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What to do with ring

cantaccept posted 1/23/2019 05:44 AM

This isn't a question, just wanted to share what I did with my ring yesterday.

I waited 10 years to get a ring, had it for 10 months and dday #1 hit. I loved the ring, was so excited, just thrilled. Of course that didn't last very long.

I just couldn't bring myself to throw it away. It seems such a waste and I did not want it, didn't want to give it to any of my family, they wouldn't want it either. I had this thought that maybe someday it would make someone else happy, someone a step removed.

So, I work with a young man, about 32, that is so very sweet, kind to me, a gentleman, big heart, always telling me about his girlfriend and family.

They just bought a house about a year ago, she got laid off 2 months ago. He was telling me how much he would like to officially propose to her but that now that they are struggling financially it's all they can do to maintain the house. He said he has been looking in pawn shops for a ring but nothing is in reach that is nice.


I showed him a photo of the ring. He responded that it was beautiful. I just said well there you go, I'll bring it in tomorrow. He was confused for a bit but knew my backstory enough to understand why I did not want the ring. He wanted to pay what he could and I declined. The thing about doing this is I felt so good about it! It should have been given to me with love but it wasn't. I got to change it's path and give it to him with love and now he get's to give it to her with love.


He was so surprised and so happy, he actually started crying, those big tears that just rolled down his cheeks.


Just wanted to share this. It just felt so good to do for someone with no strings, just to give.

This is what I always imagined doing with the ring but never knew it would feel so nice.


WhoTheBleep posted 1/23/2019 06:06 AM

Wow! Cantaccept, you have DEFINITELY changed the vibes, mojo, energy of that ring. What a gift. Beautiful idea.

UglyBetty posted 1/23/2019 09:22 AM

This is so lovely to read, cantaccept!

Ripped62 posted 1/23/2019 09:49 AM

Thank you for sharing this story. It affirms there are wonderful people in this world.

SallyShrink81 posted 1/23/2019 11:54 AM

Yes!! Fantastic!!

Oftencheatedon posted 1/23/2019 17:11 PM

That made me teary eyed. What a wonderful thing for all of you!

[This message edited by Oftencheatedon at 5:23 PM, January 23rd (Wednesday)]

deena04 posted 1/26/2019 22:13 PM

You are an amazing person. This is great.

Phoenix1 posted 1/26/2019 22:34 PM

What a truly beautiful gesture.

Chili posted 1/26/2019 23:05 PM

Just brilliant. I bet you will get 10x more joy out of that gesture than anything the sticker price of that ring could buy.

This is the kind of stuff that shows the depth of your character.

Kudos Can.

hardtimesinlife posted 1/27/2019 09:18 AM

Beautiful. Now you've changed my emotional vibe today. I'm blown away by your kindness and your ability to change the lives of others. Thanks for sharing that.

CaliforniaNative posted 1/27/2019 11:15 AM

Yes...as the saying goes -Learn to love without condition. Talk without bad intention. Give without any reason. And most of all, care for people without any expectation.

Thanks for sharing.

[This message edited by CaliforniaNative at 11:57 AM, January 27th (Sunday)]

Soconfusing posted 1/27/2019 15:24 PM

Oh my goodness!! This is absolutely beautiful!!! What a wonderful way to bless someone!!!

CatsEye posted 2/1/2019 01:47 AM

What a lovely story. Thank you for sharing it with us.

cantaccept posted 2/1/2019 06:01 AM

I haven't had a chance to look back here since I posted this. See my post in Off Topic, Prayers and Mojo needed.

I am so happy to see this touched others as it touched me.

I was just thinking about how in my life I have always seen the potential of things. I always had this desire to make things better, leave a place better than I found it. I even had a business for over 20 years buying old beat up furniture and giving it a new life!

I think I did the same with people, especially the x. I saw his potential. I knew that he had some "issues". I guess I thought that if I loved him enough he would heal. How presumptuous of me! I think perhaps this way of thinking is fine for things but certainly not for people!

So back to the ring. It made me happy to change it's trajectory and at the same time make a good person happy. It just feels good to take something of pain and turn it into something of happiness.


WithMyEyesOpen posted 2/4/2019 06:16 AM

Beautiful, cantaccept. You should be truly proud of yourself.

tiredofcrying59 posted 2/8/2019 18:44 PM

That's really awesome. What a great idea.

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