clear this up; who was your dad married to?
who was the first woman he had a relationship with?
did he move out from time to time, or maintained a house with
just one and dated the other one?
so he had children with both women?
I see your anger at your dad.
if your mom was the first woman, and married to him,
she could not bring herself to divorce him. many BS ignore
the cheating, or pretend to not know to maintain the status
quo. you see many BS put up with such behavior because
they just hope that their marriage can be saved, they do not
want a divorce.
even when the BS knows their is an affair 79% of marriages
stay intact. the PA ended, but that does not mean whether
recovery was successful.
now for your mom to accept such treatment, whether she was
the BW or the AP reflects badly on her. it shows that
something was broken inside of her to stay in such a
relationship. do not hate her for being broken.
rather you should move to the feeling of indifferent. you do
not want her in your life that is fine. do not feel bad about
that.
being you were a WW, unfortunately many children follow
in their parents steps. you were exposed to infidelity from
your parents, them using false justifications to cope.
you grew up broken which allowed you to choose to do the
same false justification to be unfaithful.
however you were strong than them and you learnt how to
fix what was broken inside of you. be happy and proud
for what you have now accomplished instead of being
bothered about the past.
what does, toxic AF mean?