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I can see why this post has 44 pages of replies to it... PURE GOLD, BABY! 3 weeks after DDay, this has done more to restore my self esteem and get my mind on what I want. Brilliant post, truly.

That is spot on!!

The OW in my case was a broken woman incapable of having a meaningful relationship with anybody. WS was as used as she was. She is a very ugly individual, especially inside. She dumped WH as soon as she found another f**k.

I however, have my pride, morals and self esteem still intact.

Thanks for the reminder, after an emotionally tough day, I can still feel like a winner.

A lot of the time these women are just totally desperate for a man. That was the case with the OW in my case. Any man who is gainfully employed is a target.

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this post totally needs to always be permanently plastered like a sticky at the top of the newbie/just found out forum

so true in so many ways I am truly in a better mental place having read this after a hard weekend

(OW showed up at our home sat nite trying to introduce herself to my kids 6,8,10 and talk to my WH who finally had the courage to ignore her for a week)

OMG did he affair down

I have been on here for a while. This is the first time I have seen this thread. I am at the point where I really pity the OW. But, if I was a newbie and still totally pissed at the OW...I would send her a copy of what we know the OW to be.

But, don't worry ladies. They know every day what they are. They must be miserable everyday of their lives if they are willing to be easy for a married man.

Not only did our fWH affair down...the OW lives her own self-induced KARMA every time she wakes up and continues to destroy herself. She has no self-esteem. No self-confidence. No self-worth. No moral values. No integrity. It can't get much worse than that. That must be Hell.

There are 3 OW that I am aware of with some major flirtations thrown in amongst them. Two were definitely PA, the other (OW3) I am not sure about but my GOD the women was hideous (I wish it was appropriate on SI to post pictures but obviously I can't). OW1 was my dearest friend and next-door neighbor of 15 years, PA had been going on for 5 years. After much counseling and healing it is obvious to me that both ex H and OW1 are sociopaths. OW2 who my ex is now living with (along with her 3 kids) is a very odd looking woman to put it kindly. Hardly someone you would risk your marriage for but who am I to judge anymore .

Last month my eldest son got married and Sir Shagalot brought OW2 to the wedding. I was inundated with people coming up to me, people I had never met, saying "WTF!". She basically looks like a guy with a very pronounced jaw. Even my kids have asked their father what he sees in her. Apparently the answer was "looks aren't everything". Well yes this is true. I guess ugly and sociopathic must be the new trend in couple matching.

Let it be said that I have yet to hear of an AP who isn't a complete train wreck. Even 3 years past D-Day I am still perplexed by this.

EJ

[This message edited by Ellejay at 1:30 AM, February 27th (Thursday)]

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Good Stuff,

Unless your WW, was the OW in the affair....what does that say about a husband's wife, that had an affair with a MM?

I've asked her, "How is it, you held me to one standard, but you let this individual use you, as an object?" How could you say, "I love you to a man that was cheating on his wife? In fact, you knew he had a history of multiple affairs and he even went so far as to laugh at it?" How did you feel knowing you were just one of his mistresses? And this was a man, you gambled with our life and marriage over?

I have read this so many times in a row I've lost count. Love this.

BUMP! Love this post!

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I love this! OW is an alcoholic (per her STBXH) and leaves her kids 5 and 3 year old kids unsupervised while she goes picks up WH to take her to her house (we live across the street from one another until her house sells, so he doesn't drive there, bc apparently they are not seeing each other....yeah right!)

I saw this quote of FB today (I dont know how to insert a pic into the thread)

"most people mess up something good,

looking for something better only to end up with something worse"

I have to hold onto this tonight tonight. My self esteem is at a bit of a low ATM. OW is about 14 years younger than me, (I think skinnier) and hasnt had 6 babies ...

I want to bump this thread. I don't have self-esteem issues related to the OW per se, as she is a hot mess and I'm not. However, she is almost 14 years younger than me and that makes me feel depressed at times. Two things helped:

1. I compared pictures of myself at the same age with pictures of her. No problems there.

2. She has a partial plate from falling down and knocking her front teeth out when she was drunk (she is 31).

I won't list all the other things that are wrong with her here, as I feel like it's shooting fish in a barrel.

They're not Ms. Right, they're Ms. Right Now.

All I can say is AWESOME and THANK YOU!!!!

I turned on the television this morning and the cable defaults to a particular channel. This morning @5:30 AM, one of those television judges, Paternity Court, summed up AP...

"He has a GF/W/SO and you are nothing but the sidepiece willing to do anything so that you can become the GF/W/SO".

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I think I'll have to come back and read this again and again. It's killing me comparing myself to her.