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Oh lilies he is an absolute asshat! I am somewhat glad though that him and PF didn't turn up as I know you were not looking forward to that, but to forget altogether.....seriously he doesn't deserve to be a dad. Lowest of the low. Glad your little man is ok though!

((TG)) has he really started contacting again?? Trivial things trying to get you hooked....what an utter ass! He should know better, you rock this NC thing!

I know, I can't believe he contacted me at all, especially over some trivial trinket. I guess he hasn't figured out that I am the NC Queen. I guess life is boring in a one bedroom apartment trapped with the whoreface bitch that he never really wanted anything from other than sex and I'm sure that is not as fun and exciting anymore either. Oh well, be careful what you ask for, you just might wind up with it.

Liles... I am glad your DS is doing OK after his surgery. What NPD POS forgets his kid is having surgery. It just goes to show you more and more what kind of person he really is and how much better you are without him.

I no longer love you. I feel pity for you. You are a sad, lonely man and are not going to change. You trashed the one person who loved and cared for you. You are sick and I pity you and anu woman who ends up with you.

I no longer love you. I feel pity for you. You are a sad, lonely man and are not going to change. You trashed the one person who loved and cared for you. You are sick and I pity you and anu woman who ends up with you.

Thanks, Igglepiggle and TrustGone. I was actually relieved when I learned that only two visitors were allowed for DS anyway so if he had shown up with her it wouldn't have been an issue but to forget? To just forget your child is having surgery, no matter how minor? I don't get how anyone can do that.

I suppose at this point nothing should surprise me, but still: twenty four hours after OM and I nearly came to blows and you screamed at me in front of our children that I am a bad father: you send me a text informing me that you have a slight rash on the back of your neck, ask if the kids' necks are itchy--and accompany it with a picture of the back of your neck. Oh, and a request for reimbursement for 7.00 for DS's school notebook.

Your ability to compartmentalize astounds me. Your audacity angers me. Your indifference saddens me. You are much more mentally ill than I ever realized and I hope you someday realize this and seek help.

I wake up missing you. Our beautiful sex. No body compares to yours. Your kisses. I cant believe you trashed it all.

I know you're lonely and I feel pity for you. You dont even understand how much or why.

There are ways noone will ever compare to you. I did love you.

I went to see my Dad yesterday and he asked if there was any change in our situation. He was very disappointed when I said no.

He said he had hoped this whole thing was a midlife crisis for you, "temporary insanity". He thought you would have "manned up" by now -- you know, admitted you need help.

I wish you could have seen his face and heard the way he talked about you. This wonderful man, who will turn 89 next month, is heartbroken at the loss of you.

And YOUR father? He does not like OW - he said she's not pretty and she doesn't seem very smart. He doesn't understand how you gave up everything - he said you had it all with DC. He said your pride is getting in the way of you admitting you messed up and he wishes you would wake up.

Have you turned into such an asshole that you truly don't care how much you're hurting the two most important men in our lives?

I guess I know the answer to that.

NC for forty-eight hours. I am not going to even check my email for a few days as I assume some vitriol awaits me there.

XW texted me that she has a rash on her neck and asked if the kids do. I waited 24 hours and texted back: "No."

She texted back instructions as to what I should do to treat their non-existent rashes.

I did not respond.

Question: What do you ignore completely and to what do you respond? For example, she often texts, "How are kids?" (Note the childish omission of the article "the," as if she is so aloof she can't be bothered to text in full sentences.)

Am I even obligated to respond to this?

It is my intention to go as nearly dark on this vile person as possible.

AD you might want to start a topic about that one but I'll take a shot at it... "How are kids". Answer back "Fine" or "ok"

As to the rash, ignore. You responded that they don't have a rash you can ignore everything else she sends regarding it. Answer basic texts about the kids, with as few words as possible. Everything else you can document but ignore.

I hate that i see you at all. I want a fire breathing dragon at my door to keep you away.

Just when I start to feel better about things I see you and everything floods back.

You lied and you left. My everything is crumbling to the ground.

And I am stranded up here with no relatives near.

Yet you saunter over for your time with the kids like nothing has happened. As if it is completely reasonable to lie to your wife to go and fuck other women. It is reasonable to just leave with no real warning , no provision for the future made.

I visit friends trying to regain some normal life and they spend the whole time making me feel worse with talk about you

And your whores.

And the sink broke and the dryer broke . And you just tuck in your rented room . Completely oblivious.

And I hang by a thread. I hope to weave a new future but as of now I am barely grasping the one thread.

Christmas approaches and not only do I mourn the loss of my life partner but you are not even co parenting.

I try just talking to you about gifts for our children and you brush me off. You just avoid.

Somehow your roommate is a woman. Wtf

She sends a gift for my son. And I am so angry , lava flowing.

But it is reasonable right to lie, fuck other women and then have a " roommate" who is a woman.

And this is the second or third time one of your whores

Has sent a present to my child.

Women who have no right being in my child's life.

Women who don't have kids because they did not want the work but they are happy to steal the affection that does not belong to them.

So for five minutes they want to play mommy .

They are not invited to play house with the children I have raised.

Tell them to get a puppy

[This message edited by Lavenderrose at 11:11 PM, December 20th (Sunday)]

I broke my promise yesterday and looked up his name on the internet. Not good, will get me nowhere. Nothing strange came up but then the impulse is to keep going until it does. STOP OP. Please can someone give me a bit of encouragement?

OP here is your encouraging hand! You can do this, it is hard but you can. Remember it only hurts you, he doesn't have to deal with the things we do. NC and no pain shopping really does equal no new hurt.

I broke NC numerous times and still desperately want him to contact me saying it's all been a mistake and he really does love me as I do him. But he won't so I have to tell myself not to look, not to contact so I can have a bit of headspace to help me try to make sense of this crap. Please believe me that it does get easier to stay NC. I literally spent months sitting by my phone, contacting him as soon as I woke, answering as soon as he contacted me etc. As I said I still want to but the need is nowhere near as great as it was.

Hang in there, you are doing just fine. ((Hugs))

Thanks IP. (())

I hate you, you grumpy, self opinionated, grandiose, arse hole.

Why can't you just let go? Let me move on with my life? I'm giving you what you wanted - the ability to flirt, date, kiss and fuck whoever you want, whenever you want without even feeling guilty. All I ever heard about was how I wasn't good enough - didn't put out enough, worked too much, didn't give you enough attention, didn't prioritize you, criticized too much, was a crappy sister/daughter/aunt/in law, wasn't a cheerleader for your gazillion business ideas - I did everything wrong in your eyes. So why would you even try to hold onto such a dysfunctional M??? Now that I actually want out, you're doing everything in your power to delay. Why??? Just to control things? To get money I made? To see how much more you can hurt me? I managed to go 2 full weeks without so much as a tear and today made up for all of that - I can't stop crying. i thought I was finally close to the end and it's just yet another disappointment - I guess I shouldn't be surprised. I don't care about the money. I want out, I want you gone from my life forever. I want to feel like a valuable person again. To find someone who really cares about me. Who knows what love is. Who appreciates how hard I work, the fact that I'm honest even when it hurts, and respects that I love to run and write. I have a NB out there - on my own or with someone, who knows. But all you're doing is making sure I can't get to it. You ruined my birthday, why not ruin xmas too. I just want out....please let me go. I can't keep living like this.

You bastard - Bump!

Christmas Eve. In years past on this night we would have family time at different houses. When we got home we would climb into bed and hold each other and be thankful for what we had - the love of family and friends.

I always felt I had everything I wanted, everything I needed...I had YOU.

This year I'll go to Christmas Eve service at my church. Your sister and your Dad will be there. And so will all the wonderful church friends I've made over the past few months since I started going there.

I made it through Thanksgiving without you. In fact, I had one of my best Thanksgivings EVER.

There's every reason to believe this Christmas will be one of my best ones too!

I hope you and OW have a miserable one, because that's what you deserve. Drink up!

Great thread,

NPDBPD and overall selfish, vile XW:

I just had the pleasure of our children for the last twelve days. Now, as per our legal Parenting Plan, you have them for the next twelve days. This should be a pleasure for you. Instead, you text me this morning:

"When do you want the kids for the week of 1/4?"

As though we had already discussed me having the children on your extended time. Childishly manipulative and sad that you deem me so stupid.

I texted back, "No days during the week of 1/4 can I take the kids. You have them for the next twelve days."

I do not owe you an explanation why. But it so happens, I have to work. You are unemployed, by the way, as you so frequently remind me.

You then texted back, "I thought you would want the kids."

I want to text back:

"XW: if one parent declines an offer of the children, it should not be inferred that the parent 'does not want' the children. If this were true, then you, XW, have, according to my calculations, 'have not wanted' our children approximately fifty times since our divorce.

If having our children is too stressful for your and POS, then I will gladly take full custody and you may have liberal visitation--when you feel you can handle the children. If not, then please follow our legal PP and leave me alone unless there is an emergency with the children."