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thatbpguy ( member #58540) posted at 12:32 AM on Saturday, March 7th, 2020
ME: BH Her: WW DDay 1, R; DDay 2, R; DDay 3, I left; Divorced Remarried to a wonderful woman
"There are far, far better things ahead than any we leave behind." C.S. Lewis
As a dog returns to his vomit, so a fool repeats his folly...
Phoenix1 (original poster member #38928) posted at 8:18 AM on Saturday, June 13th, 2020
So, he had his chemo and at his one month checkup two more (new) small tumors were detected. He is now starting immunotherapy, but the prognosis is not good. We were chatting today and he said he puts on a brave face for his FB family and friends and doesn't want anyone to know how much he is struggling.
Later in the day he started blowing up my phone with tons of pics he had with my bio brother during all their fishing excursions (fishing was their mutual love). I couldn't figure out why he was flooding my phone with them, then it dawned on me. He was sending them while he still could because he doesn't think he will be around too long and is trying to get things taken care of. The realization made me cry.
When we were chatting we talked about bio bro fishing with my DS (their mutual love), and a particular species of salmon that DS caught on one particular trip. Adopted bro was being good natured and bashing them for that particular fish that he never got a chance to fish for. He jokingly said to send him some fresh salmon. I told him to give me his address (he moved not long ago). He asked if I was serious, and I told him absolutely. So he gave me his address. Shipping is not cheap, but I will move heaven and earth to get this dear man his fresh salmon. Put out calls today to friends to hook me up. I hope it puts a smile on his face at a dark time.
Yeah, cancer sucks. 
fBS - Me
Xhole - Multiple LTAs/2 OCs over 20+yrs
Adult Kids
Happily divorced!
You can't go back and change the beginning, but you can start where you are and change the ending. ~C.S. Lewis~
Throwaway999 ( member #72413) posted at 10:58 AM on Saturday, June 13th, 2020
Cancer is the worst beast. Sending you and your friend my thoughts for a positive outcome in his battle against it. It’s a long road.
Good luck on the salmon...how nice and thoughtful of you.
Me - BS Him -WS DDay1 - 2011 EA with AP1DDay2/3 - found out in 2019 about EA/PA same AP1 -4 yr LTA affair ended 2017DDay4 - found out about LTA with ex-wife
maise ( member #69516) posted at 4:14 PM on Saturday, June 13th, 2020
BW (SSM) D-Day: 6/9/2018 Status: Divorced
"Our task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it."
— Rumi
WalkinOnEggshelz ( member #29447) posted at 6:13 PM on Saturday, June 13th, 2020
(((((Phoenix1))))
Fuck cancer! It sucks.
If you keep asking people to give you the benefit of the doubt, they will eventually start to doubt your benefit.
DragnHeart ( member #32122) posted at 7:27 PM on Saturday, June 13th, 2020
Are there any grocery stores in his area with a sea food department?
Or is he wanting fresh caught?
Me: BS 46 WH: 37 (BrokenHeart911)Four little dragons. Met 2006. Married 2008. Dday of LTPA with co worker October 19th 2010. Knew about EA with ow1 before that. Now up to PA #5. Serial fucking Cheater.
ZenMumWalking ( member #25341) posted at 7:36 PM on Saturday, June 13th, 2020
Me (BS), Him (WH): late-50's
3 DS: 26, 25, 22
M: 30+ (19 1/2 at Dday)
Dday: Dec 2008
Wanted R, not gonna happen (in permanent S)
Used to be DeadMumWalking, doing better now
Phoenix1 (original poster member #38928) posted at 8:09 PM on Saturday, June 13th, 2020
fBS - Me
Xhole - Multiple LTAs/2 OCs over 20+yrs
Adult Kids
Happily divorced!
You can't go back and change the beginning, but you can start where you are and change the ending. ~C.S. Lewis~
DragnHeart ( member #32122) posted at 9:43 PM on Saturday, June 13th, 2020
Oh ok
I hope you can hook him up. I dont even know if salmon is in season here.
Hugs
Me: BS 46 WH: 37 (BrokenHeart911)Four little dragons. Met 2006. Married 2008. Dday of LTPA with co worker October 19th 2010. Knew about EA with ow1 before that. Now up to PA #5. Serial fucking Cheater.
BearlyBreathing ( member #55075) posted at 11:46 PM on Saturday, June 13th, 2020
What a beautiful friendship/siblinghood you two have. I hope the fish are biting for you :-)
And you are able to get the salmon to him. Sending healing to you all...
Me: BS 57 (49 on d-day)Him: *who cares ;-) *. D-Day 8/15/2016 LTA. Kinda liking my new life :-)
**horrible typist, lots of edits to correct. :-/ **
susieque2 ( member #49694) posted at 12:00 AM on Sunday, June 14th, 2020
Try Pike Place Market in Seattle -- they ship everywhere! Thoughts and prayers to all.
We are all spiritual beings having a human experience!
deena04 ( member #41741) posted at 8:01 PM on Sunday, June 14th, 2020
Damn cancer! It is the most cruel disease (or near the top) I swear. Prayers for your friend.
Me FBS 40s, Him XWS older than me (lovemywife4ever), D, He cheated before M, forgot to tell me. I’m free and loving life.
josiep ( member #58593) posted at 9:21 PM on Sunday, June 14th, 2020
Good thoughts, mojo, vibes and prayers all sent. What a terrible ordeal for him and I'm so glad he can talk openly to you about how he's really feeling. He sounds like such a good soul and the world will be a much better place if he pulls through, which I'm hoping and praying against the odds will happen.
Hugs to you, too. I'm so sorry.
BW, was 67; now 74; M 45 yrs., T 49 yrs.DDay#1, 1982; DDay#2, May, 2017. D July, 2017
LadyG ( member #74337) posted at 11:12 PM on Sunday, June 14th, 2020
Sharing the fun of fishing turns strangers into friends in a few hours... Eugenie Clark
All the best people I have ever known, loved to fish 🙏🏼
September 26 1987 I married a monster. Slowly healing from Complex PTSD. I Need Peace. Fiat Lux. Buddha’s Love Saves Me 🙏🏼
Phoenix1 (original poster member #38928) posted at 11:05 PM on Friday, June 26th, 2020
Update: After putting out the call for fresh salmon, a friend called to say they had some caught that day they were happy to give me. That was last Wednesday (17th). Met up to get it (they were kind enough to filet it for me so I didn't have to do it), and I had it vacuum packed and in the freezer that night. Spent Thursday and Friday picking up insulated shipping container and some other local goodies to add to the shipment. UPS will only ship fish overnight, and due to the weekend it couldn't go out until Monday.
Well, it shipped, he got it Tuesday, and he cooked some of it yesterday after he returned from an immunotherapy appt. Said it was delish and he can't believe I actually sent it so fast. I told him my goal was simply to put a smile on his face during this dark time. His response: "Mission accomplished. I love you to the moon, sis!"
Made my day, week, month, and summer. 
fBS - Me
Xhole - Multiple LTAs/2 OCs over 20+yrs
Adult Kids
Happily divorced!
You can't go back and change the beginning, but you can start where you are and change the ending. ~C.S. Lewis~
DragnHeart ( member #32122) posted at 11:23 PM on Friday, June 26th, 2020
You ARE the best. What an amazing thing to do for him. I'm so happy he enjoyed it.
Me: BS 46 WH: 37 (BrokenHeart911)Four little dragons. Met 2006. Married 2008. Dday of LTPA with co worker October 19th 2010. Knew about EA with ow1 before that. Now up to PA #5. Serial fucking Cheater.
Chrysalis123 ( member #27148) posted at 12:51 AM on Saturday, June 27th, 2020
((((Phoenix1))))) 
Someone I once loved gave me/ a box full of darkness/ It took me years to understand/ That this, too, was a gift. - Mary Oliver
Just for the record darling, not all positive changes feel positive in the beginning -S C Lourie
Throwaway999 ( member #72413) posted at 1:19 AM on Saturday, June 27th, 2020
Sending positive thoughts and prayers
Me - BS Him -WS DDay1 - 2011 EA with AP1DDay2/3 - found out in 2019 about EA/PA same AP1 -4 yr LTA affair ended 2017DDay4 - found out about LTA with ex-wife
thebighurt ( member #34722) posted at 1:44 AM on Sunday, June 28th, 2020
You are such a loving friend and sister, Phoenix1. This is someone who should be with you into your old age, if there were any justice.
I agree..... Fuck Cancer! And any other horrible disease that could take such a good person while the world still needs him.
Finding what life could have been....... Why didn't I see it?
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