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tulipcitymadman (original poster member #28660) posted at 5:24 PM on Sunday, July 11th, 2010
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cuckhold ( member #25015) posted at 7:30 PM on Sunday, July 11th, 2010
Haven't been down the divorce road...yet and don't have younger kids involved hence the question. Isn't there such a thing as filing for "seperate maintainence" in Mi. If so wouldn't that remove her from your house?
Does she want custody? If you answered this previously I apologize. I didn't see it.
glasvegas ( member #22639) posted at 8:10 PM on Sunday, July 11th, 2010
I don't understand why you are begrudgingly setting up the pool. If your opinion is that you cannot afford it, then tell the kids that and don't let her use them against you. If you can afford it, then do it, but for the kids, not for her.
One thing I was not clear on...are all of the kids from previous relationships? Do you have any kids together (biologically speaking)?
andyd1950 ( member #20018) posted at 8:16 PM on Sunday, July 11th, 2010
Hang in there !!
No matter what she says or does, in the end you'll be alot better off without her ruining your life.
Take care !
BS (me) - 61
fWW (her)- 57
Married 39 years March 17,2012
Forgiving, that's easy.
Trusting again, that's hard.
Forgetting, impossible!
"When you take things for granted, the things you are granted get taken away."~ RevRun.
tulipcitymadman (original poster member #28660) posted at 8:21 PM on Sunday, July 11th, 2010
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andyd1950 ( member #20018) posted at 8:41 PM on Sunday, July 11th, 2010
As long as it's for your kids. She deserves nothing from you.
As for the bill's, even though it doesn't look like it now, that will work out too. Once she's gone and you have custody, she's going to slip up and bring him around, things will get better.
Don't worry about the lawn, I've killed mine a few times and it always comes back. 
BS (me) - 61
fWW (her)- 57
Married 39 years March 17,2012
Forgiving, that's easy.
Trusting again, that's hard.
Forgetting, impossible!
"When you take things for granted, the things you are granted get taken away."~ RevRun.
MadhatterMama ( member #26953) posted at 6:15 PM on Monday, July 12th, 2010
Wondering how your STBXWW likes her new van?
"The sun never says to the earth,
'You owe me.'
Look what happens with a love like that.
It lights up the whole sky."
-Hafiz the Poet
You will never know how strong you really are until you have no options but to be strong...
BetrayedSAHM ( member #27305) posted at 7:02 PM on Monday, July 12th, 2010
I was wondering, too, how things are going there TCMM.
Totally divorced and moved on. Life is fantastic
DS(9) & DD(9)
Dday: 1/1/2010
tulipcitymadman (original poster member #28660) posted at 12:46 AM on Tuesday, July 13th, 2010
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socold ( member #17400) posted at 1:32 AM on Tuesday, July 13th, 2010
Mmmmmmmmghf..... want.. to.. use... the.. C-bomb.
Damn man, how inconsiderate of her. She seems to have her head lodged WAAAAY the hell up there. I'm really enjoying the thought of her coming to realize that's her new family truckster.
But (wet blanket mode on) I do worry that it's a bit off the 180 path to be investing so much into making her feel shamed (which, please don't get me wrong, I am loving to death). Ya know what,... I was going to continue with that, but screw it. She's being a bitch, and you deserve that sound system. I can envision the kind of princess ho she is walking around like. How terrible man, but someday you will be free of all of this and she will have some very real lessons to learn about life. Hope your 6 months in messed up STBX world goes quick. What a crappy law.
(me)fBH 35
D-Day Dec 9, 2007
D final Oct 19th 2010
crazycatlady ( member #12849) posted at 1:49 AM on Tuesday, July 13th, 2010
Thank God your children have one parent.
Stay strong...justice is coming.
Love all, trust a few. Do wrong to none.William Shakespeare "All's Well That Ends Well"D-Day: Nov 30, 2006"For I have sworn thee fair, and thought thee bright, who art as black as hell, as dark as night." William Shakespeare
tulipcitymadman (original poster member #28660) posted at 2:50 AM on Tuesday, July 13th, 2010
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Ciao_Bella ( member #9952) posted at 1:27 PM on Tuesday, July 13th, 2010
I am through with funding her affair, I think I am being more than fair by getting her reasonable and safe transportation while she goes out every night and fucks another man!
Amen to that! No reason to defend your actions. You have been more than fair with her.
Me (BS)Divorced from WS. He was diagnosed NPD by two Psychologists. He continued his affair with married OW for 13 years until he died in Oct 2011.
Two sons; 29 & 27 years old; I'm remarried
HowMany ( member #24506) posted at 2:28 PM on Tuesday, July 13th, 2010
I don't get it. Perhaps it's the practical side in me but doesn't she even see how this is going to end for her? I'm flabbergasted that she hasn't tried to get a job. Weird! 
She sure does have her head stuck up there REALLY high.
Your actions speak so loudly I can't hear a thing you're saying.
It must have been like throwing a hot dog down a hallway with all the room in there. - Runorstay
MadhatterMama ( member #26953) posted at 2:50 PM on Tuesday, July 13th, 2010
Is it just your name on the Sable? I'm really concerned she will try to steal it back from you. Did you take the key off her keyring? How hard is it for a dealership to change the keys altogether?
Her psycho-ness in regards to this matter worries me because she sees that car as HER territory and I believe she will fight dirty for it.
"The sun never says to the earth,
'You owe me.'
Look what happens with a love like that.
It lights up the whole sky."
-Hafiz the Poet
You will never know how strong you really are until you have no options but to be strong...
tulipcitymadman (original poster member #28660) posted at 3:02 PM on Tuesday, July 13th, 2010
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BetrayedSAHM ( member #27305) posted at 3:11 PM on Tuesday, July 13th, 2010
Wow - she really is full of cake, isn't she?
Totally divorced and moved on. Life is fantastic
DS(9) & DD(9)
Dday: 1/1/2010
Holly-Isis ( member #13447) posted at 3:20 PM on Tuesday, July 13th, 2010
She told me that I was treating her like a 2 year old, and she was sick and tired of me trying to control her! (WTF?)
If you could control her, she wouldn't be whoring herself w/ that loser.
Why do they always claim we control them? If the BS could control the WS we would NEVER have become a BS!
"Being in love" first moved them to promise fidelity: this quieter love enables them to keep the promise. *CS Lewis*
FaithFool ( member #20150) posted at 3:23 PM on Tuesday, July 13th, 2010
TCMM, that's priceless. She reacted exactly as you thought she would, and now she's pissed.
Any judge looking at this situation has got to see this for what it is.
I mean, come on.
"Madam, you want him to leave the matrimonial home why exactly?"
I hope this doesn't go sideways, but stranger things have happened.
Be prepared.
DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire
crazycatlady ( member #12849) posted at 3:29 PM on Tuesday, July 13th, 2010
She has no earthly idea what is coming her way.
Love all, trust a few. Do wrong to none.William Shakespeare "All's Well That Ends Well"D-Day: Nov 30, 2006"For I have sworn thee fair, and thought thee bright, who art as black as hell, as dark as night." William Shakespeare
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