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Buffer posted 5/6/2020 18:00 PM

^^^ What was said^^^
Buffer

ShutterHappy posted 5/7/2020 06:33 AM

Yeah, and it just proves my theory that decent men, regardless of race, don't want a promiscuous woman like her.

The way I see it, some people (regardless of race or gender) like the life of party and sex.

Some people like to have a meaningful relationship and family life (with or without children).

The problem with some cheaters, like your STBXWW is that they want both.

Thereís also the cheaters that want a loving family and "the whole falling in love with someone new" at the same time. Thatís not your STBXWW.

[This message edited by ShutterHappy at 6:34 AM, May 7th (Thursday)]

steadychevy posted 5/7/2020 07:16 AM

Just to support ShutterHappy, my XWW wanted both. She didn't love him, wasn't going to leave me for him, kept working with me to reach our long term life goal (working together on a major goal is supposed to unite you and link you and strengthen a relationship) and dreamt together. However, she didn't love me either.

Westway posted 5/7/2020 08:37 AM

I agree with everyone. My WW has no intentions of ever marrying a black man, because it would look bad for her socially and she can't have that. In a way, she is the ultimate racist I think, because she will f*ck dozens of black men, but never marry one. If not racist it as least the height of hypocrisy.

And no, she never really loved me completely and wholly the way a wife should, and my greatest regret is that I never caught on to it. Well, the blinders are off now. I will never let that happen again. I refuse to be settled for. If I cannot find a woman who loves me in every way: emotionally, sexually and intellectually -- then I will never marry again.

[This message edited by Westway at 8:38 AM, May 7th (Thursday)]

Thanksgiving2016 posted 5/7/2020 09:41 AM

I have begun to think that people who have affairs are incapable of wholly loving anyone. They canít even comprehend what that means.

Phantasmagoria posted 5/7/2020 13:13 PM

And no, she never really loved me completely and wholly the way a wife should, and my greatest regret is that I never caught on to it. Well, the blinders are off now. I will never let that happen again. I refuse to be settled for. If I cannot find a woman who loves me in every way: emotionally, sexually and intellectually -- then I will never marry again.

You, me, and many here made that same error. I believe my ex fell in love with how I loved her, and not in love with me. Itís a very tough lesson, but at least now you have the opportunity to find genuine love should you choose to.

Youíve handled this situation admirably, I wish you well.

Westway posted 5/7/2020 16:34 PM

Signing off this post everyone. Thank you all for your support and encouragement. I would have been a basketcase without all the help. I'll start a new thread once the divorce is final and update you all on how everything shakes out. Otherwise I'll just be posting on other people's threads. Later...

Newlifeisgreat posted 5/7/2020 16:51 PM

Westway,

Since you are signing off this thread, I would just like to say....

BRAVO!!!! BRAVO!!!!!!

you handled this Hell that your wife threw you into the way every man should!!! You refused to tolerate her b.s., you stood your ground, and did what you knew you needed to do for the benefit of yourself and your daughters!!

This thread should be recommended to evert newcomer when they realize that their wife is a cheating $!ut

I know that it was extremely difficult, but you handled it like a true man!!!

Look forward to reading your future updates in the Divorce forum.

Buffer posted 5/7/2020 22:14 PM

Strength and Respect ✊.
Buffer

Shockedmom posted 5/8/2020 08:17 AM

Well done sir. You have taken yourself out of infidelity and are moving towards a better life. Good luck going forward.

redwing6 posted 5/8/2020 09:57 AM

I am glad that things have worked out for you Westway. I hope that you continue to offer wisdom & support here for those who come after.

KingofNothing posted 5/8/2020 11:26 AM

Much respect, Westway. And a happy future.

Buster123 posted 5/8/2020 13:37 PM

Well done, and hats off to you, you were decisive from the get go and played your cards right, you even managed to keep "Vito Corleone" and the italian mafia at bay during this difficult situation, good luck with the D process and by all means keep posting in other threads, your experience is very valuable to others that come here seeking advice.

WontBeFooledAgai posted 5/8/2020 15:14 PM

Much respect Westway. Please stick around man!

J0ck posted 5/8/2020 16:11 PM

All the best mate your a good un.

faithfulman posted 5/8/2020 18:49 PM

Westway, you and your story is a textbook example of how to value yourself and remove yourself from the influence of a cheater.

You moved with purpose and determination.

While your cheating soon to be ex-wife might not like you, she definitely has learned you are not to be trifles with and will learn to respect you as you move forward and leave her behind. (Double entendre!)

Your contribution to this forum helps many people.

You have my admiration.

[This message edited by faithfulman at 6:51 PM, May 8th (Friday)]

HonestInterest posted 5/9/2020 04:23 AM

Its been an amazing read and to follow your path through this shit storm
Good luck and keep us all up updated

steadychevy posted 5/9/2020 05:19 AM

Glad to see you plan on sticking around, WestWay, and providing valuable input to those suffering greatly. Onward and upward.

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