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BearlyBreathing posted 11/9/2019 00:13 AM

So five weeks before D-Day a little stray cat came on to our property. She adopted us and after DDay I said she was staying with me. Then the fires came through and the only things I got out of the house were me, my momís jewelry and my cat. Sheís been my best buddy through all of this, the only remnant of my old life. And now suddenly she wonít eat.I get back from burying my dad (he died a year ago, but just had his inurnment) and sheís not well. They arenít sure what it is. Sheís only five years old. My job has me traveling the next two weeks (mandatory, if I donít go I WILL lose my job, and it took me a year to find this job).

I am crushed and terrified and scared. The tears wonít stop. The vet was not very helpful and I will try another vet tomorrow. I really donít know how I can get through it if she dies. Itís been 3 days without food (some water, and the vet gave her fluids). Anyway,, didnít know where else to speak my fears. Most people think sure you love your pets, but sheís tied to my old life and the dreams and my old house and my new beginnings. Yeah, Iíll get through. But I really really want her to be okay. And how am I supposed to leave her now? I will be a mess traveling.

Trauma brings up older trauma, right? Iíve had enough for a lifetime, all compacted in to the last three years. Please donít take my little cat away from me.

DragnHeart posted 11/9/2019 05:03 AM

Hopefully the second vet can figure out whats wrong. Prayers that she makes a full recovery. Did they put her on IV? Or just oral fluids?

looking forward posted 11/9/2019 07:31 AM

My heart aches for you. My Smudge exhibited the same signs for too many months; I couldn't let go. He was my rock and anchor and prayer companion for so many years post DDay.
Do you have someone to take care of her 24/7 while you travel? Or is it a catsitting situation where a few visits a day are made to feed and (hopefully) cuddle/socialize? Are vaccinations up to date? Is she indoor/outdoor? Is money an issue for vet care?
There are a lot of considerations, but we can't ignore our feelings as well as what is best for our cat.
I hope that a second vet's opinion/diagnosis will help.
Please let us know.
Sending ((((hugs)))).

~ lf

Cephastion posted 11/9/2019 07:34 AM

I am praying for you and your struggling little cat.

The heart and focus of my prayer is "deliver us from evil."

Do you have a counselor or therapist or someone close that you can talk to IRL or share with via phone or otherwise while you and your little cat are fighting for it's life?

Isn't there a bereavement clause or policy with your place of business to allow you some time to grieve over the loss of your dad with the revisited grief and only-recent closure of the inurnement? Maybe a counselor or therapist or clergy could vouch for or explain the reality of delayed grieving/bereavement to your manager(s).

Grief and trauma and loss are REAL health issues. Maybe a professional can help your employer see what a legal or good-faith risk they are taking or what they are unreasonably expecting of you right after finally having closure your dad along with so many other losses and present threat of losing even more.

I wonder if a mod or guide on here would know more about this kind of thing? I would recommend a PM to one and see if they are better equipped with resources or counsel about any of this.

[This message edited by Cephastion at 7:36 AM, November 9th (Saturday)]

Zamboni posted 11/9/2019 07:39 AM

Have you tried canned tuna or canned cat food?

See if the vet will give you one of those really large syringes ó fill it with water and occasionally put it in your catís mouth so he at least stays hydrated.

My older cat had gotten really sick, and after I did this he started to perk up.

likeapinball posted 11/9/2019 09:12 AM

I'm so sorry your kitty isn't feeling well. It's tough when they can't tell us what's wrong.
Sounds like she needs to be hospitalized with IV fluids and worked up with bloodwork and radiographs/ultrasound. Is she in the habit of eating things she shouldn't (toys, paper, etc.)? Cats don't usually but some will.
Hoping the vet you see today will be more helpful!

BearlyBreathing posted 11/9/2019 10:59 AM

Thank you all for the support. I took her to the emergency vet at 2:00am . Bloodwork is fine and ultrasound scheduled for later today. She is not one to eat a lot random stuff, but she was boarded so who knows. I was able to entice her to eat just a small amount of kibbles- like 25 or so- and some pureed treats. She wonít eat tuna or chicken or soft food when she feels fine, so that doesnít work with her. They have her on an IV now.

They can keep her when I travel but itís crazy expensive. Weíre already in for $2k...

BearlyBreathing posted 11/10/2019 22:20 PM

Sheís not gotten any better and i have to go on a business trip. My heart is breaking. I havenít stopped crying. I donít know how to get through this. Itís breaking me.

likeapinball posted 11/11/2019 08:24 AM

I'm so sorry she's still not getting better. Hopefully she just needs a little more time on IVF, sometimes kitties take a bit of time to turn the corner. Perhaps the ultrasound will provide some answers. Sorry I don't have much else to help!

ShatteredSakura posted 11/11/2019 13:29 PM

((BearlyBreathing))

Hoping for your kitty to pull through

EllieKMAS posted 11/11/2019 14:23 PM


Fingers crossed that the second vet can help!

I feel ya, I lost two of my furbabies while dealing with A/S/D shit. All in all, I'd rather go through another DDay at this point than lose another one.

BearlyBreathing posted 11/11/2019 15:09 PM

She went in to cardiac arrest and I had to let her go.
My heart is broken.

EllieKMAS posted 11/11/2019 15:23 PM

((((BB))))

Just so many hugs honey. I am so sorry.

likeapinball posted 11/11/2019 15:38 PM

Hugs to you BB, I'm so sorry.

looking forward posted 11/11/2019 16:09 PM

Oh, I am so very, very sorry.
(((hugs)))

ShatteredSakura posted 11/11/2019 16:41 PM

(((((((((((((((((BearlyBreathing)))))))))))))))

thisissogross posted 11/11/2019 17:30 PM

So Very sorry

DragnHeart posted 11/11/2019 18:39 PM

I'm so so sorry. My heart aches for you.

3kids30years posted 11/11/2019 19:02 PM

Oh BB, I am so sorry!! Know she was loved, and loved in return.


Please know I am thinking of you and your kitty.

pureheartkit posted 11/11/2019 20:39 PM

Oh......I know.

I have had many fragile kitties. They are delicate creatures. We go to a cat specialist hospital and all the cat vets there say that kitties are delicate animals. They often don't show signs unless until they are very sick.

You did all that you could do. Sometimes, even the best, most trained feline doctor can't do anything. I had a kitty with a weakened heart. He needed fluids but that was too much for his heart. Without the fluids, he wouldn't have had a chance.

Kitties are the most amazing beings. Your kitty chose you. Remember that. You gave your sweet kitty a wonderful life.

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