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Thank you - all of you. It has been 6 very long months since I filed for divorce (no minor children - they are all grown and wonderful). We had a mediation earlier this month and reached a settlement. There is nothing really left for either of us to do, but sign the papers after our attorneys put them together for the judge to review and sign. 21 days or less til it is final. Our marital home is up for sale, and I have my pre-approval for a new mortgage. The IHS is very close to being over. My new life in front of me. I have concerns about my financial situation as my STBEX came to mediation with empty bank accounts, and we live in a 50/50 divorce arena. So, he got 50% of what I have - and, I got 50% of nothing (he gambled away every dollar he had). We will split the proceeds of our house. I get to keep my inheritance money. My days are filled with cleaning up our house and packing my things, while he lays around watching gambling videos on the TV. He has tried to engage me in random conversation, which I dismiss and go about my business. Just yesterday I was in tears while I looked at the homes that I can afford now for my new single life. Then I was up most of the night unable to sleep. But, I must remain optimistic that I will continue to make the right choices. I keep telling myself that I have one chance to get this right. Then, focus on my mission. And, always remembering that He is with me. He has always been with me. My Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ. He is with us. All of us. I am so thankful that I found this site and you. Thank you.