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still-living ( member #30434) posted at 12:13 AM on Thursday, October 31st, 2013
Didn't want to give up, and just living was in consideration.
standingonmarble ( member #31217) posted at 12:28 AM on Thursday, October 31st, 2013
After D-day, I saw an image of a man trying to stand on marbles. Of course you can't stand on marbles and that was how I saw fWH at the time and how he really was. I didn't want to reinforce anymore weakness in myself so I choose standing on marble as a way to encourage strength in myself.
At one time he was a man standing on marbles. Now I am a woman standing on marble.....
We are done fighting with each other and decide to fight FOR each other.
SerJR ( member #14993) posted at 12:38 AM on Thursday, October 31st, 2013
I used the five digit passcode for MangleHeart's luggage...
Me: BH - Happily remarried.
Hope is never lost. It exists within you - it is real. It is not a force in and of itself - it is something that you create with every thought, action, and choice you make. It is a gift that you create for yourself.
jjsr ( member #34353) posted at 1:42 AM on Thursday, October 31st, 2013
I tried another name and couldn't get on the site, so I just put my initial, his and both my sons
Me: BS
Him: WS
Married since 1985
Parents to 2 adult sons and 3 of the cutest cats you have ever seen
D-day 8/6/11 Truth about ONS and 9/21/11 Truth about EA and 10/28/15 NEW dday.
Just surviving.
BeautifulEmpty ( member #38763) posted at 3:13 AM on Thursday, October 31st, 2013
So many mysteries come to light! Yay!
Mine is pretty simple. I'm beautiful and it's never mattered one bit. Inside...outside...two different men in marriage and I wasn't enough for either of them.
Now, I'm empty because it's really hard to stay human after 20+ years of almost constant fuckery.
Hopefully I won't always be this way.
Me: 44 BS
Him: 40 FWS
Ow: 47 head case, no obs
5 DD's: 23, 20, 19, 17, 12
Last D-day: August 2012 with lots of very blurry lines.
traditoperanni ( member #32660) posted at 4:37 AM on Thursday, October 31st, 2013
I tried "betrayedforyears" but it was taken. So, I used the Italian translation. Ciao
Me- BS (63)
Him-WS (63)
M- 42 yrs
dday#1 11/09, Dday #2 10/11 and many since
P.A.'s - too many to count
LTA's too many to count (one for 37 yrs)
escorts etc- way too many to count.
Broken heart- too many times to count.
R- Getting bet
brokendancer7 ( member #39911) posted at 6:13 AM on Thursday, October 31st, 2013
The "broken" part is obvious. :( I have danced most of my life, - ballet, tap, theater, etc. I thought "broken dancer" was kind of a word play on "break dancer", although my old ass can't break dance at all! I just like the number 7.
WhatsRight ( member #35417) posted at 11:22 AM on Thursday, October 31st, 2013
"Noone can make you feel inferior without your concent." Eleanor Roosevelt
I will not be vanquished. Rose Kennedy
BAB61 ( member #41181) posted at 2:05 AM on Sunday, February 2nd, 2014
My youngest called me Boss Ass Bitch when I confronted STBX after my girls discovered his cheating. I was born in 61.
Boss A** B*tch
BS/52 Me, STBXpos/56, dd's 16&14
1st D-day 10/19/2013 EA/PA
2nd D-day 12/7/2013 LTA/Rendezvous
S 12/7/2013 No-fault state, 6 mo S, counting down the days.
shiloe ( member #1224) posted at 2:43 AM on Sunday, February 2nd, 2014
Shiloe is the name of my horse.
But remember, good love is hard to find . . -Tom Petty and the Heartbreakers
BS - 58 Dday 03/2011
Cheater -58 Married 26 yrs
DD - 23 DD -21 DS-19
A#1 2000 with married ho-worker/neighbor ow#1
A#2 2007-? OW#2 LTA- new MCOW D-2/17
scarednbroken ( member #41961) posted at 2:50 AM on Sunday, February 2nd, 2014
Because I am scared of WH, my future, and what will happen.... He has broken our marriage vows, and I'm finally broken down and giving up on him...
BS: Me 47 WH: 54 Kids: 17, 19, 21, 32 DD: every yr Ow: tons Status: fed-up. A woman should never invest in a relationship she wouldn't want for her daughter, nor should she allow any man to treat her in a way she would scold her son for
Chippednotbroken ( member #40170) posted at 2:52 AM on Sunday, February 2nd, 2014
I was hurt but not so much that I can't be repaired. Working on on it.
Me 34 (former BS)
Happily Divorced November 17, 2014.
3 young kids all under 9.
"I'm sorry you don't like my honesty. But to be fair, I don't like your lies."
Trying2Survive1 ( member #40022) posted at 3:16 AM on Sunday, February 2nd, 2014
I was just a few weeks out from Dday and was pretty sure I wanted to try to work on the marriage, but still feeling devastated.
Madhatters, M 37yrs, many DDays
Both 60's, he now has stage 4 bladder cancer and in remission.
We're in solid R, there is hope!
Stop right there: I already don’t give a fuck ~ ty Greeneyesbluezy
phoenixrise ( member #41745) posted at 4:12 AM on Sunday, February 2nd, 2014
Greek mythology...the Phoenix a bird gets destroyed and dies by fire then rises from the ashes and is reborn/ renewed...seemed appropriate being that it feels like he really burned me to my death living through all this...but I'm hopeful I will rise from the ash restoring my former glory and beauty 
"The grass is greener on the other side because of all the shit that is used to fertilize it"
Him: WH after 8 yrs M...wow to think he held my hand during labor twice
Me: thought I was a cool loving wife
D Day: 7 mos ago RIP soul
meplusfour ( member #38958) posted at 4:55 AM on Sunday, February 2nd, 2014
When I first found SI, I considered my family to consist of myself and my four children. I love them dearly and I kept going only for them.
BW (me)42
WH 44
3 daughters, 1 son
Married 10 years, together 13
DDay 3/14/2013, four year PA
In R
"Sometimes you have to accept the fact that certain things will never go back to the way they used to be."
ProbableIceCream ( member #37468) posted at 5:06 AM on Sunday, February 2nd, 2014
I used a random username generator because I didn't want the username to have any possible link to me.
Well.. I did cheat a bit. I selected the one I found the most amusing out of several.
purplejacket4 ( member #34262) posted at 5:28 AM on Sunday, February 2nd, 2014
It's a combo of my high school mascot and my college colors. The 4 was because Gmail already had purple jacket 1-3?!? 
Me: BS 50
Her: FWS 53 (both family med MDs; together 23 years)
OW: who cares (PhD)
Dday: 10/11: 11/11 TT for months; NC 8/12
Limboconsiliationish
"band aids don't fix bullet holes" Taylor Swift
I NEVER mind medical ???
lostandhopless ( member #41568) posted at 6:54 AM on Sunday, February 2nd, 2014
Found SI within a Day or two of Dday and moving out.. Just how I felt...
Mostly not so lost and have found hope again...Yay..
Be careful who you trust. Even your shadow will abandon you when it's dark.....
Divorced 6/13/14
StruckNumb ( member #38973) posted at 7:06 AM on Sunday, February 2nd, 2014
I've had a lot of early childhood trauma and as a teen identified with the Pink Floyd song, "Comfortably Numb." outside of early abuse (by someone I had lived with then, not my parents), my dad was also a serial cheater. when mom would find out the world became like that song to me. Unreal. Surreal.
I thought I had left such type trauma way behind until I was struck numb again by encountering the email that proved my husband's affair. A very weird moment. It was like I was in the corner of the room watching my body read it.
[This message edited by StruckNumb at 1:18 AM, February 2nd (Sunday)]
me-BW-51
f?WH - 49
m27 yrs, T 28, no kids
OW-WH's former CW, friends + 20yr
DDay-11/16/12, LT EA, 4y? PA, manymany
EA with FFriends over the years
Attempting R
Is there an end to blindness in sight?
Flourgirl ( member #40937) posted at 10:01 AM on Sunday, February 2nd, 2014
I stress bake. My kids teachers and my neighbors get lots of treats.
BS me 39
WH him 40
Dd 7/1/13. TT 7/22/13
SAHM with 4 wonderful kids
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