This Topic is Archived
			 
				    				purplejacket4 ( member #34262)		posted at 4:03 PM on Thursday, November 14th, 2013	
				Me: BS 50
Her: FWS 53 (both family med MDs; together 23 years)
OW: who cares (PhD)
Dday: 10/11: 11/11 TT for months; NC 8/12
Limboconsiliationish 
"band aids don't fix bullet holes" Taylor Swift
I NEVER mind medical ???		
	 	 			 
				    				Jpapageorge ( member #31800)		posted at 2:41 AM on Saturday, November 23rd, 2013	
				"Either get busy livin' or get busy dyin'." (and I prefer to live)
"Shame on me for kissing you with my eyes closed."
Spectemur agendo.
Me: FBBF		
	 	 			 
				    				tushnurse ( member #21101)		posted at 5:30 PM on Monday, November 25th, 2013	
				Me: FBSHim: FWSKids: 23 & 27 Married for 32 years now, was 16  at the time.D-Day Sept 26 2008R'd in about 2 years.  Old Vet now.		
	 	 			 
				    				painfulpast ( member #41038)		posted at 6:05 PM on Monday, November 25th, 2013	
			 
	
Fundamentally, it is all about personal empowerment and rebuilding your self esteem. It is not about manipulating your spouse and when this is not understood it interferes with the results. The goal of the 180 is to become the type of person that you want to be. 
 
 
 
	This is VERY important. While the outcome is often a WS that sees what they are giving up, that is NOT the goal. The goal is you becoming stronger, more self aware, and to regain some of the esteem that affairs rob us all of. 
 
			 			DDay - 12/2010
Fully R'd - I love my husband		
	 	 			 
				    				ascian ( member #40304)		posted at 2:19 PM on Tuesday, November 26th, 2013	
				Me - BH 41
Her - FWW 38
D-Day: 8/13
Reconciled		
	 	 			 
				    				Simple ( member #18814)		posted at 12:30 AM on Wednesday, December 4th, 2013	
				Love is a choice.
True love is harder to come by than soul mates.  True love requires work.  
Ignorance can be cured with knowledge.  There is no cure for being an idiot.
-October 3, 2007
-February 18, 2022		
	 	 			 
				    				ascian ( member #40304)		posted at 8:25 PM on Friday, December 6th, 2013	
			 
	Back to page one for the weekend. 
 
			 			Me - BH 41
Her - FWW 38
D-Day: 8/13
Reconciled		
	 	 			 
				    				Skan ( member #35812)		posted at 3:58 AM on Sunday, December 8th, 2013	
				Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.
D-Day, June 10, 2012
  		
	 	 			 
				    				Jrazz ( member #31349)		posted at 3:39 AM on Sunday, December 15th, 2013	
				"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." - Deeply Scared's mom		
	 	 			 
				    				Simple ( member #18814)		posted at 12:54 AM on Tuesday, December 17th, 2013	
				Love is a choice.
True love is harder to come by than soul mates.  True love requires work.  
Ignorance can be cured with knowledge.  There is no cure for being an idiot.
-October 3, 2007
-February 18, 2022		
	 	 			 
				    				Take2 ( member #23890)		posted at 1:01 PM on Sunday, December 29th, 2013	
				"We must be willing to get rid of the life we've planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us." Joseph Campbell...So, If fear was not a factor - what would you do?   		
	 	 			 
				    				Jrazz ( member #31349)		posted at 4:22 AM on Thursday, January 2nd, 2014	
				"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." - Deeply Scared's mom		
	 	 			 
				    				Simple ( member #18814)		posted at 1:06 AM on Saturday, January 4th, 2014	
				Love is a choice.
True love is harder to come by than soul mates.  True love requires work.  
Ignorance can be cured with knowledge.  There is no cure for being an idiot.
-October 3, 2007
-February 18, 2022		
	 	 			 
				    				Simple ( member #18814)		posted at 8:14 PM on Tuesday, January 7th, 2014	
				Love is a choice.
True love is harder to come by than soul mates.  True love requires work.  
Ignorance can be cured with knowledge.  There is no cure for being an idiot.
-October 3, 2007
-February 18, 2022		
	 	 			 
				    				Simple ( member #18814)		posted at 8:46 PM on Wednesday, January 8th, 2014	
				Love is a choice.
True love is harder to come by than soul mates.  True love requires work.  
Ignorance can be cured with knowledge.  There is no cure for being an idiot.
-October 3, 2007
-February 18, 2022		
	 	 			 
				    				tushnurse ( member #21101)		posted at 8:06 PM on Friday, January 10th, 2014	
				Me: FBSHim: FWSKids: 23 & 27 Married for 32 years now, was 16  at the time.D-Day Sept 26 2008R'd in about 2 years.  Old Vet now.		
	 	 			 
				    				brohl5 ( member #13440)		posted at 2:10 PM on Thursday, January 16th, 2014	
				I'm not going to let this define me anymore.  He's gone and I couldn't be happier. 
You couldn't have told me in July and December of 2006, but there really is a life after this mess. 
Breathe, just breathe.		
	 	 			 
				    				ascian ( member #40304)		posted at 7:30 PM on Wednesday, January 22nd, 2014	
			 
	bumping a bunch of these that had fallen off the front few pages. 
 
			 			Me - BH 41
Her - FWW 38
D-Day: 8/13
Reconciled		
	 	 			 
				    				HardenMyHeart ( member #15902)		posted at 7:52 AM on Monday, January 27th, 2014	
				Me: BH, Her: WW, Married 40 years, Reconciled		
	 	 			 
				    				Simple ( member #18814)		posted at 11:24 PM on Wednesday, January 29th, 2014	
				Love is a choice.
True love is harder to come by than soul mates.  True love requires work.  
Ignorance can be cured with knowledge.  There is no cure for being an idiot.
-October 3, 2007
-February 18, 2022		
	 	 
	 This Topic is Archived