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carriemcsky (original poster member #48473) posted at 8:00 PM on Wednesday, October 21st, 2020
Take that extra few minutes to give a hug. Tell them what good boys/girls they are.
I can't hug my dog today. I did hug him yesterday, and I didn't want to let go. I hugged him before the vet tech came to give him a sedative. I hugged him while she injected it. I was still hugging him when the vet came in to give the last injection.
And even after he was gone, I still hugged him. After the vet left the room, saying to take all the time that we needed, I still hugged him.
I've been through this pain so many times. So many good animals have been in my life, and the pain certainly doesn't get any easier the older I get.
I don't post much anymore, but I know SI knows all about emotional pain. So thanks for listening to my current pain.
Please hug your dog for me today.
Me: BW, 51 (on DDay)
Him: WH, 55 (on DDay)
DDay: June 2015
DDay2: July 7,2015 Found out he was still in contact with OW.
Status: Trying to R
sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 8:07 PM on Wednesday, October 21st, 2020
fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex apDDay - 12/22/2010Recover'd and R'edYou don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.
crazyblindsided ( member #35215) posted at 8:13 PM on Wednesday, October 21st, 2020
I'm so sorry for your loss. I miss my dog who is at the Rainbow Bridge. I miss all my animals it is so bittersweet. I also miss my dog who I am currently separated from.
fBS/fWS(me):52 Mad-hattered after DD (2008)
XWS:55 Serial Cheater, Diagnosed NPD
DD(22) DS(19)
XWS cheated the entire M spanning 19 years
Discovered D-Days 2006,2008,2012, False R 2014
Separated 9/2019; Divorced 8/2024
DragnHeart ( member #32122) posted at 8:16 PM on Wednesday, October 21st, 2020
I'm so sorry for your loss.
Me: BS 46 WH: 37 (BrokenHeart911)Four little dragons. Met 2006. Married 2008. Dday of LTPA with co worker October 19th 2010. Knew about EA with ow1 before that. Now up to PA #5. Serial fucking Cheater.
Chili ( member #35503) posted at 8:26 PM on Wednesday, October 21st, 2020
carriemcsky:
Hug given in honor of your boy. I can't even begin to try and describe the pain of this kind of loss, but you have lots of fellow travelers here who just get it.
You were a well loved dog Mom who gave him a wonderful life - I know you'll carry your memories together always.
Sending hugs your way as well.
2012 pretty much sucked.
Things no longer suck.
Took off flying solo with the co-pilot chili dog.
"Life teaches you how to live it if you live long enough" - Tony Bennett
zebra25 ( member #29431) posted at 8:35 PM on Wednesday, October 21st, 2020
No matter how long our trusted friends are with us it's never long enough. I'm so sorry for your loss.
Sending you hugs.
"Don't let anyone who hasn't been in your shoes tell you how to tie your laces."
D-day April 2010
lieshurt ( member #14003) posted at 8:37 PM on Wednesday, October 21st, 2020
I'm so sorry hun 
No one changes unless they want to. Not if you beg them. Not if you shame them. Not if you use reason, emotion, or tough love. There is only one thing that makes someone change: their own realization that they need to.
tushnurse ( member #21101) posted at 8:38 PM on Wednesday, October 21st, 2020
(((carrie))))
I'm hugging and being annoyed by mine right now, they think its O'ball thirty.
Sorry for your loss. I too have had many wonderful dogs in my life, but that never ever makes it easy when it's time to say goodbye.
May happy memories give you peace and strength.
Me: FBSHim: FWSKids: 23 & 27 Married for 32 years now, was 16 at the time.D-Day Sept 26 2008R'd in about 2 years. Old Vet now.
BraveSirRobin ( member #69242) posted at 8:59 PM on Wednesday, October 21st, 2020
Mine politely tolerates hugs but loves ear scritches, so I gave her some with a belly rub in honor of your pup. I'm so sorry. Your story brought back memories of saying goodbye to my prior dog, the one who got me through infertility and grieving. It broke my heart to lose her.
they think its O'ball thirty
That cracked me up, tush. Every hour is o'ball thirty in our house.
Gottagetthrough ( member #27325) posted at 9:27 PM on Wednesday, October 21st, 2020
I’m so sorry for your loss. I will hug my puppy extra today
carriemcsky (original poster member #48473) posted at 9:31 PM on Wednesday, October 21st, 2020
Thank you all for your replies. Even though it's so painful right now, it's worth it to have had him in my life.
Every time I walked by his water bowl today, I had to remind myself that I didn't need to check if he needed water. I know I should remove it, but I'm just not ready. And the towel that we kept by the front door for when it was raining (to dry him off) , well, I had to pick that up many times today because I can still smell his fur on it from yesterday.
Thanks for understanding how much he meant to me.
Me: BW, 51 (on DDay)
Him: WH, 55 (on DDay)
DDay: June 2015
DDay2: July 7,2015 Found out he was still in contact with OW.
Status: Trying to R
WhatsRight ( member #35417) posted at 9:34 PM on Wednesday, October 21st, 2020
Can I ask what kind of dog he is? And how old he was when you got him???
"Noone can make you feel inferior without your concent." Eleanor Roosevelt
I will not be vanquished. Rose Kennedy
carriemcsky (original poster member #48473) posted at 11:53 PM on Wednesday, October 21st, 2020
Can I ask what kind of dog he is? And how old he was when you got him???
Thank you for asking. He was a rough collie. Lassie. Our third collie. We've had him since he was 7 weeks old.
He got cancer. Nasal cancer. Kind of rare. He was only 9 years old. We should have had a few more years with him.
I know the pain lessens over time. But right now it just freaking hurts.
Me: BW, 51 (on DDay)
Him: WH, 55 (on DDay)
DDay: June 2015
DDay2: July 7,2015 Found out he was still in contact with OW.
Status: Trying to R
still2suspicious ( member #31722) posted at 12:30 AM on Thursday, October 22nd, 2020
I am so sorry for your loss.
We went camping this weekend and I found myself constantly looking for her. (She went over the Bridge in March)
She loved to sleep by the door on rugs. I still use her rugs. Makes me smile.
Pets are the best!
Me: BSHim: WHDDay: LTEA Every storm runs out of rain - Gary Allen
D final 2/23
number4 ( member #62204) posted at 1:09 AM on Thursday, October 22nd, 2020
Me: BWHim: WHMarried - 30+ yearsTwo adult daughters1st affair: 2005-20072nd-4th affairs: 2016-2017Many assessments/polygraph: no sex addictionStatus: R
BraveSirRobin ( member #69242) posted at 1:36 AM on Thursday, October 22nd, 2020
They stay with you forever in some ways. For most of my previous dog's life, we didn't have kids. She was the third point on our little triangle for almost a decade before our babies arrived. After she died, I thought I'd gotten used to being dogless until one night when my H and I came home together to an empty house (the kids were with his parents). I turned the key in the lock and realized that muscle memory had kicked in, and I expected her to be there to greet us. She had been gone for seven years.
BearlyBreathing ( member #55075) posted at 1:44 AM on Thursday, October 22nd, 2020
It is so hard—- I’m so sorry Carriemcsky. They give us nothing but love (and hair balls, in my cats’ case) and they carry such a big piece of our hearts.
Glad you had such a good boy, and glad he had you.
(((Hugs)))
Me: BS 57 (49 on d-day)Him: *who cares ;-) *. D-Day 8/15/2016 LTA. Kinda liking my new life :-)
**horrible typist, lots of edits to correct. :-/ **
Bigger ( Attaché #8354) posted at 2:09 AM on Thursday, October 22nd, 2020
So sorry for your loss.
The pain you feel and can be read in your post confirms this hardest decision pet-owners have to take was based on the right premise. We do this precisely because we love and care for our pets and that love is unselfish, even if the decision causes us pain.
A good friend of mine lives in a rural area with some horses and his 14-year old BC mix dog. Yesterday morning he went to look for his dog, only to find him in the stables where he had gone to sleep at his self-imposed task of watching over his friends the horses. He had passed away peacefully during the night. Nowadays its rare dogs die of old-age, and few animals die of old age in nature.
Maybe you can find some comfort in knowing your dog met this one on their journey over the Rainbow Bridge. You can definitely find comfort in knowing your post ensured many dogs got extra loving today.
"If, therefore, any be unhappy, let him remember that he is unhappy by reason of himself alone." Epictetus
WhatsRight ( member #35417) posted at 2:23 AM on Thursday, October 22nd, 2020
"Noone can make you feel inferior without your concent." Eleanor Roosevelt
I will not be vanquished. Rose Kennedy
Chrysalis123 ( member #27148) posted at 2:38 AM on Thursday, October 22nd, 2020
Oh Carrie, I am so sorry for your loss.
Someone I once loved gave me/ a box full of darkness/ It took me years to understand/ That this, too, was a gift. - Mary Oliver
Just for the record darling, not all positive changes feel positive in the beginning -S C Lourie
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