nothisfriend (original poster member #53171) posted at 3:40 AM on Wednesday, April 22nd, 2026
I’m sorry to say that C lost her battle with cancer. She always had such thoughtful and supportive things to say when she posted on these boards. I’m proud to say we knew each other in real life; when she heard what was going on in my life she sent me here and SI was a tremendous lifeline for me. We never talked about SI in person, it was our safe place. But I loved everything she wrote and could hear the words coming out of her mouth.
She was a smart woman, expressed such joy to be around people, and was deeply interested to talk with you and hear your thoughts.
She had so much more to give.
Me: BS 50 (at the time) Him: WH 53 (at the time) D-Day: 10/25/15 Married: 28 years. One son, age 18 (at the time)
D final 2016 REMARRIED to a marvelous guy on 4/22/23
BackfromtheStorm ( member #86900) posted at 9:19 AM on Wednesday, April 22nd, 2026
I am sorry you lost a good friend and a very nice person.
It hurts but she gave you something that will stay alive in you. And that’s a little bit of light.
Condolences
You are welcome to send me a PM if you think I can help you. I respond when I can.
The1stWife ( Guide #58832) posted at 10:09 AM on Wednesday, April 22nd, 2026
I am so sorry to read this.
Her contributions to this site were spot on. Sharing the journey with us helped so many.
Prayers and condolences to her family. She will be missed.
Survived two affairs and brink of Divorce. Happily reconciled. 12 years out from Dday. Reconciliation takes two committed people to be successful.
sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 3:13 PM on Wednesday, April 22nd, 2026
I'm very sorry to read this. Thanks for letting us know. Condolences to her family. What a loss.
fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex ap
d-day - 12/22/2010 Recover'd and R'ed
You don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.
AnnieOakley ( member #13332) posted at 3:32 PM on Wednesday, April 22nd, 2026
Goodness. So quickly and so sad. My hope is that she did not suffer.
She did indeed offer so many wise insights. ✨💫✨
Me= BSHim=xWH (did the work & became the man I always thought he was, but it was too late)M=23+,T=27+dday=7/06, 8/09 (pics at a work function), 11/09 VAR, 6/12 Sep'd, 10/14 Divorced."If you are going through hell, keep going."
Arnold01 ( member #39751) posted at 7:28 PM on Wednesday, April 22nd, 2026
I'm very sorry to hear this news, and condolences to you as well as her family and friends.
Me: BW. Together 27y, M 24y
D-Day 1: June 2013
D-Day 2: December 2024
Divorced May 2025
BearlyBreathing ( member #55075) posted at 8:12 PM on Thursday, April 23rd, 2026
Oh no this is horrible news. I am so sorry and send the deepest condolences to her family and friends. Her contributions here were always thoughtful and considerate and oh so helpful.
Thank you for sharing. Sniff.
Me: BS 57 (49 on d-day)Him: *who cares ;-) *. D-Day 8/15/2016 LTA. Kinda liking my new life :-)
**horrible typist, lots of edits to correct. :-/ **
Want2BHappyAgain ( member #45088) posted at 8:19 PM on Thursday, April 23rd, 2026
My deepest condolences and prayers are being sent .
A "perfect marriage" is just two imperfect people who refuse to give up on each other.
With God ALL things are possible (Matthew 19:26)
I AM happy again...It CAN happen!!!
From respect comes great love...sassylee
