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I've been with my husband 27 yrs will be married 21 this month. In jan 2024 I decided to quit drinking so I had trouble sleeping I would journal my husband is a pot smoker hell wake up go smoke and come back to sleep I heard his phone give notifications and didn't think much of it but it eas several times at 2am I had noted it in my journal fast forward I get my monthly text my cell phone bill is due so for shits and giggles I was like let me look what date that was I heard his phone going off I googled the number and it was his female coworker 9xs at 2am and I even wrote he got up o assumed to smoke three was 1 text bsck to thst number. So I decided to just sit on this. Feb 15th a relative was flying in to stay with us my husband casually made a comment about bringing our dog to work amd I lost it.i said you are not bringing our dog in so XX can touch him he's like what ate you talking about I said why did she text you 9xs at 2am? Instead of saying what are you talking about in a concerned way he got super defensive so i pulled it up and swears it never happened I called att they said it happened. My husband shares it was a glitch I said bs only way I believe you to see her phone records so they printed them out but left out that specific day instead o. That day printed calls. Mind u my relative arrived I tried to not put this behind until her visit was over. Ever since then something felt off. He swore it was a glitch so did she bc I called her. Fast forward people who know her said oh your husband works with XX I would be careful she can't be trusted I hope you trust ypur husband. My grandmother fell ill I told my husband I don't feel comfortable with you being friendly with her keep it professional there ofgixes are side by side which he didn't tell me I seen when i brought him a plant for getting a new office, this further irritated me. He continued to tell me they she strictly just does the contracts etc.dadt forward at his xmas party she's like your husband is so nice he's always doing nice things for me...I'm livid.niw I start looking through his phone being a detective be owning someone I'm not but I wanted answers on the ride home he said such horrible cruel words to me calling me CUN$ SPEEDING really nasty I should of left then but my nN was ill amd dying I had alot going on this was topper I was diagnosed with fibromyalgia so dealwas he would no longer interact besides work I believed him I found it strange she would rarely text he'd tell me that projects over I won't be working with her anymore.

Turns out that's a lie.so 2 yrs I've felt insecure of how my husband feels about me I'm not insecure as a person if that makes sense my husband would put me down belittle me make me question my reality, calling me insecure and phyco. Recently he left his work email up on home computer I seen her name and thought he said they don't communicate I went to deleted and found she sent him a flirty email. So I said I think we still hzve a boundry problem he's like what now here we go again I'm not doing this your jealous and phyco I pulled the email up and he's like we are done ypu look they my work email called me degrad8ng names I was so angry I xalled her I asked her why after 2 yrs she's still being unprofessional she said that's absurd I have a new fiance I don't flirt I'm professional maybe it's a you problem what because I'm pretty I said no sweety I'm pretty there are many beautiful women in this world but those women didn't show up on my phone bill ar 2am I wasn't warmed to watch out for them and I'm reading the email myself. I am standing up for my marriage and in that moment I felt shame bc I directed my anger at her when i know it should be on him but I Saud I held this in 2yrs msyve your fiance should see what I see and decide for himself or if you were in my shoes how would you react. My husband is now acting like he's mad at me I pound love the hard truth in people's opinion is I overstepped I feel emotional cheating or maybe more had occurred