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"Okay I was in the hotel room with ----(Ex GF). But I slept on the floor. I was only with her to talk about you and our marriage. I needed advice. Besides we are probably getting a divorce anyway."

translation: I am so F'ed up that I can't even make a reasonble lie. In any case, it was all your fault. Everything stupid thing that I do is totally your fault!

She listens to me and is there for me.

Trans:

I call her 15 times a day on my cell and tell her things I have NEVER told you in 28 years of marriage. Instead of reading, watching the game, sleeping in a chair, I have conversations with her.

If I had known how much it would hurt you, I would never have had an affair.

Priceless, isn't it? I heard that one over and over

And this one: "I swear, nothing happened in the VIP room, she offered but I said no".

Mmm-hmm, sure.

[This message edited by kajsa at 5:30 PM, April 4th (Wednesday)]

She is a lot of fun.

Trans:

She is also an alcoholic and has broken up four marriages. She KNOWS how to be a HO.

My FAVORITE...I had to go back to her. When I called it off, she threatened to call you.

Trans: I can't stop lying!!!

"Our marriage was fine until you began getting nervous around me."

Trans. from Aspeak: Damn! This gaslighting stuff really works!

I wish my mind wouldn't have been so mushy following DDay. I'm sure I've forgotten most of the gems, but you all are doing a fine job of reminding me of some of the stupid things he said

"Before I knew it, I was in too deep"

"I kinda liked having two women. I'm a superhuman stud"

"I didn't know how to end it".

See the above.

"I was never going to leave you"

"I enjoyed being a cakeman. She was good enough to fuck but not good enough to give her my name"

Please, oh please, don't let me kill the WS manual!!!

Another gem:

"I don't know why she's doing this and saying these things".

Translation: I didn't expect her to really believe all the shit I told her.

"You stopped apprecaiating everything I do around here."

This sounds like a good excuse to cover-up my A.

"It meant nothing to me."

Man that was some good sex.

This one was overheard on a phone call

"I think he needs counseling and to move out of the house." I hope the therapist can help him get over this before I have to think up more lies.

"When this all began all I was looking for was someone to talk to."

He wouldn't fuck me at first so I had to work on him for a few weeks till I could meet him in a hotel room.

"He knew how to listen to me and had answers to my questions."

He guided me through giving him a blow job over the phone.

"We were supposed to meet in his hotel room for dinner."

I was the dinner. And Dessert.

"I told you everything. I swear on my mother's grave!"

If he doesn't believe this one, I'm fucked!

"I fucked up"

Yup - you fucked up.

"I was meeting him that day to end it with him."

How the fuck did you find out? Oh Shit, I better try to save my ass!

"I wasn't happy with the way our marriage was going."

I gave up on you, didn't feel like working on us and went for the first guy who gave me attention.

"I want to be with you"

He won't leave his wife for me and I can't raise the kids by myself. Please stay!

"He had all the answers to my questions."

He's been through counseling for previous infidelities, knows how to talk to women till he gets in their pants.

"I was planning on telling you everything!"

Right after I got caught and you snooped on me and recorded my phone calls for 2 months. Even then, I won't tell you evrything.

"I never planned on leaving you."

He wouldn't leave his wife and kids for me.

"I didn't go out looking for this."

Well, I did. It just took me awhile to set up the meeting.

--- I heard this one a lot ---

"I don't remember!"

I can't think of any good bullshit right now.

"I don't deserve you in my life right now."

Please leave me. I just don't want to be the one to end it.

--When I asked her why she has been different in bed because of this --

"You gave/give me the confidence to be that way."

He turned me into a nympho who talks dirty and plays with myself.

Me - "I want you to throw out the clothes you wore that night"

Her "I honestly don't remember what I wore"

Trans. That's my favorite bra and panties.

"I had to use Viagra because "he" wouldn't work"

meant:

"I had to use Viagra because I couldn't impress her with my 45 second wonder fucks"

I didnt have an A! (Shit, youre much smarter than my buddies thought you were)

I dont want you to know my email address from work, you might send me inappropriate stuff ( my gf does, and if you ever figure out how to read my email I am SOOOOO screwed)

If you cant trust me we might as well get divorced (get over it already, Im getting horny, and she keeps telling me when her H is out of town)

She isnt judgemental(She is cheating on her spouse too, whats to judge)

We are just friends (with benifits)

I was home EVERY night (we are both teachers and would f*ck each other during the day after school)

She is a really nice person (dumb as a rock but giving with the BJ)

"If it makes you feel better, we haven't had sex yet."

Trans: Even though we have had sex, I'm trying to make myself look better in everyone's eyes. See, I'm not a bad guy at all.

"You're a very controlling person."

Trans: I have to think of something that makes it all your fault.

"I need more..."

Trans: I feel shitty about myself and OW made me feel better. Also, it has been great to have sex with no strings or responsibilities.

[This message edited by Pivot at 10:51 AM, April 6th (Friday)]

Yes I said I love you to her, but it was only a friendship type of love.

Don't you say I love you to your "friends"? When you say you love me, which type of love do you mean?

Meaning: I had to say it back to her, or she would have thought I didn't want to continue the A.

Second one, just thought of it.

It was fun and exciting.

Meaning, You are at home with the kids all day long, I don't have to worry about a babysitter when we (me and the FOW) are together.

[This message edited by armywife23 at 1:50 PM, April 6th (Friday)]

Here, I'll prove to you that I'm not going to call her any more, I'll give you my cell phone. (Then I'll have to run an errand so I can stop at the nearest payphone.)

You must be hearing things, honey, that wasn't my pager you heard at 3:00 a.m. (Damn, I forgot to turn that thing off again!)

Damn, I forgot cigarettes again, I'll be right back. (OK, OW just paged me, I've got to find an excuse to get out of the house and go to the payphone again--before OW decides to call the home phone--again!)

Yes, I did say "I love you", but I didn't mean it! (I said it, but I NEVER thought you'd hear that conversation!!)

[This message edited by Melanie at 2:12 PM, April 6th (Friday)]

I went and met with her at the hotel because I knew she was going to end it I was really excited about that ...I was really excited about it because I thought I was going to have sex with someone other than you

"I never loved her" I may have said it, but I didn't mean it. I only meant I loved the sex.

"I was only a hard dick to her" Yeah, that's why she said she loved you, missed you, wanted to be with you forever in her letter.

"I never trusted her. I used to leave my phone and wallet in the truck." Ok, not with your money, but you trusted her enough to have unprotected sex?

"This (the A) isn't the problem. The problem is that you can't trust me!"

I didn't read all the thread, so disregard if it's a repeat:

"We drifted apart"

Translation: I gave less to the M when ow started giving me BJ's

"I wish we would have never gotten married, and saved ourselves all this trouble!"

Trans: S#!%, this is going to cost me a lot of money now, isn't it?!

it's not like that.(it is actually worse than you could even imagine)

she really liked me. (no need to translate. it's just really pathetic)

what we have(meaning ow) is real and you need to accept it. (i had a one night stand risking everything including my job, please dear lord let it mean something)

she told me she was horny and asked if i could help her out and we could be stay friends. (again no tranlation needed for the bs, but fwh could have used an op translater. because what she really meant was i will screw you, and then i will continue to screw you by holding it over you, and then i will manipulate you, threaten you subtly and dominate your every future move)