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h0peless ( member #36697) posted at 1:51 PM on Friday, January 17th, 2014
Good luck today. Keep a stone face.
Elaine2012 ( member #36099) posted at 2:27 PM on Friday, January 17th, 2014
Good luck today. Allow yourself time to think about your answers before you speak. I just had an interview for a job evaluation and after I relaxed a little bit I said something that I hadn't meant to discuss. Be on your guard and take your time. You've got this.
Me- 60 ish
WH-no longer relevant
Divorced - May 22, 2014
Dday - Blindsided July 2012
Married 35 years
4 adult DD's, 3 SIL, 6 grandchildren
hexed ( member #19258) posted at 3:49 PM on Friday, January 17th, 2014
good luck!
take your time with every question
But that's just a lot of water
Underneath a bridge I burned
And there's no use in backtracking
Around corners I have turned
“Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves - regret for the past and fear of the future.” -foulton oursler
tushnurse ( member #21101) posted at 7:27 PM on Friday, January 17th, 2014
I might be late, but I am sending you MOJO and good thoughts, and of course strength.
AAS is so right, every time you piss her off know you are doing the right thing.
That hole she is digging is almost deep enough for her to lie down in now.
((((and strength)))
Me: FBSHim: FWSKids: 23 & 27 Married for 32 years now, was 16 at the time.D-Day Sept 26 2008R'd in about 2 years. Old Vet now.
Abbondad (original poster member #37898) posted at 7:43 PM on Friday, January 17th, 2014
Depositions were cancelled, as she SIGNED the binding temporary parenting plan. And I am fine with it. They agreed to change the most important language and terms to which I objected.
Fixed schedule, exclusive use and possession of home, bunch of other things. Trial has simply been postponed. But the big marital settlement agreement shouldn't be a problem. So this is a huge step toward settling, as the temporary plan will likely become permanent.
Divorced April Fool's Day 2014
Fear is the mind-killer.Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration.I will face my fear.I will permit it to pass over me and through me.-Dune
GabyBaby ( member #26928) posted at 7:51 PM on Friday, January 17th, 2014
Way to go!!!
I guess your STBXWW is finally starting to see that she can no longer manipulate/badger/pout/flirt you into doing what she wants. 
Me - late 40s
DD(27), DS(24, PDD-NOS)
WH#2 (SorryinSac)- Killed himself (May 2015) in our home 6 days after being served divorce docs.
XWH #1 - legally married 18yrs. 12+ OW (that I know of).
I edit often for clarity/typos.
FaithFool ( member #20150) posted at 7:58 PM on Friday, January 17th, 2014
AWESOME NEWS!!!! Go Dad!!!
DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire
nowiknow23 ( member #33226) posted at 8:02 PM on Friday, January 17th, 2014
Fan-freaking-tastic. I know you still have miles to go, but this is awesome news.
You can call me NIK
And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane
IrishLass518 ( member #34373) posted at 8:10 PM on Friday, January 17th, 2014
OMG, CONGRATS, CONGRATS, CONGRATS!!!! Have a great weekend changing the locks
Me: 46 BS Divorced
Him: 45 Married OW
DDay: 07/04/2008
Divorced: 06/15/2011
5 kids: IrishLass 27,IrishLad 25, IrishLass 23, IrishLad 21 and IrishLad 12
"You can't run from trouble..there ain't no place that far"
HobbesTheTiger ( member #41477) posted at 8:12 PM on Friday, January 17th, 2014
million pieces ( member #27539) posted at 8:44 PM on Friday, January 17th, 2014
Me - 52 D-Day 2/5/10, separated 3 wks later, Divorced 11/15/11!!!!
sudra ( member #30143) posted at 8:53 PM on Friday, January 17th, 2014
Me (BW) (5\64), Him(SAWH) (68)Married 31 years, 1 son (28), 1 stepdaughter (36) DDay #1 January 2004DDay #2 7-27-2010 7 month EA/PA (became "engaged" to OW before he told me he wanted a divorce)Working on R
heartbroken_kk ( member #22722) posted at 8:58 PM on Friday, January 17th, 2014
FBW then 46, XWHNPDPAFTG the destroyer of my entire life. D-Day 1 '99, D-Day 2,3,4,5,6... '09-'11, D '15. I fell apart. I put myself back together. Forgiveness isn't required. I'm happy and healthy now, and MY new life is good.
betrayedfriend ( member #19785) posted at 9:12 PM on Friday, January 17th, 2014
Best news I've seen today!
I originally joined SI as a way to help my best friends find ways of coping with infidelity, but now infidelity has touched my family much closer to home.
Elaine2012 ( member #36099) posted at 9:12 PM on Friday, January 17th, 2014
Congratulations! Silly I know, this makes me a little tearful for you. I so understand the frustration of trying to D an NPD. So glad for you!!!!
Me- 60 ish
WH-no longer relevant
Divorced - May 22, 2014
Dday - Blindsided July 2012
Married 35 years
4 adult DD's, 3 SIL, 6 grandchildren
timeforchange ( member #27454) posted at 10:26 PM on Friday, January 17th, 2014
Ah bugger am choked up and teary here in Europe.
Wonderful wonderful wonderful wonderful news.
A victory for you and for the share knowledge and support of SI.
You should be crowned the top 2012 SI graduate 😀😀😀😀
You stood up to a horrible bully however hard that was and won!!!!!!
You know we are all immensely proud of you right???
Ok off to find a Kleenex and deal with the lump in my throat.
Me = BS aged 43
2 boys, 13 and 9
DDay 1/19/10
Confronted him 2/16/10
Finally Divorced 8/29/12
“We must let go of the life we have planned, so as to accept the one that is waiting for us.”
Jrazz ( member #31349) posted at 10:28 PM on Friday, January 17th, 2014
YAAAAAAAAAY! You did it!
"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." - Deeply Scared's mom
purplebreeze ( member #31611) posted at 10:42 PM on Friday, January 17th, 2014
Congratulations! A big hurdle done and now, on to the finish line
Abbondad (original poster member #37898) posted at 11:03 PM on Friday, January 17th, 2014
Thank you thank you thank you, SI Friends!! Could NOT have done it without you.
I am SO relieved. Passed STBX on the way out. She was white faced with fury. I said, "Bye!" airily. She would not even look at me, let alone respond. :-))))
I am boarding a flight right now for a weekend with a friend....
Aaahhh....
Divorced April Fool's Day 2014
Fear is the mind-killer.Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration.I will face my fear.I will permit it to pass over me and through me.-Dune
Skan ( member #35812) posted at 11:27 PM on Friday, January 17th, 2014
Have a freaking wonderful time with your friend, party hard this weekend, and come back to YOUR house! And change those locks!
Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.
D-Day, June 10, 2012
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