I do think there are a lot of young women who will sleep with married men knowingly, and yeah some of them are hot.
Really? I mean, like you said, I guess neither of us have any idea, too old!
But, yes, I'm very surprised by that statement. I figured posting a Tinder profile that "Married man looking for NSA" was about as attractive as posting "Women with uncontrollable farting, expensive tastes, and a absolute hate for having sex with men" (trying to be funny here, not offend). I'd look at that, and, unless the woman was just insanely hot, go right past her, why on earth deal with the drama of explosive farting and someone who hates sex for a hook up?! Why deal with married man drama for a hook up, there are tons of other guys, plenty hotter than me, who will happily come over and sleep with you who aren't just looking to get back at their wives.
Like Dee, there is very little in my sexual history I really regret - the only exception to that was the affair. I can't really even think about details of what happened there without my stomach physically hurting.
My W carries a lot of shame about sex in general. One of the reasons it blows/blew my mind that she went all "porn star" with the AP. But I agree, the "shame from sex" isn't universal to women, and it's also not exclusive to women, I'm sure some men feel shame for past sexual experiences too (I do, a few of them, but it's nothing like the shame my wife professes to feel, it's more like, "Man, RIO, what the heck were you thinking with that one!". Not a deep dislike for myself or what I did, just a shaking of my head, man, you need to get your s(*t together.
I do think there are a lot of young women who will sleep with married men knowingly, and yeah some of them are hot. But, isn't that really a moot point for you?
Yes, I'd say it is, but, the topic of this thread was "a free pass" and does it turn you on. So that brought up the line of thinking about this, not my intrinsic desire for a "free pass". If I thought there was a lot of demand for NSA from a married man among attractive women, it would change how I feel about it; it would turn me on more. But I don't think that "demand" exists. There's a freaking unlimited amount of NSA for any woman willing to swipe right (or left?), why on earth would "married man" especially one just looking to get back at his wife/use his free pass be anything but the absolute bottom of the barrel for selection? But the reverse isn't true, in my dating days, if a woman (I'm embarrassed to admit this) came up to me and said "RIO, f**k me like you mean it, my H cheated on me and I just want a good lay", I'd think I died and went to heaven. :) And it really wouldn't matter what she looked like, making it that easy, it would be a defacto "sure" unless I was actually just wildly put off by her appearance.
I guess what I'm saying, this is different between the sexes. You can have a "pure RA" easily as a woman. Just ask any guy. And that guy can be WAY hotter/more fit/richer/etc than your husband because offering NSA as a woman allows you to "go up" in mate selection. The same is not true for man, it's more difficult to have an RA at all, and IMHO, extremely difficult if you're honest with the woman about the nature of the relationship. A BW can do it "guilt free" with the potential AP, all the pain will be felt by the WH, not the AP. The same isn't true for most men, at least not for me.