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whymewhyus ( new member #44038) posted at 10:55 PM on Wednesday, July 16th, 2014
Anyone have success stories of doing the 180 while living with WH? Only thing I've got at this point to start detaching is sleeping in the other room and not making myself concerned with him, what he's doing and etc. It makes it a little difficult if you're under the same roof and I want to hold myself accountable but would love to hear from others who have experienced this and been thru it.
Me, BS, 30
Him, WS, 32
Married 5 yrs, together since '98. Yep, JR high sweethearts.
1 DD, 12
1st DDay 2/?/2010 EA/PA with coworker. Lasted about 4 mos.
2nd DDay 7/6/2014 EA/PA diff coworker- was going on for few mos. Unsure if it still is.
Tearsoflove ( member #8271) posted at 7:33 PM on Thursday, July 24th, 2014
"Just because I don't care doesn't mean I don't understand." ~Homer Simpson
Jpapageorge ( member #31800) posted at 4:05 AM on Sunday, August 3rd, 2014
"Either get busy livin' or get busy dyin'." (and I prefer to live)
"Shame on me for kissing you with my eyes closed."
Spectemur agendo.
Me: FBBF
brkn_heartd ( member #30396) posted at 1:17 AM on Tuesday, August 5th, 2014
Me-57 BS
Him 65-WS
Married 38 yrs, together 40
Affair Aug-Dec 09
official D-12/14/09
broke NC 1/31/10
second D 3/19/10
jjct ( member #17484) posted at 1:43 PM on Saturday, August 9th, 2014
Edie ( member #26133) posted at 8:31 AM on Friday, August 22nd, 2014
trying22 ( member #44592) posted at 8:12 PM on Friday, August 22nd, 2014
Going to read 180 every day and make it happen
jjct ( member #17484) posted at 5:01 PM on Wednesday, August 27th, 2014
trustedg ( member #44465) posted at 5:34 PM on Wednesday, August 27th, 2014
Thanks for the 180, I read it almost daily.
Me BWHim WH DDay 12/2012Married a long time, in R
brkn_heartd ( member #30396) posted at 2:44 AM on Thursday, September 4th, 2014
Me-57 BS
Him 65-WS
Married 38 yrs, together 40
Affair Aug-Dec 09
official D-12/14/09
broke NC 1/31/10
second D 3/19/10
Jpapageorge ( member #31800) posted at 11:34 PM on Friday, September 5th, 2014
"Either get busy livin' or get busy dyin'." (and I prefer to live)
"Shame on me for kissing you with my eyes closed."
Spectemur agendo.
Me: FBBF
yearsofpain25 ( member #42012) posted at 9:31 PM on Monday, September 8th, 2014
"I remind myself of this. I am a survivor. I have taken all this world has dished out and am still here. So there is no reason to be afraid. Whatever happens, I will survive. So now onto living. It is time for me to thrive." - DrJekyll
isthismynewlife ( member #43292) posted at 10:23 PM on Thursday, September 11th, 2014
Me 42 BS
Him 42 FWS
DDay #1 11/28/13 - 7 months EA/a little PA with my supposed friend.
DDAy #2 8/25/14 - oops - did I forget to mention that it was a 15 month PA/EA? He thought the first version would hurt me less.
Things are improving daily!
jjct ( member #17484) posted at 3:38 PM on Friday, September 26th, 2014
UpInTheAirNow ( member #37777) posted at 2:55 PM on Thursday, October 9th, 2014
ME 47
WW 52
DDay 6/13/12
Separated 3/13 and NC for my own sanity.
Married 17 years, together 27 yrs.
Tearsoflove ( member #8271) posted at 7:31 PM on Friday, October 24th, 2014
"Just because I don't care doesn't mean I don't understand." ~Homer Simpson
Jpapageorge ( member #31800) posted at 7:36 AM on Sunday, October 26th, 2014
"Either get busy livin' or get busy dyin'." (and I prefer to live)
"Shame on me for kissing you with my eyes closed."
Spectemur agendo.
Me: FBBF
crushedgrapes ( member #45096) posted at 3:52 PM on Sunday, October 26th, 2014
Thanks for the clarification.
I was doing the 180 ( more or less ) on my own before I found this site.
Some things seem contradictory to recovery attempts. But I'm finding recovery is not linear.
Me BS Age 53
Him WH Age 52
DDay Aug 8 0214
DS32 & DS21
Married 24 yrs, together 31yrs
Edie ( member #26133) posted at 2:19 PM on Thursday, October 30th, 2014
mchercheur ( member #37735) posted at 12:26 AM on Sunday, November 2nd, 2014
Me: BW; Him: WH --Had 10 mo. EA/ PA with COW; Dday 5/2011 Married 35 years/Together 36 years/4 kids together, and 1 grandbaby; OW 20 years younger than us/divorced no kids Trying to R; don't know what the final outcome will be
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