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Healing Library nomination (again).

k41 sure tells it like it is (or at least was, for me) ... shortly after D-day, I just didn't know what was up or down, what to do, flailing, floundering .. reading this would have at least given me a reference point or two.

Thank you, thank you, thank you! I've been so afraid of making my WH angry with my depression, anger, wants, and needs. I haven't wanted to give him a reason to leave. Well, time to put the big girl panties on and tell him and show him EXACTLY what I feel and think! I think he's lying his sorry ass off STILL with regard to his past actions, and I'm not all that sure he hasn't been in contact with the OW.

Bumping for the weekend since TG was my DDay 2 years ago and I wish I knew then about this site and this post espcially.

Happy TG to all SIer's!

In hindsight I wish I'd have polygraphed his ass as soon as the fog lifted,it would have saved me months and months of torture.I would also have gotten a gps sooner and a var immediately...it proves honesty as well as dishonesty..

thanks for the bump belle and happy TG to you

I've just read down through this set of posts too, starting with the very first. My WW has not exhibited any of the signs of remorse and continues to live at the home of the OP. I was in the BS fog, but thankfully now that's clearing.

Great post. I too nominate this for the healing library. Wow, the nail was hit on the head.

This is still in my top 5 favourite posts. Amen, Katherine!

Wish I had had this on D-Day.

bumping up

Almost every day, certainly every time I read the JFO forum, there is some BS distraught and confused and wondering what to do, what to do, and when and whether what he/she has in mind is "fair" or "rash" or will it push the WS away more or help bring the WS back, etc., etc., etc.

And every time I read one of those posts, I think of katherine41's 20/20 Hindsight wisdom.

So I'm bumping for newbies again.

re-bump for newbies

another bump for newbies

bump

bump.

This is a game plan. A framework for when you're floundering.

I feel like I'm at a Disco with all this bumping going on!

In all seriousness, this is an incredible post for those who first arrive here. Even those who have been struggling for awhile. While K41 has had one of the bumpiest rides here, it is important to note that there is a lot of consistency in the experiences we all have had. K41 makes an important contribution here and I hope all new folks take it to heart.

Now if you'll excuse me. I'm going to put on, my my my my my Boogie Shoes.

Thanks, Moe. I'll do a little boogie with ya.

Seriously. . . many of us get a ton of disrespect from the fog-bound. Moe, I remember a certain birdhouse on your end? One that needed trashing?

I bump myself, over and over. . .

Bump for HS

Excellent post, Katherine! You've come a long, long way, girlfriend! Bravo!

Great post.

I think the list would be great for any counselor to review when BS came to them for counseling.