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It seems doubtful that any woman would go down on a man for HER ego

Really?

Is it so hard to imagine that somebody might want to perform that particular act for the power they believe they have over another person's pleasure and that by providing orgasm to another there is a bit of a power trip of saying, even if it's in one's own head, of "yep, you're welcome".

I think it’s a stretch, yes.

I had several partners that liked to give - they enjoyed giving pleasure as well as receiving.

I never asked but never refused if offered.

I don't get the "sucking" part - the real thing doesn't suck - in fact, if you are not hard enough it will push you out!

To me the best is to slide back and forth mimic the feeling of the vagina sliding

The build up can be slow and the release really

(maybe not best word) explosive.

Even if the big event doesn't happen - still feels wonderful!

The "swallow" question baffles me. Who really give a snort? If you (ladies) don't want to swallow, have a washcloth to deposit in when needed. And alcohol definitely make the "taste"

stronger according to an authority I know

I agree with Notfromhere. That is interesting for you to bring up 6M$Man...I've never felt this way about it. I do love to prolong the orgasm...it makes for an exciting finish...but it is more to make the pleasure last longer...not a power trip. I would think if a woman was to do this...it wouldn't keep the man hard for very long. I will be anxious to see how other women feel about this!!!

I agree with Notfromhere. That is interesting for you to bring up 6M$Man...I've never felt this way about it. I do love to prolong the orgasm...it makes for an exciting finish...but it is more to make the pleasure last longer...not a power trip. I would think if a woman was to do this...it wouldn't keep the man hard for very long. I will be anxious to see how other women feel about this!!!

Both of you in agreement with each other should count yourselves fortunate to have not encountered people who like to use sex as a weapon or tool of manipulation. I've experienced it all too frequently, and I'm certain a fair degree of my overall disdain for sex stems from having experiences with partners who used access to sex as a reward or its withholding as a punishment as a means to attempt to modify my behavior...or to try to put into practice the old axiom "a man is like a hardwood floor - lay them right the first time and you can walk all over them for the rest of your life".

Yes, I am quite bitter. My current attitude is based on my past experiences and those have been, collectively, shit.

[This message edited by 6M$Man at 6:54 AM, March 16th (Friday)]

I mean ok, I also had my partner withhold sex and I thought it was unfair, but I didn’t think it was used as a reward or punishment. More that when things were good between us he wanted that kind of intimacy with me and when they weren’t he didn’t.

I have a high sex drive but I think that mostly women are interested in sex (or not), based on what is going on for them on an emotional level. Are you confusing the two perhaps? Or maybe you are attracting a lot of disordered women? I don’t know.

Or maybe you are attracting a lot of disordered women? I don’t know.

Bingo!

The women I've had relationships with in the past have a few qualities in common:

1. Forward. They made the initial introduction when we first met; they put in more work to try to establish a relationship; they were always the initiators of sex.

2. Unresolved emotional issues. Past traumas and "daddy issues".

3. Slightly morbid sense of humor which accommodated my peculiarities.

"a man is like a hardwood floor - lay them right the first time and you can walk all over them for the rest of your life"

I am so saddened to see you had THIS type of experience (((HUGS))).

I am so saddened to see you had THIS type of experience (((HUGS))).

For every person who has positive experiences where intimacy is concerned, there is another person who has poor experiences. Everything is in balance.

I'm slowly learning to be at peace with it. My anger about all of it is directed towards myself far more than it is towards anyone else.

You aren't doing anything earth-shattering for me nor anything that will ever burn it's way into my memory.

I'm sorry dude, but I have to disagree with this.. If I could get the same experience from am ex from 20 years ago again.. Woah..

She loved to experiment with oral and there were some sensations I have categorized as unique cause never felt those again.. She had some serious skills!

I really need to get off this dam bus...

One piece of advice I'd give to women - don't act like you're doing me some sort of favor by sucking my dick. You aren't doing anything earth-shattering for me nor anything that will ever burn it's way into my memory. Don't pretend that you're doing it for my benefit when I can very easily discern when you're actually doing it for your own ego - if you're the type that needs to feel like you suck a mean dick, I'll know it.

It does feel powerful to provide pleasure to someone, and I do take pride and joy in providing pleasure to someone, whether that's sharing a wonderful sexual experience, cooking a tasty dinner, bringing them a little gift when they're having a bad day or whatever. I think the problem is abusing the power to provide pleasure and using it as a weapon. That's grotesque. I don't doubt you experienced it because SI has certainly opened my eyes to some of the horrible things that some personality-disordered people can do, but I don't think that should stop people from thinking, "Yeah, I think I'm great at giving blow jobs and I want to give my partner that pleasure." or to hope that it gives their partner fond memories. I'm not expecting my partner to fawn on me as though I had hung the stars and moon in the sky, but a "Thank you. I really enjoyed that." never goes amiss.

I'm sorry dude, but I have to disagree with this.. If I could get the same experience from am ex from 20 years ago again.. Woah..

You disagree because we've had vastly different experiences. The absolute best sexual experiences I've ever had in my life produced less physical sensation than I get from a decent sneeze during seasonal allergies.

Well I for one am going to get to experiment a little with my GF tonight. She is hung up on making me shoot a wad from a BJ. She told me to tell her EXACTLY what and how I like it and she'll do it. Also told me to make more freakin noises- that it REALLY turns her on hearing me get off. I'm not sure if she's a spitter or a swallower, I'll probably find out tonight

All I can think while reading your post GoingCrazyNow is...AN-TI-CI-PA-TION !!!

LilBlackCat...would you care to elaborate on those skills ??? Inquiring minds WANT to know !!!

LittleBlackCat Inquisitive minds wants to know!! What skills?? What experiments?? Please don’t hesitate to use details since this thread is already R or maybe X rated!!!

oh boy.. well.. She loved to take it all the way down.. grab on my hips and pull me in.. millimeters felt like centimeters.. That warmth in places that normally do not make it in... Now getting warmth like that..

and the swallowing thing.. would just pull in what felt like large percentage of my blood volume there...

Sometimes she would do all the way down and then lick the guys at the same time..

Like I mentioned previously.. the lick from backside of scrotum to the tip in one long slow movement... by the time she got to the tip.. the anticipation was like dam.. then she'd going on him and sometimes after to or three movements would take him all the way down.. all that in a row.. made it hard to keep quiet. Luckily we would always go to motels.. Lol!

She loved to give them attention as well.. she had this method that made me be like a fish out of water on the bed... There was no being quiet there.. Her tongue.. omg..

ahh.. I need to get laid!!!!!!!!

There was one thing she did at first, till I felt comfortable enuf to ask her to stop was jab the backside of my scrotum when I came.. I guess, previous liked it.. It didn't do anything for me tho..

One a different note, one thing I really miss was that if we were doing it doggy... she'd do a soft kegel move and would basically wrap him like a tight glove when I came.. I swore it felt like her vagina was giving me a bj as it felt like it in a way.

I'm here all horny now guys..

LilBlackCat 🎶 did you ever know you’re my hero?