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TCMM, I'm glad to see you back and I'm sorry you're dealing with so much crap. Life is truly not fair, and your situation certainly is beyond unfair! I wish I had some advice, but I'm new to this and am trying to figure my way out of this mess.

But I would like to send you a {{{HUG}} because it sounds very much like you could use one! I hope your day improves!!!

I like when someone keeps posting on one thread, that way I can click on their profile, and then click on check latest posts so that all their posts in that thread are highlighted, making it easy to read all their responses, that way I don't ask questions that have already been answered.

Dear TCMM,

During the bad times I kept telling myself:

"I can endure this. It will pass."

Worked wonders............

{{{hugs}}}}

k9

Keep fighting the good fight my man... You may not believe it now but there will be a time when the fighting is over and although you sit tired and bloody you'll be able to pat yourself on the back and say...

I made it... I really did...

WB

TCMM, I was wondering how you're handling back-to-school time. Can you get a counselor through the school to visit with your kids once a week or so just to see if they're needing to talk to a non-parental adult? Sometimes just having that other adult around to listen can make things easier on kids. Many schools offer this as a free service.

Sending hugs for you and the Zoo Crew.

TCMM, Good for you that you found some medication to help you through this very tough time. Just keep doing whatever you need to do take care of yourself.

Why your WW has to rub the OM in your face is beyond comprehension. I had that happen to me as well. It's cruel and unnecessary, and speaks volumes about her character, or lack thereof.

Oh, and I don't agree with the poster who said you should start a new thread....this is easier to keep track of you and how you're doing.

Ciao

[This message edited by tulipcitymadman at 8:37 PM, October 20th (Wednesday)]

so I will stop being difficult, and perhaps make a new thread.

TCMM, you aren't being difficult. If you want to keep posting on this thread, then by all means do so. Please don't focus on what that one person said. Focus on all of the support others are giving you. You've got a lot of people who care about you here.

(((tcmm)))

do-over may have thought that a thread gets cut off at 20 pages. I think it's actually 999 posts--anyway, it's far enough down the line that you don't need to worry about it today!

Perhaps I could find just a sliver of humor in this shit storm. Maybe I can come out on the other end clean showered and shaved, feeling just like I did 15 years ago going to a Cubs game with a sense that today things will be good, today things will be alright

TCMM, I wish you the best. I gotta say I thought your combining hope, optimism, and the Cubs WAS your sliver of humor.

As we say around here-I'd rather watch the Cubs lose than the Sox win!

TCMM~

I caught the optimism and the Cubs comment too.... Glad to see you're keeping a sense of humor about you!

I remember when my life went Jerry Springerish and I did sit down from time to time and laugh my ass off at how crazy making this shit can get...

WB

((TCMM)) Is there any way your son could become an emancipated minor? Then he could choose where he lives. Do you belong to a church or other religous organization(it sucks to have to be so PC nowadays I sound so FORMAL) If you are-reach out to them. If not, maybe you could go to whatever faith you feel speaks to you and get some direction and hope there. Hope is everything! Some good books are by Joel Osteen and Joyce Meyers. They have helped me get through the dark days( & nights) And I don't know where I would be without the people at my church. They have been such a support system for me and the kids. Sending light & love- and keep posting!

Hmmm.....you know a thread is starting to degenerate when the "Cubbie" jokes start coming around.

WS is a die-hard Cubbie fan. One of his dreams is to catch a fly ball in the outfield in front of the Big Green Monster.

Me....I'm convinced the club owners are using the team to launder dirty money or something........

TCMM...your life will change, but good days will come again.

{{{hugs}}}

k9

It is also pissing me off that our church is subsidizing her therapy so that she can feel better about herself and rationalize her adultery.

I'm curious, does the church know they are subsidizing therapy sessions for an unremorseful adulteress? Do they know she has cut herself off from her family and friends? Do they know she would cut them off in a second if they cut off her funds and disagreed with her decision?

And if they do know all of this, what is their justification for providing the assistance to someone so vehemently against what they believe?

If they are aware, the utter hypocrisy just astounds me.

[This message edited by tulipcitymadman at 8:38 PM, October 20th (Wednesday)]

I think you need to 180 her ass.

TCMM, I'm so glad you're back here and so sorry things are still carrying on.

You know evidence like missing printer cartridges compared to evidence that the children's mother is leaving for days on end with her boyfriend...well it's pretty lopsided.

What about summarizing accounts and bills, income in and income out on one document, send to your L and ask him/her to send a copy to her L. Proof that you are acknowledging the financial situation and proof that she has no way to claim that she doesn't know what is going on.

No one is going to fault you for paying one bill before another. Have you separated credit cards yet or do you have sep. cards? It could get sticky there. My X would pay his off with joint funds and run up mine (he was a second user on it, but I held it).

Smart to send things to work. As long as you give her copies of everything joint, why would that be a problem to anyone but her? Too bad for her.

TCMM, sad to see that the bullshit continues to pile higher.

Can you set up online billing for your shared accounts?

That way both of you could see them.

I like that idea of sending a summary to the lawyers.

I'm sorry you're having to deal with this.

Big hugs.

[This message edited by tulipcitymadman at 8:37 PM, October 20th (Wednesday)]

Hang in there TCMM

(((HUGS)))

The bullshit never ends, does it?