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Freeme ( member #31946) posted at 2:44 PM on Wednesday, July 20th, 2016
files a bunch of motions to wear you down and eventually get you to stop fighting and just settle.
Horrible strategy when you realize she has zero money to do this with. I know you have been documenting everything and you don't sound worried (just annoyed). Let us know how court goes and good luck.
Also, if this is their strategy be extra careful, shes looking for anything to hang you on.
Marc878 ( member #52592) posted at 4:39 PM on Wednesday, July 20th, 2016
Ramp up your exposure. Easy enough.
When things get really bad they can always get worse so be prepared. However, the sun will come up in the AM and you can get through it.
redsox13 ( member #43391) posted at 5:52 PM on Wednesday, July 20th, 2016
Well that is one way of running up your billable time.
In your response ask for costs.
BS - 45
fWW - 43
Simply getting better.
WornDown ( member #37977) posted at 6:36 PM on Wednesday, July 20th, 2016
In your response ask for costs.
This. Especially if you have documented proof that all of her allegations are false. Most courts are very busy and take a dim view of clogging them up with frivolous BS.
Me: BH (50); exW (49): Way too many guys to count. Three kids (D, D, S, all >20)Together 25 years, married 18; Divorced (July 2015)
I divorced a narc. Separate everything. NC as much as humanly possible and absolutely no phone calls. - Ch
Freeme ( member #31946) posted at 10:11 AM on Saturday, July 23rd, 2016
I will ask the attorney what I can do about that on Friday wen I get to spend money defending myself against the baseless allegations she brought last week.
How did court go?
mblink (original poster member #52745) posted at 11:32 AM on Saturday, July 23rd, 2016
Yesterday was an attorney meting to respond to her allegations. We responded with a no to everything. The hearing on her emergency motion is August 3rd, right in the middle of what I hoped would be vacation.
The attorney instructed me to keep doing what I have been doing. We may get hooked with some type of emergency support for a month until she goes back to work, she starts August 14, but the only way that can happen is if she gives me exclusive rights to the house. That may be a good trade off. Currently, she comes and goes as she wants mostly she is here when I am at work or she knows I'll be gone. Thursday she came here and did laundry, ate, left a mess and took some more stuff. I'm sure she will be here this weekend as the kids and I are going out of town.
I did get good news on the payoff front, after everything is divided and we split the house equity....... I will owe less than 10k dollars. This was a relief because I didn't know what amount I would be looking at paying her. I can live with that amount.
According to the kids, her rental house will not be ready until the second week of August so her moving of the furniture is delayed until then. That sucks because I am brining stuff back this weekend from buddy's house to replace what she is taking. This is part of the reason for the trip.
Ginny ( member #43196) posted at 3:41 PM on Sunday, July 24th, 2016
Exclusive rights to the house sounds like something that would be a big relief! You're doing great.
BW49
FWH50
DDay 11-02-13
Married 30 years
2 month PA/EA with COW
DS28
Trying to R
Freeme ( member #31946) posted at 5:14 PM on Sunday, July 24th, 2016
Exclusive rights to the house sounds like something that would be a big relief! You're doing great.
I agree. What a relief not to have to wonder if she's home, what she is up to?
Sounds like things are going as well as a divorce can.
ChangeMaker ( member #43899) posted at 5:10 PM on Monday, July 25th, 2016
Keep your chin up, Blink, you're doing great.
I just wanted to let you know that we're still here pullin' for ya!
I must not fear. Fear is the mind-killer. I will permit it to pass over me and through me.
DDay - June 2014
DD 2008 & 2011
Divorced April 1, 2015
Lyonesse ( member #32943) posted at 6:21 PM on Monday, July 25th, 2016
That sucks because I am brining stuff back this weekend from buddy's house to replace what she is taking. This is part of the reason for the trip.
Maybe you could rent a storage locker for a month. i did this during a move and it only cost about $35 for a 6' x 8' locker (which I fit a surprising amount of stuff in, stacked up.
Might be better until you have exclusive use of the house.
good luck with court stuff!
mike7 ( member #38603) posted at 8:45 PM on Wednesday, July 27th, 2016
is she still dating her cousin/AP? Do her mother and your joint friends know the whole story now?
when she was saying she was sorry, did you ever ask for the details?
just curious. It's probably healthier if you simply don't care about that stuff now.
good luck friend. you'll be free soon. 
BH 60
WW 58
Two grown kids
DDay 1/15/2013
Marc878 ( member #52592) posted at 2:51 AM on Sunday, July 31st, 2016
Won't be long now. You holding up ok?
When things get really bad they can always get worse so be prepared. However, the sun will come up in the AM and you can get through it.
mblink (original poster member #52745) posted at 12:11 PM on Wednesday, August 3rd, 2016
Hearing today on her emergency motion. I get to participate via phone. Kids and I are at the beach for a couple of days. Hopefully, things go my way and we keep moving forward.
bluewater ( member #9297) posted at 1:07 PM on Wednesday, August 3rd, 2016
Fingers crossed for you today mblink.
Hope you are enjoying the time with your kids at the beach.
nme1 ( member #44360) posted at 1:40 PM on Wednesday, August 3rd, 2016
Me: BS
Him: WS
M 16 yrs 2 x DS
D-Day 6th March 2014
mike7 ( member #38603) posted at 3:10 PM on Wednesday, August 3rd, 2016
lol - i've got to tell you Mblink. I love that. You and the kids are relaxing on the beach. Your ww is sweating, making emergency motions, trying to figure out how to scramble together a life. lol.
i hope the hearing works out well.
BH 60
WW 58
Two grown kids
DDay 1/15/2013
WornDown ( member #37977) posted at 4:10 PM on Wednesday, August 3rd, 2016
Me: BH (50); exW (49): Way too many guys to count. Three kids (D, D, S, all >20)Together 25 years, married 18; Divorced (July 2015)
I divorced a narc. Separate everything. NC as much as humanly possible and absolutely no phone calls. - Ch
5454real ( member #37455) posted at 4:29 PM on Wednesday, August 3rd, 2016
BH 58, WW 49
DS 31(Mine),SD 29,SS 28(Hers),DS 16 Ours, DGS 11, DGD 8, DGS 3
D=Day #1 5/04EA (Rugswept)
D-Day #2 3/10/12, TT til 3/13/12
Married 13yrs
"I have no love for a friend who loves in words alone."
― Sophocle
Curious9 ( member #48433) posted at 4:45 PM on Wednesday, August 3rd, 2016
GabyBaby ( member #26928) posted at 5:01 PM on Wednesday, August 3rd, 2016
Sending TONS of mojo your way!!!
Me - late 40s
DD(27), DS(24, PDD-NOS)
WH#2 (SorryinSac)- Killed himself (May 2015) in our home 6 days after being served divorce docs.
XWH #1 - legally married 18yrs. 12+ OW (that I know of).
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