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 Lionne (original poster member #25560) posted at 6:25 PM on Monday, December 21st, 2020

A very scary morning. He got up, rather quickly, and I heard a crash. He fell and was very disoriented. He was apparently conscious but non-responsive, intermittently. He could follow my directions a little, "stay there, don't get up" but there were periods where he looked at me as though he didn't know me. When he finally sat up, he went "out" again, and was breathing with a gurgling sound and not responding. It was terrifying.

When the paramedics got here he was better, although his lips were still gray.

They won't let me in the hospital.[CAN I JUST RANT AGAINST COVID DENIERS WHO HAVE PARTLY PUT US IN THIS POSITION!!!] He is cognitively fine right now, but until I scared him by describing his symptoms, was insisting he's fine. He is listening to me when I tell him what questions to ask.

They found low hemoglobin, not horrible, 11, but they suspect a gastric bleed, they'll monitor, are giving him a protonix drip, and if he's still low tomorrow, will do a colonoscopy and endoscopy. They've lowered his dose of blood pressure meds.

Many years ago, his mother was rushed to the hospital around this time. Her heart was severely damaged and she never came out of it when they attempted surgery, died in late January.

Me, I'm cleaning. That's what I do.

Me-BS-71 in May HIM-SAFWH-74 I just wanted a normal life.Normal trauma would have been appreciated.

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zebra25 ( member #29431) posted at 6:37 PM on Monday, December 21st, 2020

Huge hugs, healing mojo and prayers sent.

I can't imagine how awful it must be to have to be home instead of with him. Truly unimaginable.

Sending you strength.

"Don't let anyone who hasn't been in your shoes tell you how to tie your laces."

D-day April 2010

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wildbananas ( member #10552) posted at 6:38 PM on Monday, December 21st, 2020

Oh Lionne, how scary! Thinking of you both and hoping he gets well fast!

Travel light, live light, spread the light, be the light. ~ Yogi Bhajan

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tushnurse ( member #21101) posted at 6:49 PM on Monday, December 21st, 2020

(((Lionne)))

Hang in there honey, if it was a new fresh bleed then it could account for everything. If not they will figure things out anyway, and remember science and medicine gets better and better every day (try not to compare this to his mom).

I can tell you that I convinced myself that My H was going to have to have heart surgery when a year after getting a second stent he was having all the same symptoms he did the first time, however when they went to do pre-cardiac cath labs we found a Hgb of 7.0. Yes that's right. His heart was fine, he just didn't have enough Hbg to carry the oxygen around. Turned out he had a HUGE polyp in his colon, so it all worked out ok, if we had waited until his 50th birthday for his first colonoscopy, he would have had colon cancer.

So here's to hoping for an upper GI bleed, and a scope and home in time for Xmas. I would ask your Nurse son to be the liaison between the hospital and Dr's so he can ask the appropriate questions if he is willing to.

Me: FBSHim: FWSKids: 23 & 27 Married for 32 years now, was 16 at the time.D-Day Sept 26 2008R'd in about 2 years. Old Vet now.

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DragnHeart ( member #32122) posted at 6:52 PM on Monday, December 21st, 2020

How scary! Hes in the best place he can be. Its got to be horrible not to be able to be with him.

Lots of hugs for you.

Me: BS 46 WH: 37 (BrokenHeart911)Four little dragons. Met 2006. Married 2008. Dday of LTPA with co worker October 19th 2010. Knew about EA with ow1 before that. Now up to PA #5. Serial fucking Cheater.

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sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 7:18 PM on Monday, December 21st, 2020

Sending mojo.

fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex apDDay - 12/22/2010Recover'd and R'edYou don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.

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Chrysalis123 ( member #27148) posted at 9:06 PM on Monday, December 21st, 2020

Hang in there. He is in the best place to get the help he needs. Please take special care of yourself right now. You know the drill.

((((Lionne))))

Someone I once loved gave me/ a box full of darkness/ It took me years to understand/ That this, too, was a gift. - Mary Oliver

Just for the record darling, not all positive changes feel positive in the beginning -S C Lourie

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somanyyears ( member #26970) posted at 9:06 PM on Monday, December 21st, 2020

..OMG !!so sorry to learn of your situation.

Some of his symptoms sound like those I experienced with seizures I had in summer of 2019.

sending prayers and ++++mojo

smy

trust no other human- love only your pets. Reconciled I think! Me 77 Her 74 Married 52 yrs. 18 yr LTA with bff/lawyer. Little fucker died at 57.Brain tumour!

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 Lionne (original poster member #25560) posted at 1:32 AM on Tuesday, December 22nd, 2020

Well, it gets more complicated. They don't think the hemoglobin issue caused the syncope.

The hospital is filled to the brim. The waiting room was filled in the ER.

They are monitoring him and will reassess tomorrow after rechecking his hemoglobin. But anything other than medication management is out of the question because of the 3 blood thinners he is on.

I'll make sure I'm on the phone when the doctor comes in tomorrow to talk to him.

The good news is that all 3 bathrooms are spotless, wood floor cleaned and carpets shampooed and furniture back in place!

Me-BS-71 in May HIM-SAFWH-74 I just wanted a normal life.Normal trauma would have been appreciated.

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BearlyBreathing ( member #55075) posted at 1:51 AM on Tuesday, December 22nd, 2020

Sending mojo—— and sorry you are having to do this during the Covid surge.

Me: BS 57 (49 on d-day)Him: *who cares ;-) *. D-Day 8/15/2016 LTA. Kinda liking my new life :-)

**horrible typist, lots of edits to correct. :-/ **

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Chili ( member #35503) posted at 2:18 AM on Tuesday, December 22nd, 2020

Oh Lionne - I clean my emotions too. Sending all the good things to you tonight and for a positive outcome.

2012 pretty much sucked.
Things no longer suck.
Took off flying solo with the co-pilot chili dog.
"Life teaches you how to live it if you live long enough" - Tony Bennett

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thebighurt ( member #34722) posted at 4:34 AM on Tuesday, December 22nd, 2020

Lionne, sending Mojo, good thoughts and healing light. Can't imagine the worry of not being able to go to the hospital, especially when they are jammed with cases. Try not to stress so much.

Finding what life could have been....... Why didn't I see it?

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lieshurt ( member #14003) posted at 1:35 PM on Tuesday, December 22nd, 2020

(((Lionne)))

No one changes unless they want to. Not if you beg them. Not if you shame them. Not if you use reason, emotion, or tough love. There is only one thing that makes someone change: their own realization that they need to.

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tushnurse ( member #21101) posted at 1:45 PM on Tuesday, December 22nd, 2020

(((Lionne)))

Let us know what's up when you know more.

3 blood thinners - I am assuming they scanned his beaner to make sure no brain bleeds?

Hopefully some answers will come soon.

Me: FBSHim: FWSKids: 23 & 27 Married for 32 years now, was 16 at the time.D-Day Sept 26 2008R'd in about 2 years. Old Vet now.

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 Lionne (original poster member #25560) posted at 1:59 PM on Tuesday, December 22nd, 2020

It's on my list to ask the doctor...they talked about a ct scan, did do a cheat xray, not sure about a covid test.

Me-BS-71 in May HIM-SAFWH-74 I just wanted a normal life.Normal trauma would have been appreciated.

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HFSSC ( member #33338) posted at 10:24 PM on Tuesday, December 22nd, 2020

I'm so sorry to hear this. Keeping you and yours in my prayers.

Me, 56
Him, 48 (JMSSC)
Married 26 years. Reconciled.

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 Lionne (original poster member #25560) posted at 2:07 PM on Wednesday, December 30th, 2020

Update: GI doctor is good. She explained everything to him and will contact his heart surgeon to check about taking him off the blood thinners temporarily. In any event, they have scheduled a colonoscopy and endoscopy for mid January even if he still is on them. He's to be scoped at the hospital in case of complications. They may not be able to snip any substantial polyps or do any other intervention, but they need to see what's up.

It sucks that I can only be there by phone.

In the meantime, he's finally listening to me about the timing of his meds, and is on B12 and iron in addition to his other meds.

He is still easily tired and frequently out of breath with exertion. That worries me and my son the nurse.

We see the cardiologist before the procedures, so I'll ask her about the CT scan and carotid doppler.

One day at a time. And thanks for the SI love!

Me-BS-71 in May HIM-SAFWH-74 I just wanted a normal life.Normal trauma would have been appreciated.

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Shockedmom ( member #44708) posted at 2:30 PM on Wednesday, December 30th, 2020

Sending a little more mojo. How very scary for all of you.

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tushnurse ( member #21101) posted at 2:59 PM on Wednesday, December 30th, 2020

(((Lionne))))

Sounds like they have him going down the right path.

Ask about Vitamin D for him as well. He probably is low and it will impact his energy level. Most Cardiac Dr's surgeons and cardiologists are ok w/ it, but double check.

Hope he continues to improve and the scope in a month is No big deal.

Me: FBSHim: FWSKids: 23 & 27 Married for 32 years now, was 16 at the time.D-Day Sept 26 2008R'd in about 2 years. Old Vet now.

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WhatsRight ( member #35417) posted at 5:32 PM on Sunday, January 3rd, 2021

Oh, I’m just now seeing this.

Bless your heart.

Thanks for all the updates. So very hard not to be there.

Will be sending lots of prayers your way.

"Noone can make you feel inferior without your concent." Eleanor Roosevelt

I will not be vanquished. Rose Kennedy

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