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tulipcitymadman (original poster member #28660) posted at 3:10 AM on Saturday, September 25th, 2010
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PhoenixReborn ( member #22135) posted at 3:06 PM on Saturday, September 25th, 2010
I know it is not nice to wish evil on a person --- but I have to say that I am looking forward to hearing about her being a sobbing, whining, pleading mess about 2 weeks after the D is final and she has to move into the trailer and start her glamorous new life.
Amen to that!
It is a very likely outcome TCMM! Count on it happening, so you may want to think about what your reply will be - prepare!!
A lovely response that smells like a rose, but has that sharp thorn underneath maybe?
PR
Me - XBF 40 (Fiance)
Her - XWF (who cares)
# Always trust your Gut - I didn't and am now regretting it. #
-Only give up when you won't regret giving up.-
glasvegas ( member #22639) posted at 3:28 PM on Saturday, September 25th, 2010
I have to admit that I am waiting with much anticipation to hear what happens in the next phase of your divorce...
Not just because of schadenfreude for your STBX, but because you are doing so great TCMM.
tulipcitymadman (original poster member #28660) posted at 4:11 AM on Sunday, September 26th, 2010
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devistatedmom ( member #24961) posted at 4:21 AM on Sunday, September 26th, 2010
{{{{{{hugs}}}}}} to you TCMM. From the first time you posted here, you have sounded like a wonderful man. Please don't mourn the loss too heavily on yourself tomorrow. Feel what you need to feel, as we all have. But know, that you are better off without someone that doesn't give a crap about you or your feelings.
BS(me) 46, Two wonderful teens.
He is no longer my best friend. Repeat until it sticks.
WH says marriage is over: May 15, 2009.
EA#2 July 20, 2009. Legally sep: Aug 16, 2009. DIVORCED!!!! Signed Nov 23, final Dec 24, 2010, adultery listed.
metamorphisis ( member #12041) posted at 4:22 AM on Sunday, September 26th, 2010
tulipcitymadman
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Go softly my sweet friend. You will always be a part of who I am.
tulipcitymadman (original poster member #28660) posted at 4:28 AM on Sunday, September 26th, 2010
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tulipcitymadman (original poster member #28660) posted at 4:33 AM on Sunday, September 26th, 2010
I guess that will just put a cherry on everything. Thanks.
FaithFool ( member #20150) posted at 5:01 AM on Sunday, September 26th, 2010
DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire
aliveagain ( member #25751) posted at 5:06 AM on Sunday, September 26th, 2010
TCMM, sorry about your anniversary. Just remember, when all is said and done you will still have integraty, she will still be a lying, cheating tramp for the rest of her life. She will wake up one morning and look at the chunky hairless wonder laying next to her, sorry, I guess he does have hair on his ass, and wonder what happened. Have you ever seen a marathon runner in their 60's, yea, just my point. Find yourself a nice full breasted and committed woman, someone comfie to lay next to, someone that doesn't put her hair up in a pony tail. Imagine being out with someone you are actually proud to be with again? I think this is the real her, the tramp she has hid from you all these years, the one you will have to appologize to your children for at some point in the future. Thank God she revealed herself to you while you are still young enough to find a hot babe to replace her with.
No more dealing with stitch, cramps, blisters, achilles tendinitis, plantar fascitis, gastrointestinal disturbances(acts like a jet engine when she runs, not as much fun when a sheet is pulled over your head), skin leasions, amenorrhea. The more she runs the more guy hormones she gets, that explains her attraction, never mind, don't want to discuss his jello belly. So what has he to look forward to, inner ear barotrauma, pulmonary barotrauma, arterial gas embolism, and of course decompression sickness, which will give him dysfunction of the spinal cord( can you say Quasimoto), brain and lungs. What a perfect match for each other, they can have sex in an iron lung some day. What I am trying to say is she may have saved your life by her selfishness. Rejoyce, you are young enough that you will meet a woman that will treat you the way you deserve to be treated. As you grow old together you can argue about who is going to force the children to visit their nut case mother in the trailer park, and who will actually have to drive them there.
tulipcitymadman (original poster member #28660) posted at 11:40 AM on Sunday, September 26th, 2010
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sherman ( member #27018) posted at 1:37 PM on Sunday, September 26th, 2010
TCMM,
Why don't you spend today thinking about what you want the next twelve years to be like, for you and your kids? How old will they be then? Where do you want them to be in their lives? How can help them get there?
Where do you want to be? What kind of people do you want to be with?
It's all open to you now.
17 years out from Dday, but sometimes I still feel stuck in the Wayback Machine.
MadhatterMama ( member #26953) posted at 4:28 PM on Sunday, September 26th, 2010
TCMM,
I hear the pain in your words and my heart hurts for you. You seem to cling to her cruel words in an almost sado-masochistic way. Please don't forget that she is a LIAR. The things she screamed at you were LIES intended to hurt and maim since she cannot face the ugly truth of her real character flaws. Don't embrace her lies. I know it is hard because you (naturally) have so much self doubt, but for the sake of yourself and your family, don't allow her words - said in weakness and evil - to become truth in your mind. Reject her poison and hold your head with dignity. The TRUTH is that she DID love you. You were NOT just a paycheck. Really look into your heart and mind and you will KNOW this is true!
(((Hugs)))
"The sun never says to the earth,
'You owe me.'
Look what happens with a love like that.
It lights up the whole sky."
-Hafiz the Poet
You will never know how strong you really are until you have no options but to be strong...
FaithFool ( member #20150) posted at 6:36 PM on Sunday, September 26th, 2010
What MHM said is totally true. You're so mired in her shit you can't smell the truth.
I can't imagine how difficult it is to get yourself out of the pit, you but can and you eventually will.
It's all open to you now.
This says it all.
BIG HUGE HUGS to you today.
DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire
circlingthedrain ( member #25733) posted at 8:14 PM on Sunday, September 26th, 2010
TCMM,
Big man hugs to you today. I've followed your story from the beginning. You are one strong guy who is standing up for his kids. Look at today as the 1st anniversary of your freedom from lies and a path towards happiness. Strength to you and your your kids.
BH (me), 53
FWW (Her) 55
DD18, DS15
D-Day 12/23/2007
R going well
Wish I didn't know now what I didn't know then --- Bob Seger
hexed ( member #19258) posted at 8:55 PM on Sunday, September 26th, 2010
((TCMM))
wow-she's a winner being gone all night.
shoot. she probably won't remember what today is until she sobers up today.
i'm so sorry, the first anniversary post dday is so hard. we were still trying to R when that happened. what a painful day.
take care of yourself
But that's just a lot of water
Underneath a bridge I burned
And there's no use in backtracking
Around corners I have turned
“Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves - regret for the past and fear of the future.” -foulton oursler
aliveagain ( member #25751) posted at 11:43 PM on Sunday, September 26th, 2010
So why be there when she gets home, take the kids out for pizza or something, be missing in action. If she calls, don't invite her to join you.
cantbelieve ( member #22028) posted at 12:38 AM on Monday, September 27th, 2010
How do I explain where mom is to them?
TCMM, how old are the kids? Is there a reason to keep protecting her image? She obviously puts herself first, so why not let the kids know what is going on. Let them know that mommy is in love with OM and that you are getting a divorce. They don't need to know the details, but they do need to know that mommy is only interested in herself.
Me: BS (61)
Him: WS (61)
LTA 4 years with co-worker
DS(30)
DD(26)
DD(23)
Married 32 years
D-day1 5/08
D-day2 11/08
Status: 6 yrs and wondering if I'll ever be truly happy again
notgonnabreak ( member #26699) posted at 12:41 AM on Monday, September 27th, 2010
You should be proud of the father you are. And your children are so lucky.
My anniversary was the 10th and I marked that day with my kids. If I never married Rat Bastard, my kids would never be there.
You have the best of her - your kids. Her OM has the worst. Celebrate your children. I have no doubt they will grow up into loving, caring adults in spite of their mother.
As far as her being gone - do they really miss her? Mine don't miss Rat Bastard. My kids are actually happier that there are no more lies or drama in the house.
tulipcitymadman (original poster member #28660) posted at 3:43 AM on Monday, September 27th, 2010
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