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deena04 (original poster member #41741) posted at 11:16 PM on Sunday, December 1st, 2019
I survived and am thriving. I’m stronger and he’s not. I now (and have for a couple years) seen him as someone that is not capable of change due to his own choices. He may not cheat again, but he is an abusive jerk. I am enjoying my kids, my work, and a lovely gentleman that shows me how peaceful life can be. Ex is recovering from a major health issue a while back. The pity party continues on deaf ears. Sorry to be crappy about it, but it amazes me that I ever even cared about him. Cheers to six years ago, on a Sunday even, for starting my wake up to a better life. I wouldn’t wish infidelity on anyone, but I chose to make the life I wanted and am happy for that.
Me FBS 40s, Him XWS older than me (lovemywife4ever), D, He cheated before M, forgot to tell me. I’m free and loving life.
rebplay ( member #59205) posted at 11:51 PM on Sunday, December 1st, 2019
Deena- wonderful update! You deserve a peaceful, healthy and happy life. You turned a traumatic situation around and that takes a strong person! It’s encouraging- thanks for sharing.
BearlyBreathing ( member #55075) posted at 1:28 AM on Monday, December 2nd, 2019
Me: BS 57 (49 on d-day)Him: *who cares ;-) *. D-Day 8/15/2016 LTA. Kinda liking my new life :-)
**horrible typist, lots of edits to correct. :-/ **
LuvsMeLuvsMeNot ( member #44963) posted at 2:28 AM on Monday, December 2nd, 2019
Deena04,
I’m almost 8 years out from D-Day (on 2/11/2020) and I’m right there with you gf!!!
WH was officially diagnosed with Parkinson’s Disease 1 1/2 years ago (but his Neurologist said he’s had it for at least 10-12 years now) so I am totally fine with his total unremorsefulness now that Karma has paid his ass a nice little visit.
Hugs to you gf for kicking ass!! 
LuvsMe
BW (ME) 63 WH 63 M-37YRS, D-Day #1 2/11/12-WH says ONLY an EA TT BS From WH for 3.5 YRS! D-Day #2 12/3/15 WH says ALWAYS A PA SAME OW! OW/EXGF 62 Nasty White Trailer TRASH Whore who Dumped WS 42 Yrs Ago!
Chili ( member #35503) posted at 2:44 AM on Monday, December 2nd, 2019
Right on deena - thanks for the great update - and way to take back a Sunday!
2012 pretty much sucked.
Things no longer suck.
Took off flying solo with the co-pilot chili dog.
"Life teaches you how to live it if you live long enough" - Tony Bennett
tushnurse ( member #21101) posted at 1:06 PM on Monday, December 2nd, 2019
((((Deena)))))
You have grown so much since first arriving at SI.
It is wonderful to see how much you have bettered your life, and yourself.
This is A season for me too, but after 11 years it's barely a blip. That is the reason I wanted to chime in. As any of you that heal and recover from this, you too will find a new normal, and happiness and strength that you weren't aware you were capable of. If you are not feeling that strength remember you have to heal yourself first.
(((And Strength))) to all.
Me: FBSHim: FWSKids: 23 & 27 Married for 32 years now, was 16 at the time.D-Day Sept 26 2008R'd in about 2 years. Old Vet now.
thatbpguy ( member #58540) posted at 2:40 PM on Monday, December 2nd, 2019
While R is a beautiful thing, so is this. When someone is incapable of loving you it takes a lot of courage to go and find that better life. Kudos to you!
ME: BH Her: WW DDay 1, R; DDay 2, R; DDay 3, I left; Divorced Remarried to a wonderful woman
"There are far, far better things ahead than any we leave behind." C.S. Lewis
As a dog returns to his vomit, so a fool repeats his folly...
Dorothy123 ( member #53116) posted at 3:05 PM on Monday, December 2nd, 2019
Thanks for sharing.
Lovely update.
"I’ll get you my pretty, and your little dog too!" Wicked Witch of the West.
Oldwounds ( member #54486) posted at 4:56 PM on Monday, December 2nd, 2019
I wouldn’t wish infidelity on anyone, but I chose to make the life I wanted and am happy for that.
My favorite quote I've read in a while. Awesome update!
Married 36+ years, together 41+ years
Two awesome adult sons.
Dday 6/16 4-year LTA Survived.
M Restored
"It is better to conquer our grief than to deceive it." — Seneca
still-living ( member #30434) posted at 12:38 AM on Tuesday, December 3rd, 2019
Great update. Like the Neo scene, "He is the one!"
deena04 (original poster member #41741) posted at 2:10 AM on Tuesday, December 3rd, 2019
You guys are awesome! The day didn’t give me tears. It was a day of reflection on how far I have come and how sad he still Is. I am super thankful I found out then and not 20 years from now. My hope is new people can truly move beyond in a way that makes them happy no matter whether that’s R or D.
Me FBS 40s, Him XWS older than me (lovemywife4ever), D, He cheated before M, forgot to tell me. I’m free and loving life.
Hawaii ( member #43866) posted at 3:49 AM on Tuesday, December 3rd, 2019
Great update! Happy that you are happy 😃
Me - 41 BW Him 39 WH (serial cheater)
Married 10 years
3 DS
DD1 March 2012
DD2 April 2018
Looking to reconcile
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