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usedup ( member #11701) posted at 6:18 PM on Thursday, December 17th, 2009
thank you..my holiday messages are so hallmark worthy...I'm sure they are gonna call me any day for the rights to this 
deathbybetrayal ( member #22478) posted at 3:57 AM on Friday, December 18th, 2009
You can't deal with "normal" marriage issues until you deal with the fallout of the affair. That's like lighting a Yankee candle right before company comes, but totally ignoring the steaming pile of dog crap laying on your carpet.
Miss Lauryn's comment in R referring to a MC's comment about an A being a symptom of an unhappy marriage and how the couple needed to work on those issues. 
Married 10 years at DDay
Me: 53 Him: 52 - Desperately trying to unfuck the donkey.
DDay: July 16, 2008
FWH Epiphany: Aug.23, 2008 NC: Aug. 28, 2008
usedup ( member #11701) posted at 7:51 PM on Friday, December 18th, 2009
unfound responding about a new member's ws condom box purchase
*how many are in a box? I'm picturing like shoe boxed sized. we don't buy condoms, obviously
Miss Lauryn ( member #25631) posted at 3:40 PM on Wednesday, December 23rd, 2009
Miss Lauryn's comment in R referring to a MC's comment about an A being a symptom of an unhappy marriage and how the couple needed to work on those issues.
Actually, you have it backwards. I said that the couple needs to clean up the affair issues BEFORE they can work on old marriage issues.
Sorry if that was unclear.
deathbybetrayal ( member #22478) posted at 3:45 PM on Wednesday, December 23rd, 2009
"couple needs to clean up the affair issues BEFORE they can work on old marriage issues."
I get that and totally agree with what you said. The for the stupid MC having it in reverse. Just thought your reference to "pile of dog shit" was hilarious.
Married 10 years at DDay
Me: 53 Him: 52 - Desperately trying to unfuck the donkey.
DDay: July 16, 2008
FWH Epiphany: Aug.23, 2008 NC: Aug. 28, 2008
unicornsearcher ( member #912) posted at 1:49 AM on Tuesday, December 29th, 2009
Fallen does it again!
http://www.survivinginfidelity.com/forums.asp?tid=330907&HL=25022
Relief, it's not that the A resulted in something good happening.
It's that you chose to make something better than what the A left you with.
You could have sat in the shattered pieces of your old marriage & lamented the loss without trying to heal.
Instead you allowed your WS to help you pick up those pieces & rebuild.
It's an amazing thing to go through something so horrible and to find a way through it together.
11/02 Busted WH 4+ cheating yrs, 11/06 Busted [Month Long Lustfest]. 2/1/08 admits false version of betrayals, so no full disclosure / "whole truth" yet. '09 Together, great work in progress. '12 Still gladly united.
lingerdog ( member #24459) posted at 3:47 AM on Wednesday, December 30th, 2009
Can someone explain to me the mechanics of this thread? Like are post to be quoted restricted to certain boards?
What lies behind us & what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us.
Oliver Wendell Holmes -Stolen from Uni's page
jjct ( member #17484) posted at 3:51 AM on Wednesday, December 30th, 2009
in devtutor's MLC myth or reality? thread
http://www.survivinginfidelity.com/forums.asp?tid=333006&HL=19862
coasterrider asks;
Anyone else wish it'd been a red sports car and a Greek sailor's cap?
willowiris ( member #5372) posted at 3:27 AM on Thursday, December 31st, 2009
I don't know what's worse - the pain of infidelity or the crappy poetry that it inspires in APs
Hurtbs in a thread in which a member shared the OW's poem. 
D-day 09/2004
Filed for divorce 9/2006
We accept the love we think we deserve. "The Perks of Being a Wallflower."
wifehad5 ( Administrator #15162) posted at 12:32 PM on Thursday, December 31st, 2009
Wait... people internally censor what they say before it comes out of their mouth? I need to look into that.
Hurtbs on a thread about those days when you feel like saying exactly what you're thinking
[This message edited by wifehad5 at 9:51 AM, January 1st (Friday)]
FBH - 52 FWW - 53 (BrokenRoad)2 kids 17 & 22The people you do your life with shape the life you live
FaithFool ( member #20150) posted at 12:28 AM on Friday, January 1st, 2010
I just noticed I was quoted on here back in February.... 
I'm honoured.
DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire
FaithFool ( member #20150) posted at 12:31 AM on Friday, January 1st, 2010
I'm as happy as a bird with a French Fry.
ajsmom today talking about her STBX being away.
DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire
Jen ( member #26584) posted at 9:30 AM on Tuesday, January 5th, 2010
Look for the good ...
challenge the bad ...
enjoy most of your days ...
never forget to be glad ...
My mom sent me this plaque wall hanging thingy with this on it ... 
"When your work speaks for itself don't interrupt." Mark Twain
"People often say the motivation doesn't last. Well, neither does bathing - that's why we recommend it daily."
Zig Zigler
"Use the right word not it's second cousin."
Mark Twain
"No pessimist ever discovered the secrets of the stars, or sailed to an uncharted land, or opened a new heaven to the human spirit."
Helen Keller
[This message edited by booger bear at 4:59 AM, January 5th (Tuesday)]
Me former Booger Bear ...
https://youtu.be/1TcLw3TOIN8
Hand Me Down MatchBox 20
https://youtu.be/iFdOAyyn76M
Love Falls by HellYeah
Miss Lauryn ( member #25631) posted at 6:48 PM on Tuesday, January 5th, 2010
All these men who say they have affairs because their wives are shabby housewives. Yes I imagine they are watching OW clean the hotel room when they check into sleazy hotels on their lunchbreaks. Surely she is titilating him by showing him how well she can handle a Swiffer and vacuum perfect lines in the carpet..because you know..they aren't getting their domestic "needs" met at home and have to get it elsewhere.
Hmm perhaps instead of spending all that money wining and dining their OW and buying her thong panties and anal lube, they should hire a maid to bring home so BS can join in on the fun and watch her scrub the oven!
Yes ladies! Grab your feather dusters and toilet cleaner and your man will NEVER stray.
Evil Kitty on WH using "You don't keep the house clean" as an excuse for affair.
HeartbrokeHope32 ( member #17247) posted at 7:00 PM on Tuesday, January 5th, 2010
OMG i'm so honored...i was quoted back in september...
hb's reply to newyears question about what the odds are of a marriage going long term with out cheating...
well i have been married 8 years and half the people in my marriage have never cheated...so I'm thinking 50%?
[This message edited by HeartbrokeHope32 at 1:01 PM, January 5th (Tuesday)]
me-29
him-28
Dday-11/07/07
"What lies behind us, and what lies
before us are small matters
compared to what lies within us."
- Ralph Waldo Emerson
hexed ( member #19258) posted at 7:03 PM on Tuesday, January 5th, 2010
You're about as good or sensitive or caring as a horny badger on crack. How the fuck do you even find the time to chase down all these other women?! Don't you have a job? I mean other than a blow job.
a classic clueless blonde vent. this will live with me forever. thanks CB
But that's just a lot of water
Underneath a bridge I burned
And there's no use in backtracking
Around corners I have turned
“Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves - regret for the past and fear of the future.” -foulton oursler
neverendinghurt ( member #15859) posted at 8:02 PM on Thursday, January 7th, 2010
Star727 in her thread about telling her H that it was over.
"I'm excited! Can't wait till he leaves so I can get a puppy."
The life of every man is a diary in which he means to write one story, and writes another; and his humblest hour is when he compares the volume as it is with what he vowed to make it.
James M. Barrie
devtutor ( member #21134) posted at 9:55 PM on Thursday, January 7th, 2010
The reason that your intellect can cause problems is, well, to put it one way, "when your only tool is a hammer all your problems look like nails."
TrulyReconciled in this thread:
http://www.survivinginfidelity.com/forums.asp?tid=334394
authenticnow ( member #16024) posted at 10:23 PM on Friday, January 8th, 2010
You can't pull a straw out of your husband's eye, when you have a sequoia tree log in yours.
Floridaredman's wise words to a WW who is angry at her BH for smoking pot, while she continues to break NC.
[This message edited by authenticnow at 4:24 PM, January 8th (Friday)]
DS, you are forever in my heart. Thank you for sharing your beautiful spirit with me. I will always try to live by the example you have set. I love you and miss you every day and am sorry you had to go so soon, it just doesn't seem fair.
FaithFool ( member #20150) posted at 9:51 PM on Thursday, January 14th, 2010
there are thugs in the Healing Library
Typo in JFO today... 
DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire
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