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So for the past 8 months or so I've been very tried. No energy. Constantly exhausted and no motivation. My free time is spent laying on the couch.

I've spent the last 20 years working over 100 hours a week. the last 8 or 9 years have been a minimum of 120 hours a week sometimes as much as 140.

About 8 months ago I decided to cut my hours drastically to about 60-80 hours. That's when I started to really struggle. I would have thought that cutting my hours would give me more energy and less fatigue but it seems to have done the opposite.

I'm in good physical shape, I eat healthy, not over weight. Any thoughts?

ETA: I'm not ruling out depression. Because that's definitely an issue for me. I don't see the point in IC as I don't even know what I'd talk about and I'm not going to take AD's.

[This message edited by Myname at 12:35 PM, September 20th (Sunday)]

Oh no doesn't sound good.

Could all of those years of working so much just finally caught up with you?

What about a hobby? Something to keep your mind active? Or something physical to enjoy that's not work..

Hope you feel better soon.

Could all of those years of working so much just finally caught up with you?

That's what I'm afraid of.

What about a hobby? Something to keep your mind active? Or something physical to enjoy that's not work..

I've started wood carving the last few years but sometimes I'm just so tried I don't even feel like doing it.

I work 40 hours a week and I'm exhausted. I couldn't imagine working double or triple that. I've read and heard that 2020 has taken its toll on a lot of us, mentally and physically, myself included. Could be a factor. Could just be your body is telling you to take it easy.

Have you had a thorough check-up???

I have thyroid issues, and that can make you feel literally exhausted. Maybe bloodwork would show something.

Also, don’t write off all counselors. Only psychiatrists (and your PCP) can prescribe medication for you. But just having a counselor to talk to could be very helpful.

Good luck to you.

Time for a Dr visit with complete blood work. That means thyroid, Lyme titers (I'm assuming you get tickets bites regularly with your business) blood counts etc. If it isn't depression or an obvious health issue it may just be you are one of those rare people that needs to be that busy to feel healthy and happy.

Fatigue was definitely one of the symptoms I fought hard prior to being diagnosed with .y autoimmune issues.

It could be viral. You need to schedule a physical exam

I went through something very similar. I had all the health checks and they all came back good. As it turns out I was suffering from PTSD and my body was absolutely drained. I separated from STBXW and it improved and I deteriorated once again during the fake reconciliation phase. I am free of STBXW and feeling better these past few months.

I have my dog to keep me motivated and moving. Good luck but cut yourself some slack and it will hopefully pass.

I would talk with your doctor to rule out any possible physical reason. It is not normal to be so fatigued.

My first thought is you are mentally exhausted from everything that has gone on in your life.

Hope you find the answers soon.

My daughter recently arrived home from college one morning at 4am in tears saying she could not get herself out of bed. She was exhausted. This was a girl who completed basic training and SF tech school with ease 18 months ago and worked 40 hours at base while taking 18 credits for the past 6 months. Now that she was only taking classes, she crashed. A checkup revealed her B12 was very low. She's on a supplement and improving. A trip to the doctor's, as others have mentioned , is definitely in order. Hope you feel better soon.