WearingTheHorns (original poster member #37916) posted at 6:55 PM on Saturday, March 14th, 2026
I got a call from my son (from my first marriage) that floored me. He got caught in an EA. He assured me they never met in person. He’s obviously miserable and I think apart from getting caught the last thing he wanted was to tell me because we’re so close. He and his wife had a baby about a year ago and I’m pretty sure from what he said she’s done and I’m sure if they do D she’ll fight for sole custody.
I told my W about it after he and I spoke. She immediately took his wife’s side and kind acted like he’s dead to her. She texted his wife today and told her she and the baby could come live with us, which I don’t see happening as she has a sister who lives far closer. I’m just really having trouble wrapping my head around her seeming to be so ready to disown my son when everything she did to me is an order of magnitude worse. I totally understand how wrong what he did was, but for her to act like she’s got clean hands in this arena I don’t understand.
Dday: over a period of three days 11/14-16/2012.
EA/PA: ~ 2 1/2 years
EA/beginning PA: ~ 10 months
Hoped I'd never have to add this: Dday #2 11/22/2015 Not sure how far it went yet but have a pretty good idea.
2 Cor. 12:9-10
Trdd ( member #65989) posted at 7:02 PM on Saturday, March 14th, 2026
Perhaps a conversation praising her ability to see right and wrong here but also reminding her of grace and empathy, which she received, should also be applied to your son. What do you think?
Formerpeopleperson ( member #85478) posted at 8:18 PM on Saturday, March 14th, 2026
Maybe she’s trying to show you how disgusted she now is by infidelity?
It’s never too late to live happily ever after
