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"You weren't meeting my needs." (SHE never said no to me.)

"I wanted to tell you/was going to tell you about it many times"

Trans: Not really, I knew it was wrong and if I told you the truth, you'd make me stop....I was having so much more fun with her.

[This message edited by cjonesjag at 2:12 PM, January 1st (Monday)]

"I broke it off with her to be with you"

(trans: you should be grateful that I will cheat on you again somewhere down the line)

"I never stopped loving you"

(trans: I have enough "love" to go around/ alternate: I don't love anyone but myself)

"she admired me for someone who made her happy" (trans: she is so stupid she doesn't know how fucked up I am yet)

"she made me feel the way you haven't for a long time" (trans: Unlike you,she is a low life slut who expects no respect, no commitment, and no responsibility from me in return. How dare you?!)

"she admired me for someone who made her happy"

( She has no clue how selfish I really am)

"she wanted our 20 year marriage"

( I failed to mention I haven't been active in the marriage for the last ten years...)

"you can't tell me who I can be friends with"

(If I dump her, and you dump me, who is going to take care of me?)

Add

"you keep on making this just about yourself"

(trans: I am a Sociopathic Narcissist)

"I didn't want to lose you"

(trans: I will dick your life around as long as I can and lie, lie, lie to get what I want at your expense, STUPID)

"I did love her"

(trans:I don't know what love is, but I know saying it will get me some pussy)

edited: for greater accuracy in translations.

[This message edited by ghostofmyself at 6:24 PM, January 1st (Monday)]

I understand the needs to vent, but this thread is nothing but a trigger for me. Our perceived meanings can bring back some hard memories. Sorry to be a party pooper.

If I had known how much it would hurt you, I would never have had an affair.

I wonder how the hell you figured out I was having an affair.

It's your fault I had the affair.

Yes, I know it's my fault but I cannot admit it to myself.

I have never loved you. I cannot remember why I married you.

I am so in love with OM. He is my real soulmate.

OM told me that you were a lucky man.

OM wanted to get in my pants.

You don't make a decision to start an affair; it just happens.

I cannot believe I got caught.

We're just friends!.

I am so in love with OM.

"You ruined it for me"-I got busted because she didn't know I was married.

"She always asked why I was not married, I avoided the topic"-She's a dumb bitch, she fell for the lies too."

"Please don't harass her, she is going thru enough with her H right now"-Dumb bitch was looking for A and thought I was goining to be her sugar daddy.

There are some other good ones to, but gotta think a little more.

"Please don't harass her, her H is abusive and she is in danger"-

(Dumb bitch was looking for A and thought I was going to "rescue" her & WE would ride off into the sunset)

"She wants what you have"

(Um, that would be MY husband, MY life, MY house, MY friends... )

[This message edited by Lucky at 5:07 PM, January 1st (Monday)]

ooh! ooh! I have some!

"I just thought it would fade away and eventually stop" (I drove 3 hours to make it happen. I never told her I was married.)

"Are you going to wake up sad forever?" (Will you just get OVER this already?!)

"Yeah, like I'm the only person who has ever cheated. Lose the Pollyanna outlook, babe." (I take comfort in knowing that other people are scumbags too and you are the minority, added with a twist of superiority.)

"She would never have done this if she knew I was married." (So I conveniently never told her. Don't say mean things about my fuck buddies!)

((((((((((((cryingman))))))))))))

One more...

I promise x, y, or z

= I promise I will be better about hiding next time.

Ooh!! reminds me:

"it happened by accident"

(trans: I haven't thought that one out too carefully, give me a couple weeks and I'll gaslight you with a better load of crap!!!)

edited: for better accuracy in translations

[This message edited by ghostofmyself at 6:54 PM, January 1st (Monday)]

"You need to get into counseling."

"I've never given you a reason to distrust me."

"I swear on the Bible I never had an affair or kissed her."

"My relationship with her has absolutely nothing to do with our marriage and my relationship with you."

My relationship with her has absolutely nothing to do with our marriage and my relationship with you."

OMG, Suspiciousmind, I've heard that one too. DISGUSTING!!!!!!!!

I don't think I can love you the way you deserve to be loved

Trans: I emotionally checked out of my marriage but never said anything because I thought it would worked itself out.

She gave me attention that I wasn't getting from you

trans: It's all about me and always will be

"You backed me into a corner"; "I had to have SOMEONE to talk to"

Trans: I will blame you FOREVER for my indiscretion; also, the ever present...MY needs FAR OUTWEIGH the needs of our 'marriage.'

"You did not support me"-Translation You were too busy taking care of the house and kids while I was taking care of my dying mother to give me the attention I needed.

"You invaded my privacy"-I did not hid it good enough

"I was tired of sitting around the house and not doing anything"-I did not want the responsibility of the house and the kids

"She could talk to me"-She could talk dirty to me and send me dirty pictures

"She understands me"-Dumb bitch would understand anyone who she thought could get her out of her marriage and let her sit on her fat ass.

I think that is the best of the best from me.

Don't blame her, it's all my fault.

Trans; She liked my dick and I liked her vagina (It's in an e-mail they sent each other!)

After I went on a rampage calling her up, harassing her and telling her husband my Wh said to me

"Leave her alone she's scared shitless."

Trans. Keep bothering her because we will be more careful and fuck each other more than you'll ever know!

I don't know how on gonna be able to have a successful marriage with you always wondering what I'm doing or watching me every waking minute.

Trans. I can only keep track of so many lies and secret e-mail addresses, so maybe I need to get out of this "Horrible" marriage

ok, one more...when I told him I called his "text buddy"

"You called her? What did she say?"

Trans: - I know what SHE told me but...yikes...maybe she lied???"