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bldgmygarden1 ( member #11402) posted at 9:20 PM on Wednesday, January 3rd, 2007

You forced me to this when you pulled away from me.

(I am a pathologically immature, selfish bastard who thinks that my dick is the frickin center of the universe)

Me: BS, 35
Him: WS, 36
Married 2 yrs
two kids: one Step-d (7), one D (1)

D-day #1 Jan. 30/06 (one month PA)
D-day #2 Mar./06 (lots of sex partners, online and other, dating back to before we got married)
Attempting to R

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Hurt_Husband ( member #8918) posted at 1:34 AM on Thursday, January 4th, 2007

BWWWAAaaahahahahahaha... oh God, please stop

BWWAaaaahhhaaahhhhaaahhhaaa

Oh, oh, jeez, I'm crying here

Three statements my ex made:

Oooh God, I'm so sorry.

Trans: Oh God, I'm so sorry you caught my slut ass cheating on you.

It isn't you, it's me

Trans:DAMN RIGHT IT WAS YOU, and thanks for the little high school brush off... what you didn't get to use that line to dump a guy right before Prom?

(a week before we signed papers)

I don't want this, I fucked up.

Trans:I should have asked you if we could have an open marriage so I could keep fucking him, while fucking you over

Don't talk unless you can improve the silence

posts: 2050   ·   registered: Nov. 23rd, 2005   ·   location: Hazel Dell, Washington
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Saddernow ( member #10340) posted at 1:45 AM on Thursday, January 4th, 2007

"I found her so open and non-judgmental . . ."

(Translation: She'd: 1) been married three times and was stalking #4; 2) had abandoned her four children with one or another of her former spouses to chase after a new one; 3) people who live in glass houses that are THAT fragile really can't throw stones at a WS)

Me - BS- 49 when I started here, 52 now. Wandering ex - 53
Married 25 years together 251/
2 boys (adopted) 23 and 20
D-day 7/31/05
If I'm still here in 5 years I'll still be here. But now this girl is gone, Divorced August 30, 2011.

posts: 695   ·   registered: Apr. 8th, 2006   ·   location: Midwest
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twokidsmomny ( member #9373) posted at 3:17 AM on Thursday, January 4th, 2007

"I'm afraid things will get complicated." (duh...)

"I don't remember." (I'll pretend whatever just to save my sorry ass)

Sorry, but I heard the all time classic way too many times to not include it, "We love each other, but we are not in love." (WH put his own twist on it by deciding what my feelings were as well!)

[This message edited by twokidsmomny at 9:18 PM, January 3rd (Wednesday)]


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soccemom ( member #12327) posted at 3:21 AM on Thursday, January 4th, 2007

she's a good person...she has had a hard life...(she is young and screwed up and fucks other women's husbands)

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Afraid2LoveAgain ( member #11185) posted at 10:08 PM on Thursday, January 4th, 2007

She needed me, she isn't strong like you... Three children by three men, sounds strong to me.

I wasn't happy... So, you don't look too happy now.

BW -- 58
Divorced 2001
Re-married 2014--on what would have been our 35th anniversary

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Lucky ( member #6864) posted at 10:16 PM on Thursday, January 4th, 2007

"I found her so open and non-judgmental . . ."

(Translation: She'd: 1) been married three times and was stalking #4;

WE had the SAME OW!!

♥ WINE - the other fruit juice! ♥



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SA0731 ( member #11874) posted at 10:24 PM on Thursday, January 4th, 2007

"I was scared"

translation.. You caught me and I'm so surprised I can't come up with anything better right now.

No man or woman is worth your tears, and the one who is, won't make you cry.

ME: BS
HIM: WH
Married 4 years
4 teens

posts: 61   ·   registered: Aug. 29th, 2006   ·   location: under the rug
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Clint ( member #11711) posted at 10:26 PM on Thursday, January 4th, 2007

"I was in too deep to stop".

Deeper than 12 years together, 8 years married? Deeper than 2 kids worth?Deeper than fighting off your cancer together? Deeper than comforting each other through 2 miscarriages? Deeper than helping me with my illness when I was sick? Deeper than going to Disneyland, Florida, Mexico, and Niagara Falls...and the multiple little side trips?

That relationship with OM was a dirty little flyspeck compared to our marriage.

I just freak out at how fuckin' important these OM/OW's are to our WS's in such a short span of time.

Mind boggling.

[This message edited by Clint at 4:27 PM, January 4th (Thursday)]

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 sadteacher (original poster member #13072) posted at 6:57 AM on Friday, January 5th, 2007

I have one I bet you haven't heard...

"I was scared of her. She intimidated me cause she is a really scary and manipulating person. I thought If I didn't do it...she would frame me and get me fired like she did to another coworker."

(His Translation: she wanted my HOT ass so much that if she couldn't have me she would get me fired...)

(My translation: I just can't stop lying about this crap...it is just so fun to think you fall for this BS)

The truth sets us free...
BS 33 (me)
WH (SA) 33
Married 9 yrs
secret female validations started 5/99, physical affair #1 11/01, 6 total PA's DDay 9/06, 1/07
Reconciled!! Renewed vows 7/17/07

posts: 335   ·   registered: Dec. 28th, 2006
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Bobbi_sue ( member #10347) posted at 8:14 AM on Friday, January 5th, 2007

We mostly just talked for hours on the phone and it didn't mean anything. I don't remember anything that we talked about (No translation, just duh! )

We didn't have sex...it was not about sex (Why then did he choose this particular bar fly high school dropout? Many other women pursued him and he said "so and so doesn't do anything for me." I think that means "doesn't turn me on" so OW must turn him on. So yes, it is about sex.)

posts: 7283   ·   registered: Apr. 9th, 2006
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annben ( member #8703) posted at 12:16 PM on Friday, January 5th, 2007

"I can see now that you're never going to stop bringing things up. Maybe you should go screw someone yourself if it will help you get over things."

translation: "I am the world's largest idiot."

D-Day 11/01/05

You can't close the door when the walls cave in.

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scout ( member #3986) posted at 1:10 PM on Friday, January 5th, 2007

"I never would have left you"

Trans: I am a cakeman and having you and my fuck buddies works out great for me!

"She played me like a fiddle"

Trans: I am a helpless victim of a predatorial OW.

"We didn't do it that often"

Trans: Not as often as I would have liked.

"I thought you didn't love me anymore"

Trans: I sabatoged our marriage so I could rationalize my affairs.

"She didn't get anything out of me but sex"

Trans: See, I'm smarter than you think.

Scout, you got sand. ~DS

posts: 11742   ·   registered: Apr. 5th, 2004   ·   location: Solitary refinement
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blind-sided ( member #12240) posted at 3:24 PM on Friday, January 5th, 2007

My WW Quote: "It just kind of happened". ( although she chased him and seduced him !)

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dreamlife ( member #8142) posted at 4:07 PM on Friday, January 5th, 2007

"Babe, my life is truly an Open Book;you can check it any time".

( hehehehe, oh you dumb shit, BS! But, I am so fiendishly brilliant and clever.....)

"Sweetie, I love you, and ONLY YOU!"

(If I keep saying it often enough, maybe she'll really start believing it and get off my damn back...)

"I swear, I'll never do it again!"

(well, yeah, like for this minute in time...)

"You and me...WE are PARTNERS!"

"ILYMTLI"

(I love you more than life itself...yeah, right, you dumbshit BS!)

"SHMILY"

(See how much I love you?

Wow, if she believes that then I can sell anything...)

"I just can't remember..."

(It worked in court for the Mob, it'll work for me, too!)

"Wow, I don't wanna rattle her cage"

(because my XW knows what and who I really am and if you two meet or talk, she might tell you, too!)

"I swear, you are making much more out of this...that is why I can't remember...because the others never mattered; they never meant a thing to me!"

(And, when I decide to Move On , you won't matter to my sociopathic/narcissistic mind either...its cool to stay 'in practice')

"Sweetie, how can you say that to me? You know that I love you and that you love me...we are LIFERS!"

(and, if you believe that, you'll believe just about anything, sappy/diotic/foolish/kindhearted BS...

~~~~~~~~~~~~0~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

I woke up feeling very worried (about WH losing weight) and rather 'lost'/depressed...and then I FOUND this wonderful thread. It was really CATHARTIC, SI Family! LMAO

Well, I feel so much BETTER already!

Thanks, guys!

~XWH told me what I wanted to hear but he always did whatever he wanted to do~

"He called me a bitch.
I called him an ambulance."
Linda H.)

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lra90 ( member #9281) posted at 7:08 PM on Friday, January 5th, 2007

I just had to go over to her house and fix her dishwasher. Her husband didn't know shit about fixing things.

*It was a fantasy that she and I played out. I was the naked plumber and she was the poor helpless naked housewife*

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cjonesjag ( member #10617) posted at 2:10 AM on Saturday, January 6th, 2007

"I NEVER THOUGHT OF HER WHEN I WAS HOME"

Trans: I never thought of YOU when I was away from home!

Me (BS):50
Him(WTFH):51 Married: 05/26/2002
DD#1: 09/2005 (EA) DD#2: 09/2006
Mini-DDays: Many. Mostly online
DIVORCED 10/20/10
It's not what you've got, it's what you give.
It ain't the life you choose, it's the life you live

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scout ( member #3986) posted at 12:03 AM on Saturday, January 13th, 2007

Scout, you got sand. ~DS

posts: 11742   ·   registered: Apr. 5th, 2004   ·   location: Solitary refinement
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in_pain ( member #9768) posted at 12:19 AM on Saturday, January 13th, 2007

"it was a stupid mistake. it's in the past." (i did what i really wanted to do but it was a bad mistake that you found out about it. so just deal with it.)

"my feelings for her were not that strong." (i was in love with her and told her so.)

about gifts - "i gave her what i gave everybody else." (she is special. i gave her expensive jewelry.)

"she's a nice person" - she gave me undivided attention.

"she's non-judgmental" - she doesn't tell me i'm a screw-up (only cuz she doesn't know the kind of choices i've made).

i wanna be normal again.

posts: 902   ·   registered: Feb. 14th, 2006
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runoverbytruck ( member #11752) posted at 12:55 AM on Saturday, January 13th, 2007

"she's a good person...she has had a hard life...(she is young and screwed up and fucks other women's husbands)"

ROFLMAO! Good one soccemom.

O.K., I want to play! I want to play!!

"I wanted her to end it on her own." Translation: I was going to keep doing this as long as she let me."

"I 'thought' I loved her" Translation: I felt his strange "high" when she called me "Superman".

"She was 'nice'" Translation: She did whatever I wanted, whenever I wanted, for as many years as I wanted, no matter how stupid she was for doing it.

"She made me feel good." Translation: I fell for all the bullsh** she said about how perfect I was.

LTA BS

If you think the grass is greener on the other side, it's because it's fertilized with bullshit.

The best protection a woman can have is courage.~Elizabeth Cady Stanton

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