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Six years out from D-Day

deena04 posted 12/1/2019 17:16 PM

I survived and am thriving. Iím stronger and heís not. I now (and have for a couple years) seen him as someone that is not capable of change due to his own choices. He may not cheat again, but he is an abusive jerk. I am enjoying my kids, my work, and a lovely gentleman that shows me how peaceful life can be. Ex is recovering from a major health issue a while back. The pity party continues on deaf ears. Sorry to be crappy about it, but it amazes me that I ever even cared about him. Cheers to six years ago, on a Sunday even, for starting my wake up to a better life. I wouldnít wish infidelity on anyone, but I chose to make the life I wanted and am happy for that.

rebplay posted 12/1/2019 17:51 PM

Deena- wonderful update! You deserve a peaceful, healthy and happy life. You turned a traumatic situation around and that takes a strong person! Itís encouraging- thanks for sharing.

BearlyBreathing posted 12/1/2019 19:28 PM

Beautiful update.

LuvsMeLuvsMeNot posted 12/1/2019 20:28 PM

Iím almost 8 years out from D-Day (on 2/11/2020) and Iím right there with you gf!!!

WH was officially diagnosed with Parkinsonís Disease 1 1/2 years ago (but his Neurologist said heís had it for at least 10-12 years now) so I am totally fine with his total unremorsefulness now that Karma has paid his ass a nice little visit.

Hugs to you gf for kicking ass!!


Chili posted 12/1/2019 20:44 PM

Right on deena - thanks for the great update - and way to take back a Sunday!

tushnurse posted 12/2/2019 07:06 AM


You have grown so much since first arriving at SI.
It is wonderful to see how much you have bettered your life, and yourself.

This is A season for me too, but after 11 years it's barely a blip. That is the reason I wanted to chime in. As any of you that heal and recover from this, you too will find a new normal, and happiness and strength that you weren't aware you were capable of. If you are not feeling that strength remember you have to heal yourself first.

(((And Strength))) to all.

thatbpguy posted 12/2/2019 08:40 AM

While R is a beautiful thing, so is this. When someone is incapable of loving you it takes a lot of courage to go and find that better life. Kudos to you!

Dorothy123 posted 12/2/2019 09:05 AM

Thanks for sharing.

Lovely update.

Oldwounds posted 12/2/2019 10:56 AM

I wouldnít wish infidelity on anyone, but I chose to make the life I wanted and am happy for that.

My favorite quote I've read in a while. Awesome update!

still-living posted 12/2/2019 18:38 PM

Great update. Like the Neo scene, "He is the one!"

deena04 posted 12/2/2019 20:10 PM

You guys are awesome! The day didnít give me tears. It was a day of reflection on how far I have come and how sad he still Is. I am super thankful I found out then and not 20 years from now. My hope is new people can truly move beyond in a way that makes them happy no matter whether thatís R or D.

Hawaii posted 12/2/2019 21:49 PM

Great update! Happy that you are happy 😃

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