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sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 5:13 PM on Friday, May 31st, 2013
Thinking of you - hoping the move goes well. (((NIK & family)))
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tesla ( member #34697) posted at 5:28 PM on Friday, May 31st, 2013
I'm so happy that she is able to go somewhere that will address her needs. And I'm so glad that you see the wisdom of giving her that push toward gaining independence skills.
Thinking of you and your family today.
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jrc1963 ( member #26531) posted at 5:39 PM on Friday, May 31st, 2013
(((NIK and DD)))
Think of you today!
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h0peless ( member #36697) posted at 5:44 PM on Friday, May 31st, 2013
I hope things go well for you today and that your daughter learns the skills she needs.
imagoodwitch ( member #23375) posted at 5:58 PM on Friday, May 31st, 2013
Well????
How'd it go?
Is she settling in?
How are you doing?
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nowiknow23 (original poster member #33226) posted at 7:10 PM on Friday, May 31st, 2013
Just got back home. The intake went very smoothly. DD was nervous/excited this morning, but she handled her self extremely well. The staff we met were all wonderful, enthusiastic, friendly, and focused on DD. All good.
After a little time organizing her room, she told both me and wasband that we should go ahead and leave, gave us hugs, and padded off.
So she's there, she's somewhat comfortable, and I'm back home. And home seems rather quiet and empty.
You can call me NIK
And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane
authenticnow ( member #16024) posted at 7:13 PM on Friday, May 31st, 2013
(((NIK)))
I will continue to keep your DD in my thoughts and prayers.
DS, you are forever in my heart. Thank you for sharing your beautiful spirit with me. I will always try to live by the example you have set. I love you and miss you every day and am sorry you had to go so soon, it just doesn't seem fair.
wifehad5 ( Administrator #15162) posted at 7:36 PM on Friday, May 31st, 2013
Glad the intake went well 
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itainteasy ( member #31094) posted at 8:07 PM on Friday, May 31st, 2013
I hope your DD settles in comfortably, and I hope you can get some rest in between worrying about her..
Lucky ( member #6864) posted at 8:11 PM on Friday, May 31st, 2013
((( NIK & DD )))
Sending love and healing thoughts...
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Amazonia ( member #32810) posted at 8:12 PM on Friday, May 31st, 2013
NIK, when's the last time you lived alone? How are YOU doing??
"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ
nowiknow23 (original poster member #33226) posted at 8:28 PM on Friday, May 31st, 2013
Ama - I have NEVER lived alone. Ever. Came from a very large family (8 siblings), always had roommates in college, and then got married and had kids.
This is very odd for me, but it's also (understandably) welcome. I cannot remember the last time I was still. The last time I was ABLE to be still, both in mind and body. There has been no respite for so long, I can't recall what it feels like. I'm fairly confident I'm 180 degrees out of plumb at this point. And it's time for that to change.
You can call me NIK
And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane
nowiknow23 (original poster member #33226) posted at 8:46 PM on Friday, May 31st, 2013
And to answer your other question, I'm doing ok. I am completely exhausted - mentally, emotionally, and physically. I'm settled at home for the rest of the day. No where to be and nothing to do, so I can just be.
You can call me NIK
And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane
imagoodwitch ( member #23375) posted at 8:52 PM on Friday, May 31st, 2013
I'm glad it went smoothly and she shooed you out :)
Take it easy this weekend.
Ordinary average everyday sane psycho super goddess
jo2love ( member #31528) posted at 9:44 PM on Friday, May 31st, 2013
(((NIK)))
I'm glad it went well. Sending you good thoughts and strength.
metamorphisis ( member #12041) posted at 9:46 PM on Friday, May 31st, 2013
(((((((((NIK))))))))))
I'm so glad the intake went well. Now it's time to take care of you and I bet you don't even know where to start. Do something really nice for yourself this weekend. Something you just love. It's a new start for everyone
Go softly my sweet friend. You will always be a part of who I am.
nowiknow23 (original poster member #33226) posted at 12:09 AM on Saturday, June 1st, 2013
Now it's time to take care of you and I bet you don't even know where to start.
You are so right, meta. I'm kind of sitting around staring at walls at the moment. I plan to sleep sleep SLEEP as my first step. It's taking everything I've got not to go to bed right now, actually. 
You can call me NIK
And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane
FaithFool ( member #20150) posted at 12:12 AM on Saturday, June 1st, 2013
Well go to bed then! You've earned it...
I came home at 3:30 and decided to lie down on my new day bed. (A wee snooze before the Sting show tonight.)
Get some rest dearie. 
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Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
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to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire
Amazonia ( member #32810) posted at 11:46 AM on Saturday, June 1st, 2013
Do you have any idea how much time in the last few years I have spent just staring at the walls? I actually said that to one of my girlfriends during the aftermath of dday, when I was at my most exhausted point. She wanted me to get out of the house, go out, etc. and I just needed to cocoon, so I told her that all I really wanted to do was stare at the walls for a while. She thought I was off my rocker. 
I equate it to letting your mind process the same way it does while you sleep, but while awake.
Take good care of yourself.
"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ
Amazonia ( member #32810) posted at 11:47 AM on Saturday, June 1st, 2013
Ps are you visiting DD today?
"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ
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