking random UAs at which time I have agreed to unsupervised overnights until our custody hearing. She has been maintaining she is in rehab and sober although I know for a fact she is drinking daily. So looking good now aside from being exhausted from watching a toddler 24/7 by myself forever lol. Worth it. She is trying to avoid it going to court because I have so much evidence and the CPS worker thinks she may really have hit rock bottom and it has been a wake up call. We’ll see.

She is trying to avoid it going to court because I have so much evidence and the CPS worker thinks she may really have hit rock bottom and it has been a wake up call. We’ll see.

Ugh, it's terrible that you're dealing with this. Daily drinking and lying about sobriety and rehab IS NOT rock bottom behavior. It's continued addict behavior which means she's got further to fall unfortunately. At least your DS is being kept out of it as best as possible with the supervised sober visits.

They should be checking her blood for ethanol (it's an alcohol level blood test) - alcohol can be detected for three days via this test.

Is she still working with the POS? I think you said he is her supervisor. Any benefit to you in reporting him to HR? Or do you not care anymore. Perhaps now you don’t want her to possibly lose her job in case she needs to pay child support.

I’m sorry this has turned out this way. You deserve to be with someone who has your best interests at heart. She is not and can not be that person.

He is friends with the owners and they both work directly under them now after he promoted her. They frequently drink with one of the owners. I believe that are basically living together now and just got a puppy together after she gave me her dog.