Been reflecting on one of the many pain points associated with marital treason. Disrespect has been dealt with a lot (understandably so) but disregard has not and it is a real stinger. A few examples of this here on SI include:
• A betrayed husband who was told by his WW that his many expressions of love including compliments, gifts, dares, etc were disregarded/minimized by his WW as it was expected and part of his job description. Conversely, the same from her pos AP, was more highly regarded/valued.
• Another BH consistently tried to affirm his WW, give her gifts, surprise trips, flowers for no reason but her AP could give her gifts and trips on greater scale so she minimized what her faithful husband hsd done and maximized the efforrs of her AP....and lost her husband and marriage (multiple examples).
• Another is a BW who has supported her WH faithfully for yeaes while he built his career and all the while hes showering gifts, attention on his pos AP.
• My own XWW basically trashed my best efforts to romance her and give her expressions of love and affection but was wowed by the paltry expressions of affinity by her AP.
Its a dammed if you do, dammed if you dont situation. Whats a faithful spouse to do?
Lets talk about it.
