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hill ( member #12166) posted at 7:04 PM on Tuesday, October 15th, 2013
(((Lighthouse)))
I just popped by for my monthly lurking and saw this thread- I will be thinking of you. I know you must be getting the results from the last procedure back soon.
(((more hugs)))
Lighthouse Heart (original poster member #8899) posted at 3:47 AM on Tuesday, October 22nd, 2013
Well lets hope this is the last bad news update and that from here on out things go as they should...
Met with GP today for the results of abdominal biopsy. Already had an appointment booked with the Oncologist for afterwards so I had an inkling it was not all clear.
The biopsy returned as matastic malignant melanoma. Not what I'd hoped but there you go...and there is a plan.
Full CT to ensure no head or pelvic spread. Cancer class so I know what to expect, seeing a dermatologist as I have psoriasis and we need to work in conjunction with him as one of the drug therapys will involve auto immune stuff and psorisis is immune system related and could throw it for a loop...and the biggie is chemo will start as soon as next week.
Because there was no CT scan done back in July when this thing was removed, they don't know how agressive this tumour in the belly is and because it is lymph nodes and the body's superhighway he's hitting hard and fast.
It's not going to be easy I don't think. Considering I'm not sick and have no symptoms I'm hopefull this is slow and early times and all will be well.
If I can handle infidelity twice...beating cancer should be a piece of cake 
...gawd now I want cake lol
I will update as stuff happens and if I get in a funk.
Thank you for being here and keeping me in your prayers.
I release the past so I am free to fight for my future unencumbered.
nowiknow23 ( member #33226) posted at 4:05 AM on Tuesday, October 22nd, 2013
((((((((lighthouse)))))))) You have such a great attitude, honey. That will serve you well in this battle.
Holding you in my thoughts.
You can call me NIK
And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane
positively4thst ( member #23998) posted at 4:05 AM on Tuesday, October 22nd, 2013
Hi Lighthouse!
Thanks for the update. You are in my thoughts and prayers and I want to make you a cake!! What is your favorite?!
Pentup ( member #20563) posted at 12:43 PM on Tuesday, October 22nd, 2013
Lighthouse, been keeping you in my prayers and will continue to do so for easy chemo, full recovery and cake!
Me- BS
Him- FWS (I hope- F)
tushnurse ( member #21101) posted at 1:44 PM on Tuesday, October 22nd, 2013
(((Lighthouse)))
Eat your cake now. Enjoy it. I have a feeling after next week, food may a bit of challenge some days.
Stay strong. Others have pushed through this, and you will too.
Me: FBSHim: FWSKids: 23 & 27 Married for 32 years now, was 16 at the time.D-Day Sept 26 2008R'd in about 2 years. Old Vet now.
cmego ( member #30346) posted at 2:04 PM on Tuesday, October 22nd, 2013
(((lighthouse)))
Eat the cake! 
me...BS, 46 years old.
Divorced
lost_in_toronto ( member #25395) posted at 2:33 PM on Tuesday, October 22nd, 2013
Me: BS/48
Him: WS/46
DDay: August 23, 2009
Together 23 years.
Reconciled.
hill ( member #12166) posted at 2:58 PM on Tuesday, October 22nd, 2013
(((Lighthouse)))
I'm so sorry to hear this news. Please know we're here for you whenever you need us. I'm thinking of you.
(((more hugs)))
lostworld ( member #19197) posted at 8:29 PM on Tuesday, October 22nd, 2013
Just when you know you're stronger than you think, something in life says, "prove it." And you will. Know that I'm still thinking of and praying for you. (((Lighthouse Heart)))
Me: BS
Him: FWH
Married Over 30 years w/ grown kids
Dday 1: 2007
Dday 2: Mid 2008 (same MOW, 14 month false R)
R'd
The affair was the aberration, not the marriage or the man.
Rollercoaster ( member #1298) posted at 7:24 AM on Thursday, October 24th, 2013
Lighthouse Heart my prayers are with you.
Me BS 59, WS 59
Reconciled
HardenMyHeart ( member #15902) posted at 8:31 AM on Thursday, October 24th, 2013
(((Lighthouse))) Sending healing wishes.
I had a clark level 3 malignant melanoma 29 years ago. They removed much of the surrounding tissues and all the lymph nodes in that area, but I'm still kicking. I know they have come a long way since my surgery. Like you, I was very frightened, but it sounds like you're in good hands.
Me: BH, Her: WW, Married 40 years, Reconciled
summerain ( member #37439) posted at 11:49 AM on Thursday, October 24th, 2013
eat lots of cake and things you enjoy while you can
It sounds like you are holding up okay all things considering.
OW1 inadvertently let me know WH loves English breakfast tea. Never ever saw him drink it. And I never will.
jo2love ( member #31528) posted at 2:13 PM on Thursday, October 24th, 2013
Newlease ( member #7767) posted at 2:24 PM on Thursday, October 24th, 2013
Sending strength and peace.
NL
Even if you can't control the world around you, you are still the master of your own soul.
Lighthouse Heart (original poster member #8899) posted at 2:57 AM on Tuesday, November 5th, 2013
Well I'm still waiting on a full staging CT scan. Had a bone scan on Friday. They've given me a date 4 weeks out for the CT and I'm not happy about it. You don't tell someone if your not agressive with the treatment they might not be here in six months and then wait two or three before anything starts! Waiting on call back from oncologist himself - the office was not aware of the date I was given for CT.
In the meantime I have my fuck cancer hair...hot pink streaks lol/ it's either going to grow out or fall out when the chemo comes lol.
Good thing I didn't start eating the cake yet. I'd be gaining weight and that's not the aim here.
Trying to stay "up"...looking into visualization techniques...they say it's helpful during chemo to "see" the bad cells being destroyed.
Will update again soon. :)
I release the past so I am free to fight for my future unencumbered.
nowiknow23 ( member #33226) posted at 4:05 AM on Tuesday, November 5th, 2013
Love the "Fuck Cancer" hair idea. Thank you for updating us, honey. You've been in my thoughts. (((((((lighthouse))))))))
You can call me NIK
And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane
PricklePatch ( member #34041) posted at 4:17 AM on Tuesday, November 5th, 2013
Sending good thoughts, mil had melanoma twice. First time 37 years before 2nd occurrence which involved lymph node died 9 years later of a stroke.
Lionne ( member #25560) posted at 8:09 AM on Tuesday, November 5th, 2013
Holding you in the *LIGHT* and picturing the demise of the nasty cells...
Me-BS-71 in May HIM-SAFWH-74 I just wanted a normal life.Normal trauma would have been appreciated.
ThoughtIKnewYa ( member #18449) posted at 7:21 PM on Monday, November 11th, 2013
Hi, lighthouse.
What's the word on that full CT? Do you know the name of the chemo they'll use?
Sending cancer fighting mojo to you!!
Go ahead and have as much cake as you want and don't worry about weight gain. Chemo is really rough, so you may not feel like eating and you WILL lose weight, regardless of whether you're eating or not. If you're close to your ideal weight, I would suggest trying to put on a few pounds to make it easier on your body.
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