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still confounded ( member #7826) posted at 4:11 AM on Monday, August 8th, 2011
bumping for newcomers
I found this posting very, very helpful and filled with wisdom.
"Sometimes, the rest of your life starts with goodbye."
D-day April 2005
(Married 33 years, together 35)
Divorced Dec. '05
Life is good, but it took a long time to heal.
NewTurn ( member #26399) posted at 4:30 AM on Tuesday, August 9th, 2011
BW-45
DDay too many to count! Many false R till final DDay Dec 5 2008
Divorced Feb 2009
Insanity is doing the same thing and expecting different results!
cass ( member #24261) posted at 5:14 PM on Friday, August 12th, 2011
bump for newbies and Mandy
DDay - April 2008
Me - 58 and doing great, alone.
Don't put the key to your happiness in someone else's pocket!
lordhasaplan? ( member #30079) posted at 3:00 PM on Sunday, August 14th, 2011
BS- Me (45)D-day: 5/18/10, lies and TT till (11/26/10). Currently in R.Don't carry others crap. It's your job to fix yourself, not your spouse.
still confounded ( member #7826) posted at 5:42 AM on Tuesday, August 23rd, 2011
"Sometimes, the rest of your life starts with goodbye."
D-day April 2005
(Married 33 years, together 35)
Divorced Dec. '05
Life is good, but it took a long time to heal.
lordhasaplan? ( member #30079) posted at 2:18 PM on Wednesday, August 24th, 2011
BS- Me (45)D-day: 5/18/10, lies and TT till (11/26/10). Currently in R.Don't carry others crap. It's your job to fix yourself, not your spouse.
OnlyLonely ( member #14326) posted at 3:17 PM on Wednesday, August 24th, 2011
Bumping the best thread IMO, saved my life and sanity.
Me: BS
Him: FWH
Married: 18 years
Status: In R
OnlyLonely ( member #14326) posted at 3:45 PM on Thursday, August 25th, 2011
Me: BS
Him: FWH
Married: 18 years
Status: In R
OnlyLonely ( member #14326) posted at 4:38 PM on Wednesday, August 31st, 2011
Bumping for It's not my fault. 
Me: BS
Him: FWH
Married: 18 years
Status: In R
alluringillusion ( member #4029) posted at 3:10 PM on Tuesday, September 6th, 2011
"I hope you live a life you’re proud of. If you find that you’re not, I hope you have the strength to start all over again."
Painfool ( member #33227) posted at 5:48 PM on Tuesday, September 6th, 2011
Another newbie here.
Your hindsight is our foresight. Thank you for that.
Married 11 years, together 14.
1 child, aged 8.
XWS (34)
Me (32)
D-day 11/08/11
Attempted R and ALMOST made it
D April 2015
Almost doesn't count.
sadandtrying ( member #19246) posted at 6:15 PM on Tuesday, September 6th, 2011
This is brilliant -
this is "What I wish I'd done" also....4 years ago....
gimmeechocolate ( member #22704) posted at 2:06 PM on Thursday, September 8th, 2011
BS: Me, 37
WS: Him, 37
Married 10 years
2 Kids, 7 and 4
D Day 1: Sept. 16 2008 (after over a year of gaslighting)
EA (no PA as far as i know)for almost 2 years
False R:09/16/08-10/31/
Reconciling 10/31/08- now
D-Day 2: Feb. 24: Long Term EA/PA
MtnMama ( member #33151) posted at 6:42 PM on Thursday, September 8th, 2011
With hubby #2
Listened to my gut!!
The FIRST time I started questioning myself about my marriage, I should have packed my happy ass up and got it annuled.
lordhasaplan? ( member #30079) posted at 3:08 PM on Friday, September 9th, 2011
Bump
BS- Me (45)D-day: 5/18/10, lies and TT till (11/26/10). Currently in R.Don't carry others crap. It's your job to fix yourself, not your spouse.
btrayedbyhim ( member #26941) posted at 5:38 PM on Friday, September 9th, 2011
Dumped his ass on DDay! 
I'm 2 yrs out & it's been a waste of 2 yrs.
As of Dec 2009:
Me: BS46
Him: FWH39 - NPD
Married: 20+ years
Kids: 3
D-Day: 9-28-09
Spent 4 yrs trying. He blew it.
Arrested for DV: 9-6-13
Fuck Him
bumbed ( member #31024) posted at 12:54 AM on Wednesday, September 14th, 2011
I rather suspect like all the worst things in life, making sense of it will not happen.
25 year relationship D day 1/28/11
The we door is closed but the ME doors are opening
still confounded ( member #7826) posted at 3:55 AM on Wednesday, September 21st, 2011
"Sometimes, the rest of your life starts with goodbye."
D-day April 2005
(Married 33 years, together 35)
Divorced Dec. '05
Life is good, but it took a long time to heal.
Will-I-Ever-Know ( member #32703) posted at 6:08 AM on Thursday, September 22nd, 2011
Me BS: 26
Him FWH: 28
Together: 6 years
DDay #1 June 2010
Full blown 6 month long PA: OW was his 2nd Girlfriend.
Many DDays & TT for the rest of this year!
In R. :)
WARNING: I am long-winded. Sorry in advance. :)
Bassgirl ( new member #33339) posted at 3:16 AM on Friday, September 23rd, 2011
Wow. That helps a lot too. Thank you all for your wisdom and sharing it with u's newbies. I have a lot to learn.
Do not confuse kindness for blindness.
D- day 8/18/11
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