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:::nekorb walks up to OW sitting at table in public place and throws her last Mother's Day card in front of OW:::

N: Read it

Ow: " I can't imagine taking this journey with anyone but you. I love you. WH"

N: Yeah. And do you know what happened next? Two weeks later he got an email from you telling him you had feelings for him. Two weeks after that I got the ILYBINILWY speech, but he said there wasn't anyone else and he wanted to go to counseling and work on our marriage. A week later he was fucking YOU while I was out of town with the kids.

So, the next time you wonder why my kids don't want to spend time with you or don't like you, know that it's because you are a home wrecker and a whore, and they know it.

I've been with WH since you were NINE years old. If you think for one second you know him better than I do because you've been fucking him six ways since Sunday for 2.5 years, you're dumber than your FB posts make you out to be.

Btw - unicorns *do not* exist. The mere fact that you expressed to my children that you truly believe they do is frightening beyond words.

And to YOU, WH, I wish you could see how truly ridiculous you look together. You have become "that guy" - that middle aged guy who, as soon as his girlfriend opens his mouth, everyone knows he's just with her because she's an easy lay. Whether you say it or not, or they know you or not, they know that you cheated on your family to be with the dumb whore. No man your age is interested in a woman her age, who is that ridiculous, unless she's fucking him blind.

YOU ARE AN IDIOT. It's not too late to change that. I don't want you back, but it's not too late to make better decisions regarding your relationship with the whore. It's not too late to salvage your relationship with the kids.

I can't believe you haven't talked to our daughter in almost four weeks. Your like a fucking child! You've dragged the kids into the power struggle you have with ME over the whore. None of us, myself included, would object to you having a relationship with a decent woman, regardless of her age. All of us universally object to this stupid whore. If you weren't so blinded by her vagina, you would see what the rest of us see.

How does your brother feel about her? Oh yeah - he refuses to meet her, because he can see fro her FB page that she's a white trash whore and she's going to be trouble.

Why don't you start listening to people. Breaking up with OW doesn't mean giving up control to me or anyone else, it means you take back control from OW. You're being led around by your dick and even our kids can see it.

You parent OW's kids more than you parent your own, and they can see that to.

You just don't give a shit.

Because you're a selfish, fucking NPD bastard.

Go nekorb!!

However........

unicorns *do not* exist.

In their world they do, otherwise their heads wouldn't be stuck up the unicorns ass......it's the unicorn I feel sorry for!

I am sorry for how he is treating your kids, he will regret it one day, probably when it's too late. My dad had an affair and was with Dumbass OW for 12 years but he never asked us to meet her, never moved in with her as we hated her, didn't ask for her to be at our weddings etc. Only time I really met her was when he died. Your ex is just plain stupid. His kids will be there long after stupid has gone - but not if he continues down this road!!

Here's hoping this makes me feel better. I'm constantly fighting to urge to tell him how I feel, although he has proven that he does not care how I feel.

WH -

Was it worth it? That cheap piece of young, stupid ass? You were fired from your job, your kids can barely look at you, the neighbors won't speak to you, and I am divorcing you. We have to sell our house, the one we dreamed about for so long. I will be taking an enormous chunk of your money.

I am the person who you called your best fried, the person you were planning your future with, until 6 months ago when AP came along. She must really be something, huh. Oh wait, no, I've seen her Facebook, she's an uneducated bumpkin who wears sweatpants with PINK on the ass. Perfect match for a fifty-something year old man.The ego kibbles must have been super-awesome.

You have lost the respect of everyone who knows what happened, no matter how you try to spin it. You haven't even told your mom. What do you think she just won't notice I'm gone?

You have destroyed the future we planned together. Now, I have to start over, but at least I have the kids. They will stand by me, even if their father didn't.

You told me you wanted to be with OW. Why haven't the two of you skipped off into unicorn-fairyland together? Is she distancing herself? Need time? Hmmm? In short, why are you still here? I am divorcing you. It isn't just going to go away. It would be easier for me if you would just go be with her. You two deserve each other.

You act like nothing has happened, but everything has changed. There isn't a moment in the day when I'm not thinking about this. I pray for the day when I can get through an hour without you crossing my mind. A day without the ache of finding out how very little I mean to you, that would be a true blessing.

I don't know how you live with yourself. How you look at your face in a mirror. I wouldn't be able to. Everyone has always told me that I am too good for you. Turns out they were right.

With All Sincerity,

MMQ

(Thanks, igglepiggle)

So, you're going on vacation with the whore and her kids. How NICE for you.

Do you realize how long it been since you took OUR kids anywhere? You were still living in the house and we were in false R three YEARS ago!

I know you told the kids you were taking them somewhere this summer, you'd better fucking do it.

Oh - and I'm sure DS took note of the fact that you are going on your cruise, but say you don't have money to help him pay for college. You have money for what you want to have money for. Plain and simple. He sees you. He isn't stupid.

I can't stand you. I just can't. I don't understand how you can treat our kids this way. You are NPD through and through.

Oh -and I'm sure the judge is going to love that your support is in arrears, you haven't paid me the other amounts you were ordered to pay me, you owe me for medical, yet you're going on a cruise.

Nice, douchebag.

Evil Nekorb will NOT send CAT a text asking if he's cruising to Douchebagistan.

I know you truly want our family to stay together.

I know that all of our family really want us to stay together.

I'm hugging tiny GS now, I love my family so , so much.

I just don't love you.

Most of the time, I don't even like you.

I'm trying to be kind - but you keep mistaking this for R.

I'll never reconcile with what you have done.

I just realized that you are missing DS's last Big Event *EVER* while you are on vacay with your fucked up wanna be replacement family.

HIS LAST ONE, you fucker.

If I ever hear you utter anything that resembles "my kids come first" in front of me ever, ever again, I might just unleash on you.

FUCK YOU.

Every single fear I ever had about you, all the worst ones, always turn out to be true. You are now off buttering up someone else you CREEP. I feel sorry for her, whoever she is, but I still hate you for it and it still hurts like hell that you couldn't care enough about me to mourn me after all your declarations of endless love. You don't know what love is. You can't feel.

No information is good information. Nothing can come of any form of contact except more pain. You are such a piece of shit. I can't wait for the day I hear your name or your face pops into my mind and I just feel indifferent. I really can't wait. I'm so sick of this pain and of realising who and what you are. I don't deserve any of this pain. I didn't deserve to meet you

you piece of fish-eyed lizard skin.

you twisted tongue

you penis with a reptile brain

you cardboard cutout

you flat photocopy of a human being

you parrot in jeans

you flat image

you gust of poison air

you walking STD

you vampire

you leech

you parasite

you paranormal abnormality

you phantom ghosthunter

you fake sound

you Houdini the escape artist who will always find the loopholes in his own logic, his agreements, his promises, basic trust, the social pact, community, being together, basic human relating

you disgusting loser who will always set the terms and always win against we who empathise

you controlling, manipulative puppeteer

you puppeteer

you puller of strings

you weaver of spiderwebs

you disgusting seducer of women

you empty ego

you victimiser

you predator

you crocodile

you evil, evil creature

you sweet split tongued seducer

you smooth voiced hypnotist

you slime

you devour and spit out what you envy

I spit on you.

You tried calling me at 10:00 last night, but I didn't answer and you didn't leave a message.

I have to admit, I'm curious...

And now today you're not at work. This is the 4th day you've missed just since the first of the year.

To think you blew our world apart so you could go "be happy" with the whore. You're a fucking mess.

So after 6 months strict NC you ask your parents how I am, tell them you aren't sure I would want you to contact me!!

I know you are on self destruct, I know you have lied at work and rung in sick then been seen out with whorenado! I know you look miserable. I know you don't care about anyone except yourself and the baby. I know you will never admit you were wrong. I know you will never admit you are unhappy. How on earth was it worth it!!! What the hell is the matter with you? Do you ever sit and think about me, about what we could have had........nope don't think you do.

So tonight you text your mum 'you hope I am well'. When she asked if she should pass it on you reply with.....you can if you want. I am off to bath baby now.......

What the fuck is wrong with you tithead!!!!

And today it gets worse......you have been signed off work with depression!! Really this great new life?? You pretend to your folks everything is ok. You are happy with the baby but then what?

Is this a real breakdown? Is this so work cannot discipline you for lying and being seen out on sick days? Is this so you can more time off with the baby and psychomoose? Wonder if she thinks her prize is as good as she thought!!

You blew up everything we had for this......Really was it worth it? Give up everything to be more unhappy. I have to ask myself is this really what he wanted!!

Why do you think it is okay to ask me how I am??? You left me for Slutty McSlutterson. You told me that you couldn't be the friend/husband I needed. You told me how unfair this was to me and how life is too short. FUCK YOU! You don't get to ask me how I am and you sure as hell don't get to be my friend. Again, these were all CHOICES that you made. You didn't accidentally fall naked into her vagina. Now you want to schedule time for us to talk???!?!!!! What kind of crazy person do you think I am? There is nothing to talk about except the separation/divorce that you have done nothing about. I can't believe the Asshat you have become. I can and do take my share of the responsability of things in our 20+ year marriage and 3 kids that communication wasn't our priority anymore, but I tried. You my dear, did squat. You even lied to your IC. You wrote me wonderful letters of how you loved me, our life together and the family we have. Somehow on DDay #2 none of it meant anything, it was all driven by guilt and shame. You know what, SUCK IT. You were right about something though, I DESERVE BETTER. As soon as this ride is over, I will be better and I will have better in my life. You can watch from the sidelines you fucking coward.

I'm sooooo tired.

Now we've got a big week of sorting things out.

Can you find it in yourself to get to the point please?

I'm guessing not - my goodness, you love the sound of your own voice.

You Prat!

MOB

Still lying?

Huh. Now I know why you refuse to get to the point refuse to answer questions refuse to talk about anything relevant - so you won't have to lie.

Covering your arse with silence, manipulation and obfuscation isn't going to cut it you stupid twerp.

You're the one who professes to want to stay married, so long as you keep trying to rugsweeping - I'm OUT.

Why?

I just want to know why?

Why her?

Why not me?

Why her two kids?

Why not ours?

Why your feelings?

Why not mine? Why not our childrens'?

Why now? 6 DAYS after your daughter was born!

And how?

I just want to know how?

How long have you two been together?

How could you make this choice?

How could I not know?

How has it been so easy for you?

How can you meet replace me so fast?

How can you act so shameless?

How have I, your wife of 9 years, the mother of your 2 year old and infant, become so dispensible?

How could you throw it all away?

How do I go on?

One month after D-Day, I am changed. I am surviving my biggest fear: living without you. I read a quote today, and it read, "So far you have survived 100% of your worst days". And it's true. I have survived.

At first I wanted you back. I begged. Like a fool, I begged. It's true, I still want you. I want the you I thought you were back, not the man you are today. I want my security back, I want my dreams back. I want these feelings to go away, I want you to show remorse, I want you to feel the pain and fear I live with. I secretly, and shamefully, wish you pain- I send you the crushing pain you put on me. I don't want it. It's yours. I hate your girlfriend. I have never really hated anyone before, but I HATE HER. she knew I was pregnant, she knew we had a family, she knew the pain of infedility herself, and she chose to cause pain to another. Misery loves company, she preyed on our martial difficulties. Well now she has company, someone else's shitty husband.

I want more. I want to find healing. I to be loved. I want my girls to be cherished. I want to ensure them a childhood.

I ache, but I choose to be powerful. I chose to accept this pain and hope to grow. You sent me on a dark path, but I refuse to be lost. I will heal. I will, I will. Will you?

(((Alonebutnotlonly)))

You are so, so, so ,so selfish.

It's all about you .

It's ALWAYS been all about you - and fuck-all has changed.

30 years of your selfish, disrespectful betrayals - and it's all STILL everything about you.

Your mental illnesses

Your confusion

Your dysfunction

Know this - you arsehole.

MOB hates you.

To WW:

Fuck you and your evil ways

[edit: too late, already sent it to her ... but I'm not really NC yet, so it's okay]

Actual conversation:

XWH: So, are you still not talking to me?

Me: Nothing to talk about...

What I want to say:

No, I do not want to talk to you. I find you revolting and disgusting.

No, I do not want to talk to you. You stole money from DSs college accounts, and when I asked about it your said it was in the past and I needed to get over it.

No, I do not want to talk to you. You youngest DS turned 13 and you did not even send a card or a present?

No, I do not want to talk to you. You may be trying to convince the rest of the world that you are still a good guy, but God, DSs and I know the truth.

Omg. I still miss you sometimes. Today is one of those times.

How come I still miss you??? You betrayed me in the worst possible way. And I'm sure YOU don't miss ME -- you're living with a nasty ass skank.

Days like today, I'm so afraid I will never truly get over you.

WTF.

More than 2 years already…

I still think about you

I still miss you…or who I thought you were

I still think about how happy I was with you

I still remember our 5 Christmas together…the first and last were the most special of my life

I still remember our interminable conversations

I still remember how we used to watch sports together

I still remember our baseball Sundays…How you loved me to go watch you play and root for you

I still remember our sweet home

I still remember how you made fun of me because I laughed at every single stupid thing you said

I still remember our adventures, road trips, hikes…

I still remember our long weekends spent camping next to the river…oh how we enjoyed the driving

I still remember how at least once a week you would spend hours in the kitchen cooking for me

I still remember how we used to look at other couples not talking and we just couldn’t imagine a life like that…we would make a conversation out of anything

I still remember how we used to cuddle in our couch

I still remember that we always slept with our feet entrelazados…

I still remember how no matter how mad you were at me you always called me by my nickname

I still remember the day we decided to have a baby…you were so happy that I finally felt ready

I still remember our last road trip…a week before DDAY…how we were crying because we were so happy together, we felt so blessed

I still remember our last Christmas together when we traveled to visit my family and I introduced you for the first time to them…how they accepted you with love because of me. They treated you as family and that made you feel so special

10 days after that it was over…

And when I think about that day

I still remember the horrible pain I felt that day when I found those text messages

I still remember how for three months I would cry my eyes every single day

I still remember all the stupid excuses you made…always being a coward and blaming others for your mistakes

I still remember how you swear to my face for your mother’s life that it wasn’t true…that day you lost me

I still remember how when I used to suspect something you would call me crazy and you would make me feel guilty and sooo small for being insecure.

I still remember my pain and anger when I found out who was the OW…REALLY??? WTF were you thinking? A married woman…15 years older than me, with 4 kids and a grandkid? Who would say hi to me every single morning? Who would pretend was my friend, and you were fucking her for YEARS!!??? Do you have a fucking idea how humiliating that is?? Do you have a fucking idea how I felt???!!! How in the world did you expect me to forgive you after that?? HOW STUPID DID YOU THINK I WAS???!!!

I hate that still think about you!! You do not deserve anymore of my time but here I am after two years going thru the rollercoaster of emotions once again…I hate you for that. I hate that I gave you my heart and all my love and you are just a pathetic sociopath. I hate you for wasting my time, my energy and my love.

AND NO I do not wish you the best. Not today, not for now…I refuse to be the “greatest person” today, TODAY In fact I wish you what you deserve: a sad and pathetic life wherever you are.