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I survived a big 2 year antiversary. Dday (denial day) 6/30/19. This was when I caught her in a lie for the first time. She explained it away and I bought it. This was the day she met a stranger in a bar and went home with him. I caught her day 1, by accident, I wasn’t even suspicious. From there she began a 2 month EA/PA with him.

I have had anxiety leading up to the day and the night before I had a trigger that knocked me down, but overall it was just another day. My W has been willing to help me however I need her. She sent me a really nice, encouraging message that day and then made me a steak dinner that night.

It really makes a difference to have a remorseful fWS willing to do the work, not perfect, we have bumps in the road, but she has made this journey to R worth it.

The nice message and the steak dinner help to make that date something positive in our M. I told her next year we are going to that bar so I can show her what it’s like to leave with a real man.

AWESOME post Tanner...thanks for sharing !!!

I agree that having a remorseful FWS makes a HUGE difference . My XWH was not in the least remorseful...and I ended up having another Dday a few years later . My H though...after 7 years...there is not a HINT of him ever repeating his HORRIBLE choices from that time .

YAY on OWNING that bar too!! It felt so GOOD when I could take back things like that . I do LOVE your attitude !!!

Glad to hear that was handled so well and I like your plan for next year! It is super frustrating that even when R is going well, as well as it can overall, it’s still a hard unfair journey.

We are coming up on our antiversary and A season (Though DDay was more than a year later) We will be on vacation with my family and I’m hoping to get a mix of patience and understanding along with a good distraction.

I am happy for you. Thanks for sharing. Take care.

Glad it went well and that your WW was able to give you the support you needed.

I told her next year we are going to that bar so I can show her what it’s like to leave with a real man.

I love this!

[This message edited by TX1995 at 11:17 AM, July 8th (Thursday)]

Thanks everyone, it’s right at the beginning of A season for me. 7/6/19 was the next weekend and she went to a party at his house. This was the first sober decision to be with him. It came up this year, but again not that triggery. I think I have analyzed this stuff to every minor detail that I really only thought of it twice on the 7/6.

I don’t know if I’m numb to it or if I’m starting to feel the healing.

I'm glad to hear that you`re making progress and that you're well most of the time. And yes, having a wife that's commited to make things work surely makes a difference!

May you two be able to become stronger and happier, no matter the bumps on the road.

Glad that you survived your 2 Anniversary. VERY, very tough to recon with your WW after her 2 EA/PA month affair. I tried finding your story but you never posted one? Maybe you decided to not post 1, which is understandable. Good luck.

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[This message edited by Tempocontour at 5:37 AM, July 23rd (Friday)]

Tanner, is she in IC?

It's good she's doing some nice things, but has she put in the work to figure out why she did what she did?

You are not dumb. People can change for the better if they really want to.

Tanner, is she in IC?

Yes, weekly since Dday 2.

I tried finding your story but you never posted one?

I’m actually working on it to put in my profile.

I told her next year we are going to that bar so I can show her what it’s like to leave with a real man.

This is the most badass thing I've read in a long time.

This is the most badass thing I've read in a long time.

This means a lot coming from someone brandishing a sword, channeling their inner Inigo Montoya and saying "Hello–My name is Chaos–You f***ed my husband-Prepare to Die! 🤣

[This message edited by Tanner at 11:36 PM, July 31st (Saturday)]

I’m actually working on it to put in my profile.

I keep looking for it....