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Diver Down 2; The Sequel

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aliveagain ( member #25751) posted at 1:13 AM on Friday, July 2nd, 2010

tcmm is there anyone in her family questioning her behavior, if so, are they doing anything about it?

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BetrayedSAHM ( member #27305) posted at 2:06 AM on Friday, July 2nd, 2010

TCMM - you are doing so well. Congrats on a good meeting with the FOC. I'm so glad that the 'No third party contact' clause has been included in the order.

There's a dive shop near my home and every time I drive by I think of you and say a prayer.

Like some of the PPs, I suspect that the OM is going to get a whole lot less interested in your WW once he realizes that she's going to be almost entirely dependent on you for support and her life is not going to be all about the big house with the pool,etc.

I'm sure that's small comfort, though, as the damage to the marriage is already done.

Take care of yourself.

Totally divorced and moved on. Life is fantastic
DS(9) & DD(9)
Dday: 1/1/2010

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 tulipcitymadman (original poster member #28660) posted at 3:20 AM on Friday, July 2nd, 2010

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BelieveThis ( member #5124) posted at 2:55 PM on Friday, July 2nd, 2010

TCMM, you are doing everything right! Continue on this way with your kids and in the end, they will love and respect you for what you have done for them! I know it's hard, but you seem to have it all under control, which is probably driving your STBX, crazy! And the fact that you have her sister's support is something that speaks loud for you! Proud of you!

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 tulipcitymadman (original poster member #28660) posted at 4:22 PM on Friday, July 2nd, 2010

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BelieveThis ( member #5124) posted at 6:00 PM on Friday, July 2nd, 2010

Isn't it fun, you just give them a little bit of rope and they hang themselves! They are so out of touch with reality and believe that what they are doing is right, and that everyone thinks that what they are doing is right. But the truth is, everyone is standing back and watching this, with total disbelief!

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aliveagain ( member #25751) posted at 6:04 PM on Friday, July 2nd, 2010

The scrunchie on her pony tail is too tight.

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toby ( member #10337) posted at 6:08 PM on Friday, July 2nd, 2010

I am tired of just waiting for the ninja-bitch to jump out of a cloud of smoke and fu-jack any plans that I have made by taking the kids away at the last minute or promising something and then bolting just before.

"Ninja-bitch"

That's it!!!!! From here on out, we'll refer to your WW as NB! 

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 tulipcitymadman (original poster member #28660) posted at 7:19 PM on Friday, July 2nd, 2010

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circe ( member #6687) posted at 3:01 PM on Saturday, July 3rd, 2010

tcmm, I'm really impressed with the way you've handled this for yourself and your children. Were I you, I don't know if I could have handled things nearly so well!

I find your wife's behavior so bizarre and like others, wonder if she has an undiagnosed psychological issue. I've been around this website for years and of course I've read so many bizarre WS behaviors I shouldn't be surprised by anything anymore.

But I'm wondering what your WW's tone of voice is when she's saying these things to you? Does she have any inflection in her voice when she's asking you for money, or about fixing dinner for your children, or telling you she's going to be out with the dive douche all day? Or is her tone as "flat" as it comes across in your writing? If so, it seems so out of touch with reality it's almost scary!

Everything I ever let go of has claw marks on it -- Infinite Jest

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 tulipcitymadman (original poster member #28660) posted at 4:22 PM on Saturday, July 3rd, 2010

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 tulipcitymadman (original poster member #28660) posted at 3:53 PM on Sunday, July 4th, 2010

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aliveagain ( member #25751) posted at 4:27 PM on Sunday, July 4th, 2010

Let mommy explain why she doesn't come home, let her do her own dirty work. It will be over soon,hang in there.

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Chunk ( member #8189) posted at 6:16 AM on Monday, July 5th, 2010

Be sure to document all of her disappearing acts. Hopefully, it help to prove that your the caretaker.

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BetrayedSAHM ( member #27305) posted at 5:40 PM on Monday, July 5th, 2010

Like Chunk said, she's building your custody case for you.

I know it must suck, though, so (((TCMM))).

Stay strong.

Totally divorced and moved on. Life is fantastic
DS(9) & DD(9)
Dday: 1/1/2010

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 tulipcitymadman (original poster member #28660) posted at 1:30 AM on Thursday, July 8th, 2010

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HowMany ( member #24506) posted at 2:29 AM on Thursday, July 8th, 2010

Hang in there, this too shall pass.

Question: Is the 'good' car in your name only?

Your actions speak so loudly I can't hear a thing you're saying.

It must have been like throwing a hot dog down a hallway with all the room in there. - Runorstay

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TNK4563 ( member #24923) posted at 10:25 AM on Thursday, July 8th, 2010

Why doesn't she just get OM to get her one, after all, they are engaged. Why should you suffer?

Side note:

Where I live, you can call fire and they'll come dump their tank for you. Maybe you could slip a line to your neighbor's faucet. I know, not funny.

Me BH 46
Her FWW 41
2 DS 19 & 18
Married 20 years
Reconciled

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tushnurse ( member #21101) posted at 6:54 PM on Thursday, July 8th, 2010

Hang in there. The Karma bus is coming, and when it stops, she's gonna be one miserable woman.

(((((and strength TCMM))))

Me: FBSHim: FWSKids: 23 & 27 Married for 32 years now, was 16 at the time.D-Day Sept 26 2008R'd in about 2 years. Old Vet now.

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socold ( member #17400) posted at 12:07 AM on Friday, July 9th, 2010

Wow man I really feel for ya. She's gone loony-tunes and you are forced to have a front row seat

You're doing great and keep it coming. You will be so much better once you can see this as being in the past.

(me)fBH 35
D-Day Dec 9, 2007
D final Oct 19th 2010

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