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aliveagain ( member #25751) posted at 3:34 PM on Tuesday, July 13th, 2010
Just remind her that your divorce is proceeding and as soon as she is with her new husand, he can buy her a nice car of her choice.
FaithFool ( member #20150) posted at 3:36 PM on Tuesday, July 13th, 2010
The only thing that might enrage her more would be 'SLUT' vanity plates... but that would be wrong.
DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
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to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire
aliveagain ( member #25751) posted at 3:45 PM on Tuesday, July 13th, 2010
I think you have gone the extra mile for a woman who has stopped being your wife last Xmas. A woman who is actively dating other men and having unprotected sex with them, as well as bringing them to your home in front of your children. This girl is fu*ked in the head.
perfectstorm ( member #28178) posted at 5:50 PM on Tuesday, July 13th, 2010
"Madam, you want him to leave the matrimonial home why exactly?"
Because, Your Honor, he bought me a car to replace the one I had that died! And, he gave me money for gas, too! Can't you see how he's trying to hurt me? And control me?? What kind of man does things like this, I ask you??
She is completely clueless, isn't she? What, exactly, does she think is going to happen in 6 months?
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Me: BS - 45
Him: FWH - 60
D-Day #1 - Oct 18, 2009
D-Day #2 - Jan 2, 2010 (false R after D-Day #1)
Reconciling
feelinghurt10 ( member #28600) posted at 6:15 PM on Tuesday, July 13th, 2010
Please, TCMM ... you have to write a book ... a best seller! This shit is just too much!
The only thing that might enrage her more would be 'SLUT' vanity plates... but that would be wrong
Or would it be???
Me- BS-51. Dday #1 4/3/2010 ; Officially divorced - 10/26/2012"No matter what happens, or how bad it seems today, life does go on, and it will be better tomorrow." ~Maya Angelou
hexed ( member #19258) posted at 6:46 PM on Tuesday, July 13th, 2010
remember there is in no I in team but there is a "you" in slut
But that's just a lot of water
Underneath a bridge I burned
And there's no use in backtracking
Around corners I have turned
“Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves - regret for the past and fear of the future.” -foulton oursler
neverwood ( new member #25410) posted at 7:04 PM on Tuesday, July 13th, 2010
I love the 2yr comment, I have come the realize they are 2yrs. My wife was also a SAHM with a part time job, I burden most if not all the bills, and house, duties. Its not enough for her, she was bored, she went on vaction to NY without me, she went to places and fucntion's without me because I had to work, and it was not enough just like a kid she wanted more. Then started the A and kept it going for over a year. They ar
neverwood ( new member #25410) posted at 7:04 PM on Tuesday, July 13th, 2010
I love the 2yr comment, I have come the realize they are 2yrs. My wife was also a SAHM with a part time job, I burden most if not all the bills, and house, duties. Its not enough for her, she was bored, she went on vaction to NY without me, she went to places and fucntion's without me because I had to work, and it was not enough just like a kid she wanted more. Then started the A and kept it going for over a year. They ar
anhedonia ( member #27031) posted at 8:59 PM on Tuesday, July 13th, 2010
perfectstorm said it best:
Because, Your Honor, he bought me a car to replace the one I had that died! And, he gave me money for gas, too! Can't you see how he's trying to hurt me? And control me?? What kind of man does things like this, I ask you??
And I would add, "He comes home from work every night, cooks dinner for our three children, then spends his evenings with them while I go whoring in a trailer park with a slack-jawed yokel. He's an ogre!"
aliveagain ( member #25751) posted at 9:11 PM on Tuesday, July 13th, 2010
Don't forget to add that she has to ride him bareback because her husband won't spring for the rubbers, what a bad husband. It's probably one of the nicest vans in the trailer park.
andyd1950 ( member #20018) posted at 11:56 PM on Tuesday, July 13th, 2010
I can hardly wait to hear what happens when it finally dawns on her that she's going to get screwed by the courts even better than by the OM. What a Christmas present that will be.
BS (me) - 61
fWW (her)- 57
Married 39 years March 17,2012
Forgiving, that's easy.
Trusting again, that's hard.
Forgetting, impossible!
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tulipcitymadman (original poster member #28660) posted at 12:08 AM on Wednesday, July 14th, 2010
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Thera77 ( member #28841) posted at 12:16 AM on Wednesday, July 14th, 2010
Wait, OM "let" her keep money that you gave her and YOU are the controlling one? I'm confused.
Guess $40 isn't that big of a swing for a guy who lives in a trailer park.
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Dday: 9/15/09 TT & limbo 'til 10/19/09 + 'pregnancy'
R'ing
Cheating on a good person is like throwing away a diamond and picking up a rock.
jjct ( member #17484) posted at 12:40 AM on Wednesday, July 14th, 2010
Please keep a VAR around at all times.
anhedonia ( member #27031) posted at 12:48 AM on Wednesday, July 14th, 2010
Record all of this!!!
I would worry that she's planning on "running into" him at the ice cream shop.
It would be just the type of thing those two idiots would plan. And then she'd tell your children to lie about it "because Daddy's so mean"
I'd probably follow her...but then I'm paranoid.
consfusedstate ( member #24276) posted at 1:39 AM on Wednesday, July 14th, 2010
What exactly does she expect her lawyer to do? It's your car, in your name, that you paid for, -AND- you provided her with a safe alternative form of transportation. The only thing wrong with it is that it's a minivan. Does she think she's a princess?
Ciao_Bella ( member #9952) posted at 1:54 AM on Wednesday, July 14th, 2010
What a freaking drama queen!! She's spoiled and ungrateful, but that will come to an end soon enough.
I LOVE the part about "Tim" letting her keep the money you, her husband, gave her!! Wow, was that revealing. How big of Mr. Scuba Diver to let his married girlfriend keep the cash that her husband gave her. I hope you have that on tape.
Ciao
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Two sons; 29 & 27 years old; I'm remarried
BelieveThis ( member #5124) posted at 2:21 AM on Wednesday, July 14th, 2010
This is almost priceless, the way your taking charge of this entire situation! Man, my hat is off to you!
Your doing great! Keep it up!
latebloomer45 ( member #18021) posted at 2:32 AM on Wednesday, July 14th, 2010
TCMM:
I'm going to go against the thread trend...
Although I am loving this story as much as the next guy, I do wonder if the courts will see it the way you do.
The fact is, she was driving the other car. The old minivan died. Without consulting her in any way shape or form, you bought another car. (we all know you bought something she'd hate on purpose, but the courts will never know that-not mind readers). You locked her out of the car she was accustomed to. Again, without any discussion with her. Despite all her horrible behavior, you are still married. A judge might not like the way this looks.
In the world of fair and what's right, I agree with you, what you did was perfectly fair and right. (and poetic justice for sure!) But I CAN see the courts seeing it as you being a bully. I'm not saying you should do anything different at this time, just maybe tell your attorney next time you talk and be prepared to have it spin against you.
I do hope I am wrong. I support you 1000%.
As to the poster who said follow her to the ice cream shop, I agree. Sounds like she's setting up the asshole to be "fun daddy" but she is NOT to let them be around him yet. I'd LOVE to have you catch her at that! (Except I don't want the kids to go through that, KWIM?)
Hope you are doing all right and taking care of yourself, too. Look forward to your future-it HAS to be better than this shit.
And as to OM "letting" her keep the money? What a bizarre thing to say! Hope you had it on VAR.
Me: BS 56
Him: FWS 58
Married 32 years
Son-26 Daughter (Who Came out as trans, so now Son)-23,
D-Day #1 12/11/2007
D-Day #2 5/23/2008 fucking trickle truth!
Whatever Threnody said, I concur.
Darkness Falls ( member #27879) posted at 2:45 AM on Wednesday, July 14th, 2010
I think you were generous to buy her a vehicle, period...ANY kind of vehicle. Just curious: when your D is final, will you have to put the vehicle in her name?
Married -> I cheated -> We divorced -> We remarried -> Had two kids -> Now we’re miserable again
Staying together for the kids
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