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6M$Man ( member #8344) posted at 6:10 PM on Tuesday, March 20th, 2018

...you should have kept that mental image to yourself.

I am trying to live a life I can respect myself for. Finally.

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Loukas ( member #47354) posted at 6:13 PM on Tuesday, March 20th, 2018

You having a rough go these days 6M$Man?

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6M$Man ( member #8344) posted at 6:17 PM on Tuesday, March 20th, 2018

Why do you ask? Speak freely.

I am trying to live a life I can respect myself for. Finally.

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Loukas ( member #47354) posted at 6:35 PM on Tuesday, March 20th, 2018

I just get a miserable impression from your posts. Being an impression it could obviously be wrong, so I asked. It wasn’t

so much from your reply to my post, but more a tone I’ve noticed in many of your posts as of late. There’s a closed-mindedness that usually comes from a place of hurt and is projected onto others...it was actually your last post in the male contraceptive thread that pushed me to ask. My question just showed up here, though either thread would be a thread jack, so my apologies folks.

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silverhopes ( member #32753) posted at 6:46 PM on Tuesday, March 20th, 2018

ADryHeat, I like what you said. All of it.

Redacted rest, not appropriate.

[This message edited by silverhopes at 12:51 AM, March 27th (Tuesday)]

Aut viam inveniam aut faciam.

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6M$Man ( member #8344) posted at 7:01 PM on Tuesday, March 20th, 2018

I just get a miserable impression from your posts. Being an impression it could obviously be wrong, so I asked.

I'm a miserable person. Always have been.

There’s a closed-mindedness that usually comes from a place of hurt and is projected onto others...it was actually your last post in the male contraceptive thread that pushed me to ask.

I'm closed-minded for sure, but not out of a place of hurt. I see the world through my own epistemological lens, same as everyone else. Hard to imagine positive things when you've never seen or experienced them. Makes me think you folks live in some alternate universe.

My question just showed up here, though either thread would be a thread jack, so my apologies folks.

I also apologize for the thread jack. Conversations like this are better done through PM.

I am trying to live a life I can respect myself for. Finally.

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Notthevictem ( member #44389) posted at 8:36 PM on Tuesday, March 20th, 2018

Back to mad max analogies for oral?

Welcome to the thunderdome!!!!

BH
DDAY Mar 2014
Widowed 2022 - breast cancer

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Notthevictem ( member #44389) posted at 9:00 PM on Friday, March 23rd, 2018

...so I read this and I get a mental image - FC spray painting her mouth chrome as she leaps off the bus, yelling out “WITNESS ME” in her ‘graduation’ to the facefuck.

I can't believe fc just let that slide... lol

BH
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emptyinokc ( member #52384) posted at 4:55 AM on Tuesday, March 27th, 2018

I have more to add after reading some other posts. Somebody mentioned about literal sucking. That reminds me how bad my very first BJ was. In highschool, neither of us knew wtf we were doing, and she LITERALLY just sucked on it. Not like a sucker that you lick, or an ice cream pop. Just SUCKED. Of course, I knew that back and forth motion worked with my hand, but I didn't know how a bj was supposed to be. Funny thing is I still came anyway. And I think she swallowed.

The person I was seeing up until last week gave me a BJ the last time I saw her and it got me thinking about how some really are more talented at it than others. She's very eager, and gets into it. She'll do whatever I ask as far as looking at me, deep throating, whatever. But she used too much teeth. And she focused too much on the base. I was just never going to get off that way. I wanted to cum in her mouth and have her swallow but it was just going to take forever so we had sex for awhile so I could get closer. I honestly felt bad that she was doing so much work and I was nowhere near finishing.

So we had sex and the plan was for me to pull out when getting close and have me finish her off but that kept not happening. As in, I was close inside her, then she'd get back to sucking, and I lost it. I got to thinking maybe she just isn't as talented. I've had some get me off in no time. Being willing to put it back in her mouth after it's been in her vagina is hot too. She did cum herself from the sex before we went back to the bj so I was happy for that.

Now I personally think you women can learn from other women better than you can from us (Looks like there is definitely one expert in this thread already!). I tried to tell her what to do but ultimately I think I just kind of grabbed her head and directed things myself (more of the tip than the base because that gets me off faster), and finally I got there. She said she nearly gagged and threw up on me a few times during that and I wasn't even deep. Bad gag reflex I guess.

Still waiting for proof that Karma is real....

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funnelcakes ( member #45249) posted at 5:04 AM on Tuesday, March 27th, 2018

...so I read this and I get a mental image - FC spray painting her mouth chrome as she leaps off the bus, yelling out “WITNESS ME” in her ‘graduation’ to the facefuck.

I can't believe fc just let that slide... lol

Uh, sorry boys, I was busy. Anything slides better than a sideways pineapple. Included the exhaust pipe on this bus.

d-day in August of 2014, when I was SAHM 34 weeks pregnant with kid #3
A year of incontinent alcoholic cheater word salad and shitweasely blameshifting during R/S
I got a job and busted a move with three kids to a 1BR apt
D final 4/27/17.

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silverhopes ( member #32753) posted at 6:49 AM on Tuesday, March 27th, 2018

I'm sorry for what I posted the last time I was here. Not the place nor the time.

Thank you guys for all the good tips! These sound fun:

Hands on/Cupping of the Sackage is helpful too while having the act performed.

I like it standing with her on her knees and is also wearing braids. I like to grab onto them for control.

Like others said its all in the enthusiasm.

having an altoid in your mouth while preforming oral sex causes a really intense hot and cold effect for the receiver which is some is VERY appreciated.

Did this recently with a lemon-mint cough drop (happened to already be sucking on it when he grabbed me). He loved it! I loved the sounds of his moans.

Also a slow non-stop wet tongue trace from the beginning of the scrotum to the head (right down the middle)... oh dam...

Also, if you swallow like you would drinking through a beverage straw.. and yes, the deeper the better..

Hell yes on the swallowing deeply. It feels good inside the mouth to do it that way too, cuz you can caress the entire shaft with your mouth and throat when you swallow.

I’ve found the best way to find out what a man likes is to - wait for it! - ask.

Waking up in the morning to it happening kicks ass.

Standing....

...on the train.

...at the supermarket.

...at the Dentist's.

Hmm. Change in venue? Being slightly risqué? The movie theatre seems to be a fun place too. Just sit in the way, way back.

but when I think of the SMOOTH head in my mouth...my tongue feeling all around the base of that sweet mushroom...and then pushing my tongue against that rock hard shaft as I go down...then sucking on that sweet thing as I go back up it.

Or sometimes, flipping the tongue up so his head presses against the underside. He likes that. I'll hold my tongue like that and then push him in farther, and it feels like resistance to him. Ohhh yeah...

OK, back to reading this thread. Thanks, everyone!

Aut viam inveniam aut faciam.

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BobPar ( member #62993) posted at 6:57 AM on Tuesday, March 27th, 2018

DDay 1 (AP1) and 2 (AP2) 2015 DDay 3 (AP 3) and 4 (AP4) 2016There was some overlap with 3 and 4)False R 2016Suspect more from exWW

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BobPar ( member #62993) posted at 6:57 AM on Tuesday, March 27th, 2018

DDay 1 (AP1) and 2 (AP2) 2015 DDay 3 (AP 3) and 4 (AP4) 2016There was some overlap with 3 and 4)False R 2016Suspect more from exWW

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1girlsmom ( member #63541) posted at 4:14 PM on Sunday, April 29th, 2018

Thanks everyone.

I thoroughly enjoyed this.

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Candyman66 ( member #52535) posted at 5:05 PM on Sunday, April 29th, 2018

I think I need a cigarette now!! No I don't smoke (cigarettes) but the symbolism! Just say'n

edited to add (cigs)

[This message edited by Candyman66 at 11:07 AM, April 29th (Sunday)]

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Jewel44 ( member #59265) posted at 7:12 PM on Sunday, April 29th, 2018

Decide not to go to church today.

Pull up a chair next to ADryheat and Sallyshrink81

Where in the hell is my notebook...pen?

Diet Coke (check) Kitkat (check)

I need to learn this shit! Getting out of a 30 year marriage

Now, I'll go back and start from the beginning of the thread.

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MrMagnolia ( member #63147) posted at 8:33 PM on Sunday, April 29th, 2018

Way late to this conversation but it's one I can't ever step away from without sharing a few hundred words as to my thoughts on it (and there's are probably at least 22,000 floating around my head).

NSFW.....and maybe NSFL but you asked so.....

Ahem.....

Fuck yes, I love receiving (and giving) oral sex. In general as someone else mentioned earlier it is like pizza and even when it's really bad it's still worth it. The only real exception to this would be in those cases where the giver has difficulty bringing me to a finish with her mouth and I can tell no matter what I say or do it's a blow to her ego. To be clear I still really do enjoy the act of it but watching the disappointment wash over there face just isn't worth it. It's a problem I have never really figured out how to approach because while I have had a few women ask me for specific advice I have learned that giving it to them just seems to make it worse (with one shining exclusion I'll call Jessie and whose name will be sung in the heavens for all eternity if I ever accidentally get let it).

Thoughts on Preferences.

1) Man Standing - woman on the knees. Excellent for blowjobs that are meant to be either quick finishers, aggressive, and/or are done as lead in it's to aggressive (usually male dominate position heavy) sex. Usually not great for BJ's that are meant to be a little slower as the positioning usually isn't the most comfortable for an extended period of time.

2) Man Standing/kneeling - Women on all fours (preferably naked . This style gives an excellent visual presentation especially for those among the male population that are drawn towards a woman's backside and/or if your man really likes 's doggy style. Like 1) not great for an extended period of time as the positions aren't ones that are generally comfortable being in for extended periods of time. because of difficulty with aiming/lining up comfort this one isn't perfect for all partners and placement of pillows can be very helpful (adjustable height beds can be helpful here as well). If your not lining it up properly teeth scrapes (not the good kind) can happen pretty easily.

3) Man sitting - Woman Kneeling - Probably the most versatile of positions and pretty much equally prefered for slow roasters all the way up to In-and-out drive through servicings. I think this is the ideal position for making eye contact and if you are comfortable enough to do it dirty talk. I've had partners in the past who added in a strip tease to this and it's worked wonders (starting off fully or mostly clothed and then stripping down to lingerie or less). The place where this position really shines IMO if it's done as a lead in to more female dominate positions especially if and when dirty talk can be carried over. Excellent if you plan on or like to add in some Congo Bongos to the creative process here.

4) Man laying down. I often have difficulty finishing quickly in this position personally (though I've heard with others this isnt't necessarily the case). For that reason I would only suggest this position for a faster pace if you are planning on giving either a short lead-in to sex aggressive bj or having some pretty incredible stamina because it can be a marathon to get the finish line.

4.01) Lean close and listen up here because I started a NEW bullet point for a reason. The following is absolutely my favorite and I've only ever had two competent 4.01 partners and that would be out of...well let's just say a few more than most I would imagine. Same position as 4) really shines when performing a slow-burn heavy tease handjob combination blowjob that can build up slightly at times but eventually the slow teasing causing a buildup in tension to the point I just can't stand to hold it in another instant that leads to some of my all-time most powerful finishes (seriously take a step back if I give warning). I wasn't timing any of these but I'm guessing alot of them lasted past the 20 minute mark. DO NOT USE only your mouth for 20 minutes straight unless your really sure you're okay with that because I know/have seen that it can cause some really uncomfortable pain both at the time and even chewing, talking, doing nothing for some time after additionally, I don't think it would be as effective for reasons I'll explain shortly. The combo hand/mouth here is mentioned for a couple of reasons. For doing something that could potentially take so long you aren't going to get worn out and the times when you do use anything from the slightest flick of the tonge, to dip a toe in and test the water, all the way up to a full sword-swallowing trick and seeing how long you can hold your breathe before you pass out, it will have that much more of an impact. As it was explained to me the hand is ideally being you used primairly to keep the tension of arousal present through massage and one way to build up tension/relieve it would be through a good firm (not death) grip around the base of the penis.

I dated a girl for over two years that had her tease it out technique down to an artform. Talk about controling someone else? She twice teased me through my boxers well enough that I didn't even get them off (at least until I had a solid snack/water break and regrouped) before we were finished. There was a mental aspect/component that she often incorporated that seemed to ratchet up the situation to level 11 as well. That being that she told me we were going to play a game and before hand she always let me know "I want you to finish don't care where etc. I won't actually be mad etc." Then once she started she would tell me I wasn't going to allowed to come in "x" way (mouth, face, until she said, it got creative at times and using your imagination here is helpful) then whatever "x" was becoming a part of the game of building up the tension. She would often tease me with "x" or even start in very focused and determined on "X" but then very quickly back off and maintain arousal/tension but bring the intensity level back down again. All of this was done will occasionally (sometimes lightly, sometimes harshly) that I wasn't allowed to "x".

Now how's that for TMI? I swear this woman was capable of ending war in the Middle East if she choose to do so and was given appropriate time and license to perform her craft. To be honest after I split with the STBXW I thought about calling her up withing about a month of the split before recalling all the reasons it didn't work past the above mentioned reminded me why that was a bad idea.

Other notes?

Stuff that CAN have a big impact.

-Eye Contact

-Understanding your partner's erogenous zones

-Mix-it-up! in terms of which position, speed, overall technique etc. and even for me 4.01) needs to be done in moderation. Repeating the same pattern of anything over and over again can lessen the impact.

-Know your audience Dirty Talk (I've had some things said that were just waaaaaay out of bounds for me that had the opposite effect and some things that would be way out of bounds for others that had a great effect)

-I would say it's usually a good idea to incorporate your hands in some fashion or another it doesn't have to be the mano/mouth combo like in 4.01) exactly but that's a decent template to start from. Another favorite of mine was a partner who liked to wear long nails and tease with them. At one point while in 1) she really ramped up the intensity volume when she went really hard and fast and started gripping my ass like she was trying to force me deeper down her throat.

-Deepthroating - If you can do this it really does feel incredible but if you can't or can only take doing it a few times that's fine as well. DO NOT PUSH it. It can end....poorly...very poorly (I'll save the story behind this for other even more NSFW threads). There's nothing wrong with the standardized way of doing things and 4.01) was achievable without it so it's not the here all end all of blowjobbing that I've heard some pronounce it as being.

Okay, There's more of course but I'll stop now before I give away my entire dissertation on the subject.

Edit.....

Okay last one I swear.

For some men (and I don't know of when where this hasn't been the case) whenever we are about to climax having a light tug down on the testicles at that exact instant is sort of like the differece between hitting a homerun that just creeps over the wall into the stands and hitting one that is still rising when it clears ALL of the stands out of the park and hits a car in the parking lot 800 yards away. Not big on baseball imargery? It's mind blowing how powerful that can be. Again know your audience but if you think they might be interested in this? Find out!

[This message edited by MrMagnolia at 2:39 PM, April 29th (Sunday)]

The only hope you have is to accept the fact that your marriage is already dead. The sooner you accept that, the sooner you’ll be able to function as you are supposed to function: without mercy, without fear, without remorse.

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Jada4Max ( member #43987) posted at 6:42 AM on Tuesday, May 1st, 2018

Oh my,

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MrMagnolia ( member #63147) posted at 2:41 PM on Tuesday, May 1st, 2018

You know that part in the documentary "The Aristocrats" where Bob Sagat is asked to tell the infamous off-color joke the movie's title is derived from? You know it's that moment when the comedian is seemingly reluctant to comply with the filmmaker's request but then gives in and in doing so gives the world a glimpse of his inner mind in a way that guarantees that the public will never be able to look at him or at Danny Tanner the same way again?

That's the way I feel whenever subjects along this line come up both here on the internet but especially in real life. Wasn't kidding about those 22,000 words by the way. I am pretty confident that I could easily produce a novella on the subject matter at hand.

[This message edited by MrMagnolia at 8:42 AM, May 1st (Tuesday)]

The only hope you have is to accept the fact that your marriage is already dead. The sooner you accept that, the sooner you’ll be able to function as you are supposed to function: without mercy, without fear, without remorse.

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Cheatee ( member #59284) posted at 12:01 PM on Thursday, May 3rd, 2018

Although I like giving even more than receiving, I like receiving in any position possible. It's more about pure indulgence and accepting a partner's generosity than anything else.

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