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Sorry, Sazzy.

Shit happens. You'll get through this.

It will be expensive. Listen to your attorney's advice.

I happen to know a bunch of people with DWI's, and all of them got their license back after legal fees, suspensions, driving school, etc.

The first time.

I strongly recommend there not be a second time. It gets ugly, fast.

(((SADinAZ)))

Giving you hugs anyway.

NOW that I've hugged you, [[[shaking you]]], what the hell??? You could have been killed, or you could have been the one to live the rest of your life in prison for killing someone else.

I know we don't KNOW each other, but I care about you and I'm not talented at sugarcoating.

PLEASE, make better choices. We could have lost you. You have been through enough BS in your life already. I am so glad you are ok and so shocked to be reading all of this. Good luck in court.

Thank you; yes I do know better. Saying it will never happen again is empty because this is ruinous right now. The financial implications alone could do me in. But I'm actually happy that I'm not involved with anyone; I couldn't face that further embarrassment.

This is a stupid action that I shouldn't have to learn from.

((( Saz )))

Oh Sazzy, that is certainly a scary wake-up call.

I know people who have messed up worse and pulled through wiser for it.

Sending strength and legal mojo. So glad you are ok.

(((Sad)))

I am glad you are ok and that no one was physically hurt.

I don't have anything to say that would add to what everyone else has already said.

I know several responsible, respectable adults who have made the same error in judgment and they have gotten through the legal difficulties, made the restitution and moved on wiser and are ok.

TH is right. A first offense is a whole different animal than a second offense. I'm sure there won't be a second.

There are lawyers who specialize in DWI's and everything is basically done behind the scenes.

Just sending support.

Whilst you might not want it, I am going to give you a forced hug (((Sad in AZ))). The hug is not for the situation you find yourself in but for the maturity to accept you did wrong.

I am in Australia, here they do a breathalizer then blood test to check alcohol level. There are so many variations from breathalizer eg cavities that they are not actually permitted in court. Hence the requirement for a Blood Alcohol Content blood test.

I hope your brother was helpful and you identify a good lawyer. Learn from this. It was fortunate that your accident didn't involve anyone else.

Of course I'm going to ((Hug)) you lady.

First, and most importantly, no one was hurt. Second, 0.10 is not too bad, especially if the prosecutor believes that the tire blew out by pure chance. Third, if you have a clear history, your age is helpful to you. You're a nice lady, all american Grandma.

Fourth, absolutely get a reputable attorney in the jursidiction. It won't be cheap, but it will be worth it.

Fifth, I would not argue against jumping into AA right away - talk to your attorney, of course, but from what I know, any pre-emptive strike to show effort in taking responsibility for your drinking will help - and AA is the cheapest route.

Last, as someone else pointed out, every jurisdiction has a general unpublished guideline on how they handle first DWI's, and you can't control that. But, if you have an attorney who has strong relationships with the prosecutors office, you are in the best position possible under the circumstances.

Be kind to yourself - shit happens - and much more frequently than others might think. ((Hugs))

Ugh. Oh Saz. Suck!!!! This gonna cost more than the $20 min. Gla you are ok and no serious physical harm to yourself. As I grew up with a dad that ripped his nose off his face from driving drunk and having a best friend whose father was killed by a drunk driver I am glad that you only blew two tents above legal.

Remember 15 years ago what you blew was standard low level illegal.

I do know that input states of you pay the right attorney enough money you can get off of most ofte consequences. So at worst you may have to get a second job to pay for it.

((( and strength ))

(((Sad)))

Oh, wow...I know this is massive. However, the situation is a bit of a "there but for the grace of God go I" situation for an awful lot of people. You're no scofflaw nor irresponsible...I get that after so long here on SI. You're human and you made just enough of an error in judgment... I have no doubt you would never have gotten behind the wheel if you thought you were impaired!

A good attorney is probably key. We've been in a couple of situations where it felt like, "we can't afford to pay that much!" only to figure out we couldn't afford NOT to.

I DO think your being a first-time offender is important, as well as the fact that you weren't miles over the legal limit. The guardrail-hitting part is not good, but a tire blow-out should be an easily verifiable fact...I assume this was documented by the police?

One of my FWH's older sons got charged w/ a DWI a couple years ago in SC; the charges got reduced to reckless driving if I'm remembering correctly...and he was stupid and ran his mouth at the arresting officer.

((((((SAZZY))))))

sadinAZ - I'm sorry you are going through this.. I'm glad no one got hurt...

I would try Melatonin.. it's a natural sleep aid and doesn't cause fogginess in the mornings or throughout the day....

(((Sad)))

Just sending you support and love...hang in there.

((sazzzy))

My nephew went through a program that's called A.R.D. here in PA. He completed a program and it was expunged from his record.

I'm sorry. You've been through worse, and came through the other side. Just put your head down and get through it.

Sazzy ... you have good advice, just wanted to say that I'm sorry this happened.

TR

OMG...(((((sad))))) glad you are okay..

That is why I do my drinking at home

ditto what DS said. I too am glad you're okay.

I am bummed out for you! Hang in there, ok?

(((Sazzy))) I'm glad no one was physically hurt.

What a scary thing to happen and huge wake up call. Listen, DH and I did this program once where we drank and did the breath test as part of a police DWI awareness program just around the time our DS was getting his license. It was to show you how few drinks cause you to blow over the legal limit. Well before this, both DH and I had a one drink rule - we would allow ourselves one drink with dinner and still drive home. When it came to be my turn to "blow" that night, I blew the limit after one (generous, to my eye) glass of wine. I was shocked. So the wine I would usually have with dinner wouldn't have been that generous of a size in any restaurant I've been to, but I took the point to be that often when you feel fine, you're still legally unsafe. I'm a small person so I can't even get away with a large glass of wine with dinner and safe driving. But had I had a blow out before that, and been tested on the scene, I could definitely have registered impaired and never known it.

But now you know and I'm glad you're taking it so seriously. You can't change what happened, but you can move forward much smarter from now on. Maybe this was meant to happen, without hurting anyone physically, to guard against anything worse happening in the future.