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zebra25 (original poster member #29431) posted at 7:05 AM on Monday, October 19th, 2020
My husband currently has a 102.7 fever, chills and body aches. He is getting tested for the virus tomorrow. 
They won't test me unless he is positive. His test is at a hospital 30 minutes away when we live 10 minutes from the hospitals main campus. He is too sick to drive himself that far so I will have to take him. They will not test me. If I get symptoms or he is positive I will have to drive myself back there for a test!?!?!?!? So frustrating. What if I am too sick to drive myself back there?
I can't imagine if he has it that I don't.
We were with my daughter and my sister who is in her sixties today. 
We've been careful. We wear masks. We haven't gone anywhere except the grocery store, errands and he has had to work since March.
I am so worried and scared.
I would appreciate prayers and or SI mojo that we don't have the virus or that it is mild.
Thank you so much SI family. Stay safe. Stay well.
"Don't let anyone who hasn't been in your shoes tell you how to tie your laces."
D-day April 2010
DragnHeart ( member #32122) posted at 10:09 AM on Monday, October 19th, 2020
So scary. Praying for you both.
Me: BS 46 WH: 37 (BrokenHeart911)Four little dragons. Met 2006. Married 2008. Dday of LTPA with co worker October 19th 2010. Knew about EA with ow1 before that. Now up to PA #5. Serial fucking Cheater.
zebra25 (original poster member #29431) posted at 10:18 AM on Monday, October 19th, 2020
Thank you Dragn. I've been up all night. I'm very scared.
"Don't let anyone who hasn't been in your shoes tell you how to tie your laces."
D-day April 2010
DragnHeart ( member #32122) posted at 10:25 AM on Monday, October 19th, 2020
I know its difficult not to worry but make sure you dont make yourself sick with it.
Totally frustrating that you have to go so far for a test.
Here the lineups for tests were so bad they blocked traffic through town. It was a drive through set up. They now have it set up for appointment only and in a different area. But to get a test now is a pain. List still long and getting in is hard.
You're in my thoughts and prayers.
Me: BS 46 WH: 37 (BrokenHeart911)Four little dragons. Met 2006. Married 2008. Dday of LTPA with co worker October 19th 2010. Knew about EA with ow1 before that. Now up to PA #5. Serial fucking Cheater.
minusone ( member #50175) posted at 10:36 AM on Monday, October 19th, 2020
Sending prayers and all good thoughts.
Please keep us updated.
((((Zebra)))
"I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better". Maya Angelou
ZenMumWalking ( member #25341) posted at 12:15 PM on Monday, October 19th, 2020
Mask up zebra. Sending out positive thoughts and mojo.
((((zebra and H))))
Me (BS), Him (WH): late-50's
3 DS: 26, 25, 22
M: 30+ (19 1/2 at Dday)
Dday: Dec 2008
Wanted R, not gonna happen (in permanent S)
Used to be DeadMumWalking, doing better now
tushnurse ( member #21101) posted at 1:50 PM on Monday, October 19th, 2020
Sending prayers and mojo.
I hope you are separating yourselves in your home and wearing masks in the common areas. Lots of hand washing and wiping things down.
Me: FBSHim: FWSKids: 23 & 27 Married for 32 years now, was 16 at the time.D-Day Sept 26 2008R'd in about 2 years. Old Vet now.
WhatsRight ( member #35417) posted at 1:52 PM on Monday, October 19th, 2020
So very sorry this is happening. There are so many concerns as you have said.
Don’t be like me...I tend to “borrow trouble”. Make plans, prepare as much as you can be proactive, but then try not to let it get the best of you.
You and your H are in my prayers. 🙏🙏🙏
"Noone can make you feel inferior without your concent." Eleanor Roosevelt
I will not be vanquished. Rose Kennedy
Lionne ( member #25560) posted at 2:01 PM on Monday, October 19th, 2020
You've got my prayers too.
Me-BS-71 in May HIM-SAFWH-74 I just wanted a normal life.Normal trauma would have been appreciated.
somanyyears ( member #26970) posted at 2:33 PM on Monday, October 19th, 2020
..for sure zebra,
Prayers sent to you and your family.
smy
trust no other human- love only your pets. Reconciled I think! Me 77 Her 74 Married 52 yrs. 18 yr LTA with bff/lawyer. Little fucker died at 57.Brain tumour!
thebighurt ( member #34722) posted at 2:54 PM on Monday, October 19th, 2020
MOJO and positive thoughts, Zebra. It makes little to no sense for them to send you farther for the test. I hope you get results quickly and that you do not get sick with whatever he has.
When I needed a test (not for symptoms, though), they told me I would need to go to a special place an hour - or maybe more - away given the time. Luckily, I pressed it as that place meant I would need to travel through a city at morning rush hour and to a place inside where I might be exposed. They thought it through after my objection and I was able to go to an office about half the distance away where they strictly managed the numbers of people coming inside, used screening for those who did get in and using PPE and sanitizing everything constantly. Can't imagine getting myself there if I were also sick at the time of my appointment.
((((((Hugs Zebra)))))
Finding what life could have been....... Why didn't I see it?
lieshurt ( member #14003) posted at 2:59 PM on Monday, October 19th, 2020
Sending lots of mojo your way.
No one changes unless they want to. Not if you beg them. Not if you shame them. Not if you use reason, emotion, or tough love. There is only one thing that makes someone change: their own realization that they need to.
Want2BHappyAgain ( member #45088) posted at 3:20 PM on Monday, October 19th, 2020
Prayers sent your way🙏🙏🙏.
A "perfect marriage" is just two imperfect people who refuse to give up on each other.
With God ALL things are possible (Matthew 19:26)
I AM happy again...It CAN happen!!!
From respect comes great love...sassylee
zebra25 (original poster member #29431) posted at 4:06 PM on Monday, October 19th, 2020
Thank you all so very much. Keep the prayers and mojo coming.
There is probably zero chance that I will not catch this from him. We had purchase a thoughtless forehead thermometer which I assumed he was using and made sure he had when he went to bed last night. We also have two oral thermometers each marked with our name. I took mine to bed and took my temperature a couple of times last night. This morning he told me he used one of the oral thermometers but didn't know which one. I also fell asleep on the couch with my head on his lap before we knew he was sick. No way am I not getting this.
He is in a high risk group.
This is very scary
I have words for those not wearing a mask or wearing it under their nose. Give me strength to keep my mouth shut the next time I see one.
"Don't let anyone who hasn't been in your shoes tell you how to tie your laces."
D-day April 2010
WhatsRight ( member #35417) posted at 4:10 PM on Monday, October 19th, 2020
No need to keep your mouth shut.
You can make a kind, respectful comment to someone and still get the message across.
Not that it will necessarily do any good. 😏
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"Noone can make you feel inferior without your concent." Eleanor Roosevelt
I will not be vanquished. Rose Kennedy
sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 4:40 PM on Monday, October 19th, 2020
fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex apDDay - 12/22/2010Recover'd and R'edYou don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.
dontsaylovely ( member #43688) posted at 11:51 PM on Monday, October 19th, 2020
Sending best wishes and prayers your way. I rarely go out and wear a mask and face shield when I do. Do not understand those who don't mask up - fine get it yourself but do NOT pass it along. Odds are good for his recovery. Hang on to that.
Chili ( member #35503) posted at 12:07 AM on Tuesday, October 20th, 2020
Ah zebra - sending lots of good and big mojo your way. Do keep us posted and keep your own strength up as best you can.
2012 pretty much sucked.
Things no longer suck.
Took off flying solo with the co-pilot chili dog.
"Life teaches you how to live it if you live long enough" - Tony Bennett
Adlham ( member #53358) posted at 1:31 AM on Tuesday, October 20th, 2020
Zebra- sending love and prayers.
Also, as far as seeing maskless people, I no longer keep my mouth shut. I live with my uncle who is extremely medically fragile. I have not only said things, I have turned businesses in for not giving a damn, as well. My state makes it real easy. There's an online form for our state OSHA. I just fill it out and send it in!
It's very therapeutic.
There is NO need to have that “one last conversation” with a toxic individual in your life.” The closure will come when you look deeper inside yourself. It’s not your job to fix someone when they are unwilling to fix themselves.
number4 ( member #62204) posted at 1:38 AM on Tuesday, October 20th, 2020
It's very therapeutic.
I wish we had a 'like' button on this forum!!
Me: BWHim: WHMarried - 30+ yearsTwo adult daughters1st affair: 2005-20072nd-4th affairs: 2016-2017Many assessments/polygraph: no sex addictionStatus: R
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