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Shehawk (original poster member #68741) posted at 7:15 PM on Monday, November 4th, 2019
I just wanted to thank every single person who jumped or reached into the darkness I was in to touch me, to walk with me, to rescue me.
Not only am I no longer struggling to stay alive, but I actually experience peace and healing that is unimaginable. I have have been telling my story (and listening to other people's infidelity stories). And life is good on the other side of the darkness. Thank you! Much gratitude.
"It's a slow fade...when you give yourself away" so don't do it!
fareast ( Moderator #61555) posted at 1:49 AM on Tuesday, November 5th, 2019
That’s a wonderful update Shehawk. I am very happy for you. I know your WH has treated you so very cruelly. I hope your Lymes is under control and you are in good health. May your peace and healing continue Good luck.
Never bother with things in your rearview mirror. Your best days are on the road in front of you.
WhoTheBleep ( member #49504) posted at 3:42 AM on Tuesday, November 5th, 2019
Great update, Shehawk. Now remember this feeling if you ever slip down the rabbit hole again, which we all can do on occasion. You know it is only temporary and you will come back to this feeling at peace and healing.
I believe we have two lives: the one we learn with, and the one we live with after that. --The Natural
Shehawk (original poster member #68741) posted at 1:30 PM on Tuesday, November 5th, 2019
Thank you Fareast and Bleep! I am ugly crying but you and so many other people reached into what a friend of mine calls the "box of darkness" I was in to save me. I worked so hard. And it is so good on the other side.
Thank you!
"It's a slow fade...when you give yourself away" so don't do it!
BearlyBreathing ( member #55075) posted at 1:52 AM on Friday, November 8th, 2019
Wonderful update. Stay on the path forward and never ever fear asking for help. ((Shehawk))
Me: BS 57 (49 on d-day)Him: *who cares ;-) *. D-Day 8/15/2016 LTA. Kinda liking my new life :-)
**horrible typist, lots of edits to correct. :-/ **
Chrysalis123 ( member #27148) posted at 12:42 AM on Saturday, November 9th, 2019
Good for you Shehawk. Isn't peace lovely?
hat a friend of mine calls the "box of darkness"
I know of what you speak...check out my tagline.
Someone I once loved gave me/ a box full of darkness/ It took me years to understand/ That this, too, was a gift. - Mary Oliver
Just for the record darling, not all positive changes feel positive in the beginning -S C Lourie
Shehawk (original poster member #68741) posted at 4:02 AM on Saturday, November 9th, 2019
oh Chrysalis123 I had completely forgotten that was your tagline!
"It's a slow fade...when you give yourself away" so don't do it!
Shehawk (original poster member #68741) posted at 4:03 AM on Saturday, November 9th, 2019
And yes, peace is marvelous!
"It's a slow fade...when you give yourself away" so don't do it!
hopefullife ( member #71881) posted at 8:45 AM on Saturday, November 9th, 2019
Thank you also Shehawk! This gives us new ones hope that we eventually will be okay. I'm happy for you
10 yrs together. 2 yrs married. No kids.
2 Ddays. H living with OW and their child.
Focusing on self.
Shehawk (original poster member #68741) posted at 2:21 AM on Sunday, November 10th, 2019
thanks hopefullife
I am literally still on this planet alive because of grace and other people. And I am so grateful. There is a life out of the box of darkness and I am so grateful.
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"It's a slow fade...when you give yourself away" so don't do it!
JanaGreen ( member #29341) posted at 4:24 AM on Sunday, November 10th, 2019
Shehawk (original poster member #68741) posted at 12:38 PM on Sunday, November 10th, 2019
Thanks Jana
I AM NOT THE WOMAN HE LEFT
and that is amazing beyond description.
There is life outside of the box of darkness. And it is beyond anything I ever imagined.
"It's a slow fade...when you give yourself away" so don't do it!
Shehawk (original poster member #68741) posted at 5:11 PM on Tuesday, November 19th, 2019
I can not emphasize enough my gratitude towards this group. Not only did you save my life....literally. But you helped heal me.
I dug down deep. I worked on myself.
I have friends who love me. I spent an amazing weekend going to worship, meeting new people, drinking craft coffee, playing chess for the first time in decades, and even enjoying an amazing hike with a platonic friend (Shehawk does not date because--although her spouse abandoned about 8 months ago --she is unfortunately still married and she is not a cheater).
"It's a slow fade...when you give yourself away" so don't do it!
Chaos ( member #61031) posted at 6:05 PM on Tuesday, November 19th, 2019
You are truly inspirational Shehawk
While I hate the circumstances surrounding our paths crossing - I am thankful for the light you shine to so many of us.
BS-me/WH-4.5yrLTA Married 2+ decades-2 adult children. Multiple DDays w/same LAP until I told OBS 2018- Cease & Desist sent spring 2021 "Hello–My name is Chaos–You f***ed my husband-Prepare to Die!"
Emotionalhell ( member #39902) posted at 12:18 PM on Wednesday, November 20th, 2019
Thank you for the update! So good to hear you are doing well.
It is uplifting to hear a positive update.
I am in limbo. Hurts to stay and hurts to leave. I think leaving may be easier in the long run and your post confirmed that thought.
Wishing you continued joy!
Me BS x2. 50ish Divorced WH #1. IHS with wayward #2 Dday #1 Oct. 2014Dday # 2 August 2018. Dday #3 December 17th.
Shehawk (original poster member #68741) posted at 3:25 PM on Thursday, November 21st, 2019
Emotionalhell
in my case my stbx WH chose his secret second life over me. And in return I walked through what felt like broken glass (left, did hard work on myself) to get to a place of peace and joy I never dreamed existed.
"It's a slow fade...when you give yourself away" so don't do it!
GraceLove ( member #59212) posted at 4:03 PM on Saturday, November 23rd, 2019
It is so great to hear an update that is so positive.
As awful as this experience has been , there is so much joy on the other side:)
There's something also very comforting in walking this journey with others (familiar names on the forums, who have been here for awhile) and hearing the positive outcomes. Even if somedays it's one day at a time.
GraceLove ( member #59212) posted at 4:03 PM on Saturday, November 23rd, 2019
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destroyed1 ( member #56901) posted at 6:33 PM on Saturday, November 23rd, 2019
Not only am I no longer struggling to stay alive, but I actually experience peace and healing that is unimaginable.
Thank you for the update and enjoy your newfound happiness. You deserve it.
Me - BH 51, 2 kids, married 30 yrs
The things that you want in life are impossible to achieve if your energy is flowing in the opposite direction.
Shehawk (original poster member #68741) posted at 1:12 AM on Sunday, November 24th, 2019
Shehawk even has plans for Thanksgiving and it is not gonna be sitting in a hostel at a table by herself!
"It's a slow fade...when you give yourself away" so don't do it!
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